I just dont like you
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
Calgary, Alberta
October 28, 2012 12:18pm CST
They always say to be true to your self but now I am all about tolerance, There is a person whom work with, this person is a good person but this person gets on my nerves. There is no jealousy going on but I just cant stand this person's presence. I tolerate this person because as said this one is really nice its just that we are so different from each other. I managed to be patient but I need to release my annoyance to this abomination of a presence and I just realized mylot s the best place in that. This person have no idea that he/she/it, (I wont tell you more info to this person)
As they say there is a thing called chemistry and I have no chemistry with this person at all and this is someone I wont see as my friend.
for sure its weird to be annoyed by someone nice, But work place is like a mylot discussion, there are people who will get into your nerves. Thanks for listening because I need to release this annoyance. This is just a secret between you and I.
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13 responses
@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
Actually i don't know how to put it but i admire the way you reacted to this person despite the animosity you felt towards him/her. That is, despite your position that give you an edge over this person you are not using your authority over him/her to make up for whatever you feel. If only all bosses would have the same disposition as you do. Only, it would really not be very easy working along with someone you are not really comfortable with
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For your action
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For your action.2 people like this
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
I wont do it in Facebook and Twitter though cos I am public in those places.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
I wont abuse my power because its going to be childish of me.I am also tired of making enemies, so I rather keep my annoyance to my self or keep it to mylot. No one will know anyway. 
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@marguicha (216271)
• Chile
30 Oct 12
THere is such a thing as chemistry as I see it (and feel it). It`s not only through the words that you learn about people: the is also a body language that we pick up without being concious of it. I have felt that towards some people as I have also felt attracted to others.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
1 Nov 12
The only reason why I am posting it here, to release the anger without people knowing. Well you know my anger but you dont know me so everything is harmless.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
30 Oct 12
I learned to be more patient now and its really a good thing that I can act as professional and as calm as I can be even though I am boiling already inside. Anger is not a good thing/
@leateagee (3667)
• China
29 Oct 12
Wecannot please every one and so not all people can please us too. We choose whom we can relate to very well. Others choose those whom they can use, whom they trust, whom they can play with, whom they feel comfortable or for short, whom they have a good chemistry. We all have this people in our work place. Just try to avoid them and make sure you don't cross path with them. 
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
No way i can avoid this person, I am their mentor,LOL but dont worry I wont do anything bad to this person. Just expressing my frustration here in mylot secretly, Everything will be fine. Thank you for listening to my secret, You know everyone in the office thinks I am just chill, they didn't know I still get annoyed and irritated. so this is my way to release the tension and anger so once I get back n the office, I wll be nothing but professional.
@GemmaR (8517)
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29 Oct 12
I think that there are a lot of times in life where we just don't like the person who we're supposed to be friends with even though we can't think of a reason for that dislike. I know that when I was in college, my best friend had another friend who would always hang around with us and I really didn't like her. This wasn't because she had done anything wrong as such, and I honestly couldn't think of a reason for it, I just knew that I didn't like her and that the two of us were never going to get on as people.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
One of the reason me and my girlfriend broke up recently, I dont like her friends and they dont like me. I also have a friend who have a friend that I dont like for no reason at all, It could be personality or just genetics. Its hard to explain why we dislike certain people when we dont really have reasons but what important is I wont hurt them and cause them harm as they dont do anything bad to me even if they annoy me.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
29 Oct 12
I know what you mean, there are some people who you know you really should like. They just seem to be the nicest people in the world. But there is just something unsettling about these people. There is just something about them that just rubs you the wrong way. You can't put your finger on it, but it is there. It is frustrating, but they are there.
It's just that some people out that just can rub you the wrong way. Maybe it was me some of those times. However, there are just going to be people who are going to get on your nerves, for seemingly no reason whatsoever. It's just going to happen, regardless of what's going to happen. I find myself racking my brain why someone annoys me. There are just some times that they just do rub you the wrong way.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
Thats why my picture s not my avatar, I wont reveal my face so I can talk trash about certain people in my life without them knowing it.
@mychattime (1013)
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28 Oct 12
Ahhh your not alone, there is someone i work with that really bugs me, they are also a very nice person but get on my nerves! Like you I am tolerant of them because of being professional.
We can rant and moan to each other, this site is fab for geting stuff of your chest so to speak :-)
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
28 Oct 12
well I am nice to that person and I dont want to be a bully but that person is really annoying. I think the person I talk about just happen to be different. I wont confront that person because that person do nothing bad to me, as I said he/she is a nice person that happens to be annoying.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
6 Nov 12
Ii must admit that I meet people that I cant stand . I dont like being around them , for some reason . I remember one of my cousin friend that came to his house while I was staying there, I got so annoyed seeing him .
He always get on my nerve especially when he try being my friend because I know we normally hate each other . At that time though we were both in high school , now we both traveling he gone back to America . Happy he is not around but I know there will always be other people that will get on my nerve .
Goes to show We never really leave high school , life is just the same .
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
6 Nov 12
I also have cousin with friends I cant stand. Then I also have ex girlfriend with friends that I cant stand. Its hard to explain why we dislike them, pretty much we just don't do. They said its bad to be fake, but sometimes its a good thing cos we wont hurt feelings.
Then I also have ex girlfriend with friends that I cant stand. Its hard to explain why we dislike them, pretty much we just don't do. They said its bad to be fake, but sometimes its a good thing cos we wont hurt feelings.
.@topffer (42156)
• France
29 Oct 12
Have you already a pet piranha in a little aquarium
? You can kill anybody you want in imagination, but before becoming a psychopathic serial killer, you should think at this quote saying that "to lose an enemy is a great loss".
Seriously, I think that everybody needs to "let the steam go out of the pressure cooker" times to times. If myLot is the right place for you, don't hesitate.
? You can kill anybody you want in imagination, but before becoming a psychopathic serial killer, you should think at this quote saying that "to lose an enemy is a great loss".
Seriously, I think that everybody needs to "let the steam go out of the pressure cooker" times to times. If myLot is the right place for you, don't hesitate.1 person likes this
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
If I am blood thirsty, would have joined the Military or something. I know a lot of people who lost ther jobs because of confessions they post in Twitter and Facebook. I did use my real face as an avatar for like few days until decided to be anonymous. I know that if I will spill something on the web, I will also protect the person I am trashing as well. I say nothing but nice things n facebook and Twitter cos I am public there. Some of those people who annoys me are my facebook friends.
I know a lot of people who lost ther jobs because of confessions they post in Twitter and Facebook. I did use my real face as an avatar for like few days until decided to be anonymous. I know that if I will spill something on the web, I will also protect the person I am trashing as well. I say nothing but nice things n facebook and Twitter cos I am public there. Some of those people who annoys me are my facebook friends.@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
Well in my imagination I already dismembered this person with a chainsaw then throw the remains in a piranha pool, In real life well I just trained this person on what he or she needs to be successful in the business. mean why make enemies when you can kill them in your imagination while being out of trouble n real life.
No one from the office knows I talk trash about them,They just think was their respectable boss or nice subordinate (in case of my boss)
since they wont know anyway, I will proudly scream, hate my fricken Job and I hate the people I work with.
No one from the office knows I talk trash about them,They just think was their respectable boss or nice subordinate (in case of my boss)
since they wont know anyway, I will proudly scream, hate my fricken Job and I hate the people I work with.1 person likes this
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
29 Oct 12
i guess here there are more reasons than what it meets the eye because its based on appearance and deceptions of not liking
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
Nothing to do with appearance at all, But I am the type of person who dont get along with radicals (You know obsessively religious people, Obsessively atheistic people, Obsessively Vegan people and other people who are forcing their beliefs to others.) I also don't get along with picky eaters. Usually I get along with people who are creative, someone who can feed my mind and someone who is also witty. I love Neutral people the most.
@francesca5 (1344)
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1 Nov 12
well, captalbertwhisker,
it you come and lie down on the psychiatrists couch, I will suggest to you, that if you don't like this person because they are nice, there is something about niceness that you don't like.
people say that the things we dislike in other people are things we don't like in ourselves, and maybe there is a certain part of yourself, that is nice in some way, that you have rejected, and because you can see it in that person you don't like it.
my guess is that you see something in them that you think is weak, because you have received a message somewhere that whatever it is you don't like about them is weak, and so you have rejected it in yourself.
so if you get in touch with your own inner niceness you can solve this problem, according to jung you will meet the missing parts of yourself in your dreams, so it may be there.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
1 Nov 12
I dont dislike the person for being nice, I dislike the person for a different reason. As you see I train this person and I still pass this person because this person is doing a decent job. lets say the difference is more about taste and preference. Lets say I am the hispter and this person is too mainstream.
@francesca5 (1344)
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1 Nov 12
though it could be something else entirely different, as just reading your last response, about feeling angry, I know someone who is very nice, but I would be left feeling angry, and in the end I worked out that their niceness was a sort of smothering niceness, that imposed on me a sort of powerlessness, in the sense that they had to make me need their help for them to feel good.
but if this goes any deeper I am going to have to start charging.
@JER616 (545)
• Philippines
6 Nov 12
The Bible has this pertinent verse on this topic:
"[Love] is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]." -- 1 Corinthians 13:5 (Amplified version)
If you have love for your fellowman, the verse says that it should not seek its own rights or its own way.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
13 Nov 12
Amen
I dont do anything bad to those people, they annoy me but I am nothing but professional to them.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
28 Oct 12
I think this is a problem for some people, even if they are nice if they have habits and other things like poor hygiene or other problems then they still won't be compatible. It's to be expected. Not that you aren't nice either it is just something unexplainable sometimes too. I do hope you can get to tolerating them better though eventually. If you can, try to think of it in a more positive way. What if they were worse off than they are, and you'd be working with someone mean and abusive? Thank goodness you don't have that. That would be a worst case scenerio to deal with.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
28 Oct 12
I am that person's superior so I wont be an evil power tripping boss, I am actually helping out this person to be better but I have to express the annoyance this person caused me without hurting this person's feelings and I just realized how anonymous I was here in mylot. Yes this person have habits that annoys the heck out of me. I managed to stay with 3 c's....Cool, Calm and Collected. I am usually a quiet person with a poker face so internet is my best way to release this anger.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Oct 12
I do have a poker face, Its hard to read my mind or what I am thnking by looking at my face and I have that deep monotone serious voice. I am very different in real life. Im' a just a serious lifeless office robot slave who does the same thing respectively.
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