Reason for wanting are having children
By silverfox09
@silverfox09 (4708)
United States
October 23, 2012 3:45pm CST
Do you ever think our need for wanting children is not just about love and starting a family but more a animal instinct we cannot control , its in our nature ?
Like lower animal cannot stop from mating at certain time because its in their nature .
What do you think ? Is it something we really need are is it just our instinct ?
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Oct 12
Hi silverfox
I wouldnt say that it is merely out of the instincts. There is always something which has been passed onto us since generations - get married, have a family, have kids and we have accepted that as a norm for us. Defy this and eyes go staring and doubting you.
Mating is a different thing and producing babies is different - going by the various birth control methods, the facilities for those who have problems in bearing a child, it has all got so mixed up. But if it would have been just that primate need, maybe we never would have any of these contraceptive methods.
I would say it is our own desire and prerogative to decide if we want to have a baby or not - and it has almost nothing to do with just instincts.
I wouldnt say that it is merely out of the instincts. There is always something which has been passed onto us since generations - get married, have a family, have kids and we have accepted that as a norm for us. Defy this and eyes go staring and doubting you.
Mating is a different thing and producing babies is different - going by the various birth control methods, the facilities for those who have problems in bearing a child, it has all got so mixed up. But if it would have been just that primate need, maybe we never would have any of these contraceptive methods.
I would say it is our own desire and prerogative to decide if we want to have a baby or not - and it has almost nothing to do with just instincts.@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
24 Oct 12
I have am curious because I see people get depress when they cannot have a child of their own . Yes its the norm for wanting kids and family but why is it that way .
When I came up with this question I was remembering what God say about go forth a multiply so is it something bigger than us , that makes some of us get depress when we cannot achieve it .
I have seen some people that I think should never have a child because they are abusive person but still they think they deserve to . Maybe you are right thought , it may not be just instinct .
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Oct 12
As I said, we are taught and brought up - kind of fed this deep in our brains - that our life is incomplete if we do not have a kid. By the time we reach the age to re-produce (legally), this has got into our brains so deep that when this fails, it does seem that we are incomplete and have failed to accomplish a mission or the basic purpose for which we are here on earth.
Yes, I agree that there are many - I would also extend the list and not confine it to abusive people only - like the ones who are so very poor and begging almost all their life - I mean they cannot even take care of themselves and then they bring some more into the world to follow their pursuits. But then, as I think, it is deep rooted in them too.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Yes its something deep inside of us , some woman worrying that their biological clock is ticking and all that .
Yes no matter how poor a person may be I think they cannot control their need for wanting children even if that child will suffer 
. Something we may not have any control of .
. Something we may not have any control of .
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
I think humans have an inborn tendency for self-preservation. The reason why we marry and have kids (or just have kids) is to procreate. We have this need also to care for someone and not just ourselves.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
27 Oct 12
I guess so , we dont want to go extinct any day soon 
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Yes we think about getting married and have children , I agree it must be inborn and also the way of life around us .
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Yes we think about getting married and have children , I agree it must be inborn and also the way of life around us .
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Oct 12
The reason that I always knew that I wanted to be a mother is because of the fact that I've always had a soft spot for children. In addition to that, I also wanted to be able to share all of the love that I have in me with my own flesh and blood. For this reason, I think that our reason for wanting to have children is based on instinct. However now that I'm a mother of my own two biological children, I would love to be able to adopt a child and I think the reason for that is simply because of the fact that I still believe I have a lot of love to give.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
27 Oct 12
I have a soft spot for babies also , I love their innocent smile and brutal truth . You sound like a lovely mother , from all your post that I have seen 
. I hope you will have the opportunity to adopt and share your love with another child one day .
. I hope you will have the opportunity to adopt and share your love with another child one day .