Don't Pretend To Be Something You're Not
By redredrose
@redredrose (1105)
United States
October 30, 2012 12:57pm CST
When you meet someone for the first time do you pretend to be something your not or are you just being yourself? When i was younger i did pretend to be something i'm not or something i thought was better. As i got older i realized that just being myself is good enough and if the person doesn't like me for who i am then i don't need to be friends with them. If who you are isn't good enough for them then they are not good enough for you. you should believe in yourself and have enough confidence to just be yourself around people. Now i didn't always think like this because i didn't always have enough confidence in myself to just be myself around other people but as i got older i learned more how to just be myself around people and found this is the way to go. Also if you pretend to be something you are not then it is like lying and that is dishonest. What do you think?
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10 responses
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
30 Oct 12
I think it's wrong to forcedly change outselves or to pretend to be something one's not... because it's going to drive you crazy, you're going to suffer a lot by maintaining an image... you may not even know if this mask could actually be removed. But it also is deceiving the people you meet, like a fiancé/e, and no one deserves to be deceived.
Also, there's a lovely quote about it which kind of means you should take pride in who you are and to embrace yourself. It goes like that if you're a plum, don't try to be a banana, because at most you're going to become a mediocre banana, when you could have becomed a magnificent and exceptional plum :).
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
30 Oct 12
Awww doroffee i like that quote. I never heard if before but i like it. Thanks for posting it. and i agree with you 100%. have a great day.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
30 Oct 12
Being yourself is good and you feel cool and not something like suffocation where you get tired of being someone else and that starts to bother you. It is therefore better to be your ownself and let people accept you for what you actually are. It is good that you have realized it and are being yourself now. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead..
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
30 Oct 12
Riyauro it took me most my life to realize this but i'm glad i did. you have a wonderful day too.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
1 Nov 12
I often think that too, if they go away they weren't worth my friendship or whatever. In the end when a 'friend' stabbed me in the back, it hurted but then in few time I realized how I was a good friend and she didn't deserve me so better learn sooner than later.
@Teep11 (7674)
• United States
1 Nov 12
It's not good to pretend to be something that you are not. Doing something like that could create severe consequences. People should show who they really are so that people witness the real deal. No need to pretend, if they like you they will like you for you. There's no need to lie about age, that's how people find themselves in trouble. So no I wouldn't pretend.
@Shavkat (137307)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I never tried to pretend just to please everybody. Like what you've said I am more fine being me. Some people are good pretender, One of my friends is like this, she had pretended that too extreme that even our other friends pushed her away.
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
30 Oct 12
i want to be myself. this is the real me. unfortunately, not everyone is going to like me which is ok. we are all unique beings. we are all different. it is best to be who you are without pretense.
@GemmaR (8517)
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30 Oct 12
I have always said to people that they should be doing what they like without thinking about what other people think about them. I wasted a lot of time when I was younger doing things because of what other people said, and now I know that this is not the way that things should be in the slightest. If somebody wants you to change for their benefit then I don't think that they're worth knowing at all, and you just shouldn't bother with them. This is something that I wish I had learned a long time ago, and it is such a shame that I didn't.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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30 Oct 12
When I meet people I am always myself, as people get to know what you are really like in the long run.I feel that being a honest person, also makes you a genuine person.
I can not see why people try to make out as if they are some one that they are not, also say things that are not true about them self.
@Bluebell18 (636)
• United States
30 Oct 12
There's a great Pearl Jam lyric. 'If I had known then, what I know now.' When I was younger, I too, pretended to be something that I wasn't. I was phonier than a three dollar bill and it caused rifts within myself. As I got older, I realized that I was only fooling myself and in the end, it was too late. So, no. Be who you are and everything else will fall into place.
