In planning your wedding day did you shoulder all the expense?

hi, in planning for a wedding i think it is best and more better if both of them will work together and both of them will shoulder every expenses,but because of the pride of man they don't want to there woman to have share or to shoulder some expenses.

We would shoulder most of the expense with my fiancé, but the parents of both of us are going to help a bit. I wouldn't let anyone to pay for all the wedding, because: -I wanna feel independent, not in the need of anyone covering anything for me, it would be humiliating -I feel when someone is paying for the whole wedding, they think thes have the right to tell us what the wedding should be like, and I don't want that - my fiancé and me have distinct plans which we don't want to give up (we want a theatre billboard-like invitation with his graphics, we don't want kid best men and bridesmaids - I find these kiddies in those roles in a wedding tacky and ideas of people who wanna expose their kids... then the limelight is going to be on kitschily dressed kids instead of the couple -, we don't want traditional wedding music when we go to the altar, we don't wanna hire a band, yet I wanna have a quality, artistic photographer instead of someone taking bad staged photographs in a garden... they might be less expensive, but I want quality... and I have a clear conception in my head regarding the decoration color scheme) As for the dresses, I would only pay for the bridesmaid dress(es), but only if I have a certain idea of what they should wear (in color or shape, but I think if I'm gonna have a criterion, it would be the color)... otherwise, not... and especially not all the guests and the kids. I would pay for the accommodation of those who can't go home that easily after the party.

I wanted to shoulder some of the expense of my wedding but my mother insisted on doing it all. Except for my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses. My sister paid for the bridesmaids dresses all by herself and luckily we got them on sale at Kc Penny' and yes they were real nice and pretty and the color i wanted. They had cost $100 each but was marked down to $50 and the at register marked down again to $25 so yes my sister paid for them but luckily she didn't have to pay much. My mom paid for 1/2 the amount of my wedding gown my sister the other 1/2 and then my hubby paid my sister back for her half. I felt really god knowing i would have my wedding paid for but i felt bad that my parents and sister and in laws spent so much so i thank them even after 12 yrs of marriage everyday. My mother in law paid for the limo and pictures. so hubby and i paid really for nothing but i felt like i owed my family everything or that i have tried to thank them everyday since. Also to let them know i love them so much for what they did.

I took on a lot of my own weedinfg expense i did not -feel right in giving that expense to a parent to burden, i took on s much of the expense of my own as i coul.d. i on ly felt that this was fair.

My husband and I married 3 months prior to graduation. It was a civil wedding. Nothing much was spent except for the reception after the ceremonies. 6 months after, we had our church wedding. Most of the expenses were shouldered by my father in law. My parents took care of my wedding gown, dresses of the entourage from the side of our family and the photo and video coverage. When my brother married, my parents shouldered all of the expenses. When my sister got married last year, both her and his husband were helped by my parents and my brother in law's parents for all the expenses.

Me and my husband paid for everything. But of course we narrow down those people who are not "toxic" to be part of our entourage, doesn't matter if their number dwindled to half. What i mean is that there were some people who were originally part of our entourage but keeps on saying they want their dress to be like this, cut like this way because they look fat in it, or wants a different color because they look ugly in that color etc. I just told them that we have changed plans and they will no longer be part of the entourage. It is my wedding and I don't need someone who would tell me what I should do when I already know what I want. Besides, it turns out that those people who remained true to my side and helped me to make my wedding preps less stressful are indeed my closest, good friends. And when I think about it, would I be willing to pay for someone who keeps on wanting to change the designs and the theme that me and my husband has decided on? I think not, so, off they go.