Have you had strong conversations with partner/spouse and you stayed upallnight

Well how did that conversation go? I know that my husband and I are going through some really tough times. I know that I'm getting so tired of all the arguments and disagreements. I have told him countless times that I'm not trying to change him (when we were married he was doing a lot of things differently in a good way) and now he has changed for the worse. So I've told him if he wants to do the things that he's doing and stay this way that that's fine it's just that I don't want to be with him anymore like this. Because whenever I say something he makes it seem like I'm trying to control his life, all I want is for it to really be done. He keeps acting like he's willing to make it work but then he often times starts to feel resentful and do things I don't like. So I'm really getting to my limit. Hopefully either way things will turn out alright.

how about both ways did you ever think he might have some resentment about what you do, this seems like its all one sided did he do the things you do not like when you courted and you still married him. how about conceding he is a human being and not a god so he and you both have faults. so did you love him with conditions he would change as hes an adult free white and twenty one at least so it a bit late to remake him now.Are the things you dislike injurious to you' or just not to your liking? reexa mine how you f eel about him and look within you too as you might not be as perfect as you make yourself sound.a marriage counselor 'sounds like a better idea to me as he or she would make you both not try to remake each other.I know I wou ld hate to be married to someone who hoped to remake me and change me.

@Hatley the things he does now are different from when we were courting. So he has made changes that if I were doing those types of things when we were courting he wouldn't have liked them and would have chastised me about them. And yes he is not god nor is he perfect and I'm not saying that I'm perfect nor am I trying to remake him. I just want him to make a decision on what he is going to do. If he wants to live that way then he should be more than willing to let me go. Counselors we have been there and done that to no avail. He knows I'm not trying to make him different I just want to him to let me go because it's not the life I want to live.

I'm glad that you and your boyfriend and have serious conversations. I agree that conversations like that really can strengthen the relationship. I'm hoping that as we continue to have these conversations things will get better. I will take things slowly and see where it goes.

Yeah there is often a lot that needs to be discussed and talked about especially when a couple lives together. I know that sometimes though the every day activities of life can cause a couple to drift apart and not open up and really talk about things. I know that my husband and I need to talk more about what we think and feel about different things. It will help our marriage a lot. So many marriages and relationship fall apart. In order to keep it strong it's a great help to be best friends and know one another.

And not only that. I have realized that with that conversation that I still got my friend. Some would be married but loses the friendship because of a lot of factors. So what happens is the relationship just becomes that of a husband and wife (which could be stiff, don't you think?). It would be a happier relationship if our partners are also our bestfriends.

I agree things would be happier if husband's and wives are able to stay best friends. It would allow them to be close. And share their thoughts and feelings with one another.

I'm glad that you and your husband were able to have such an open conversation. I'm glad to hear that it helped you as well. When a couple have these types of conversation it really does help them to see what each individual is thinking about the relationship and what adjustments they are willing to make.

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it. I hope that with time and continued open communication we can make good decisions and be where we would like to be. It takes time and adjustments. Thanks again.

Yeah it is definitely a good thing to be able to have good communication skills for any relationship. When a couple is able to talk and at least come to a compromise it makes the relationship so much better. I hope that we will be able to work through these hard times. Time will tell what happens.

Sorry to hear that your husband was mischievous and that he cheated on you. That would be really hard to forgive. Some people are able to make it work and others it just seems that they don't learn and keep doing the same things over and over again. I hope that you are doing well after all of that. I know that I feel so tired and often feel like giving up. But I will see what happens.