(THE WITNESS) To tell the truth or not or leave it ?
By Magz1989
@Magz1989 (271)
Philippines
October 24, 2012 3:26am CST
I witness a scene that i know will destroy someones family, relationship and reputation? then what should i do? should i tell that i saw her husband cheating on her like my husband did to me or i will just pretend to see nothing for that,s their life anyway. We are friends of the wife because i am her child god mother, and his husband is a classmate of my husband. When i saw my husband cheat on me ...i also seen her husband with my husband cheating also with her. I don't want to just bragged her up because i was also cheated but GOD knows i really saw her husband with another woman just like mine...everyone pitied me but i have move on. But what about her...she doesn't know anything...she is still blind of his husbands doing...his husband got another family and his husband is not supporting her due to that fact. But she still believe in him no matter what other says. I am afraid she will just called me a liar if i say to her the truth. What should I do? Should i tell or not? or just leave it?
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11 responses
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
You are really in a very hard position. But I think you just have to observe. Do you think that what you saw is really a mistress? Maybe it's a cousin of a friend or an office mate? be sure. And if ever you'll tell your friend, be sure that you have a good evidence. Because your friend might not believe you immediately, ofcourse, she will ask her husband first for confirmation and the husband can deny because her wife doesn't have enough evidence. And worst, you can be the bad person at the end because they may think that you ruined their relationship. I think you should gain some evidences first. I hope you could help her. Nobody deserves to be cheated specially if she is a good woman. She doesn't deserve her husband.
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THAT'S!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tell your friend then. It's much better with evidence like a picture or a video.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I agree with the other mylotter SIMPLD, you may use other sim card number to text your friend.
It is better that way to avoid misunderstanding.
Sometimes our good deeds do not always turn out good to others, so better do it the safest way.
Observe your friend, maybe she already knows about it since her husband is not supporting them.
It's very unusual that the husband is not supporting his family and the wife remain silent right?
So, assume there maybe an agreement between the two- unless the wife is what we called martyr.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
24 Oct 12
I think that if you see something happen and you are asked about it in the future then you should always try to tell the truth unless you have a very good reason not to do so. The only reason that I would say that you wouldn't tell the truth is if your life would be at risk if you did so. A lot can be at risk when you're asked important questions like this, so it means that you really do have to tell the truth. If something happened to you and you were relying on a witness, you would want them to tell the truth so that you could get everything sorted out.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
In my opinion, you would be in an awkward situation indeed if you tell your friend. That's because she might say you are just telling her that , because you want someone to experience the same experience that you had.
Maybe you can just text her using another sim card , telling her the facts that will her to discover what her husband is doing.
Or maybe she already knows about it, because he is not supporting their family as you said.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
I think, our conscience will bother us, if we are not able to let her know, in one or another, his husband's infidelity. So we have to devise of something, that will not reveal our true selves. 
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
It's better to tell the truth. She's your friend and she deserves to know the truth, and who will tell her but her friends. But it's difficult so it's understandable if you just choose to not say anything. But definitely don't lie!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 12
Big chance she will call you a liar or say you are just jealous but... if you are real friends you have to be honest to her. There is no need to tell her details just what you saw. It's up to her to decide what she will believe or invest or ask her husband how or what.
Ofcourse there are many ways how you can say something. For example ask her who the lady (describe her) was you saw with her husband at ... day. If she is his sister or ...
Also you should remember this very well: it is not you who will destroy the family or families, it is NOT you who is destroying the relationship and also it is NOT you who is destroying the reputation. The one who is cheating is destroying everything! He should have know better, it's him who has to be blamed and it's him who is way too coward to tell his wife he is finished with her and want to be with someone else.
@deazil (4723)
• United States
24 Oct 12
She may already know but is in denial. That is something very hard to admit to yourself, that your husband is cheating on you. If she doesn't know, others here have given you good advice. Maybe she will talk to you about it at some point. If you don't tell her and she finds out you knew she may be upset with you. On the other hand, if you tell her she may still become upset with you. It's a difficult situation you're in, for sure. I don't think there is an easy answer for this.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
24 Oct 12
Kinda tough, But the best thing is to tell the truth. If you are asked to. Have a great day there.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
If you're afraid that your friend won't believe you, then gather evidences first of her husband cheating on her before telling her so you can support your story with facts.
