When disappointment strikes...
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
October 27, 2012 10:49am CST
In this life, we'll always experience being disappointed by people. Not because they're failures nor they are simply uncaring. It's just that we are all flawed. And since we have sets of expectations, we are really bound to be disappointed one way or another. There are things we never thought will be done to us or will happen which we never expect to happen. Or, there are people who will do things we never thought they'd ever do.
What if one day you find out that one of your closest friends got pregnant? You never thought she's capable of falling into that kind of situation but she did. How would you react? Would you still accept her? Will there be judgment or questions in your head how did she come to that point?
6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
We should not judge any person. If your friend is going through some difficulties in hr life, isn't it important for you to be there and support her? Absolutely no room for judgment. She needs all the love, care and understanding that she needs. She may not have done a wise thing, but more than anything else, she will need a friend beside her in times like these.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
I agree, this is the time that they need us the most. We should be a friend not only in times that are convenient for us but specially during those difficult times.
@GemmaR (8517)
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27 Oct 12
I think that it can be very hard when we are disappointed by things. One of the worst parts of it is that we had been expecting something nice to happen, and then it just turns out not to be the case and that is something that is relatively difficult to deal with. But I think that the thing that you need to do is to try and find something good out of every situation, because then you might see that you can see things on the brighter side rather than just thinking about the things that have gone wrong for you that day.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
I agree, like they say, there's no use crying over a spilled milk right? Other people would just live in the past after having the biggest disappointment in their lives. Some would even want to end their lives leaving their families and loved ones grieving. I think that like you've said, having a positive outlook in life could greatly help someone overcome those disappointments. It will also take a lot of maturity to be able to continue your life after facing a huge disappointment in life.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
Disappointment comes almost everyday. I guess we have to react to it based on the situation. If, for instance, I sent my car to get cleaned and it turned out to still be a mess, I'll get disappointed and send it back and negotiate for a lower payment. It's all based on the situation.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
Yes, and it also depends on the person involved. Sometimes, some people are exaggerated. Their reaction are usually overboard. Like in the situation you've given above, every individual will have different reactions when this situation happened to them. Some would just return the car and yes, would negotiate to lower the payment but others would call the manager or the owner and would complaint. Some would even talk nonsense to the staff just to express their disappointment. I think that how we disappointments will tell what type of person we are.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I think that all of us have experienced disappointments in our lives. There could many reasons- not having to pass an exam, broken promises, stagnant expectations... But how should we really handle if disappointment strikes us? I know that the pain of not having to see the fulfillment of a certain expectation can ruin a person's life. He may feel trapped in this situation and would no longer hope and continue with his life. Should we really think that we actually failed our life just because we we're not able to accomplish a certain expectation? I think not. Instead of blaming ourselves, we should always have a positive mindset and make a back up plan for everything. We should not focus on our failures but look for a solution for those. I think that life will not stop if you failed on something.
With regards to your question, I think that as an initial reaction, I will be shocked to know that she's pregnant especially if she is the last person on earth I would expect to be in that type of situation. But I don't think it can be a reason for me to forget our friendship and thinking that this is the time that she will be mostly needing my support as a friend. Especially if the guy who got her pregnant will not be willing to take his obligations. I might ask her questions but will try my best not to be judgmental. I too make mistakes.
But if you guys are both Christians, this behavior falls into immorality and so this friend of yours will surely be subjected to disciplinary actions. God expects his servants to be morally clean.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
28 Oct 12
we need to maintain calm,i would reject her for sure and there is no second thoughts about it for sure
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
27 Oct 12
you should not worry your head about your friends betraying your trust or proving false to you and your morality. people change. viewpoints change. societies change. maybe they no longer share the same values as yourself. you should move on with your life and try to see the positive and good aspects in your life. if they chose to have bad things happen to them, you have a duty to make them aware of it but it is not your right to judge them.
