Do you have abusive helpers?

I have encountered a lot of different kinds of helpers- whether they were my own helpers or helpers of my sister in law. Before, more than 10 years ago, my problem with the helpers that I got was, one helper just made an excuse of coming to Manila to be a helper but her real reason was to find either her husband or kids. Then I'd be left waiting if she would come back or not. And then bye bye 2000 pesos, the amount I spent for her to come to Manila to work for me. Then now, these young helpers would eagerly want to work in the city. They would say that they need to earn something to help their family, to send a sibling to school or to raise money for a sick parent. Of course, we take them in with a promise that they would stay at least 6 months then we would offer a raise provided that they would perform their jobs well. But what happens is (since the emergence of cellphones that even those people who might be living under the bridge or just by the street owns a cellphone of his own), when their employers turn their backs from them, non stop texting and calling will happen that would often lead to unfinished work which usually just takes about a couple of hours to finish! I caught one helper of my sister ironing and she would be texting one message after each shirt that she presses on! Gosh! Imagine how much time she is wasting and of course the money she spends in loading her cellphone! We are knot seeking for perfect helpers coz there is no such thing as that. But atleast they should finish their jobs first before engaging themselves with other stuff, right?

hi, of course we feel so annoy and anger,actually i have encountered that kind of person,actually he is my relative and we hired him to be a helper in our business,but then when the television is open he never work or not focusing in his work,that is why we remove the television and my parents talked to that person to focus more in his task.

Hi friend, this kind of helpers are quite common in this days, we must be strict with them. As they are working for salary, so they must give their utter most in their job and avoid this kind of unwanted activities

Not good, are there no rules there? Those things arent good to be doing on ones job.

Why some people like be out of their duties when they are doning their jobs as helpers,i dont know.Someone once said these deeds actually belong to thieves as long as there are employment in reality among them.I do hate and dont wanna endure these things happen to me,as a hirer i will set a resonable plans and rules which can shut this sort of people off my hands, renovate jobs terms and improve helpers work quality or resign them as a punishment.

if we can not change one thing, then you just need to be used to it, or you leave it, or let it leave you. nothing else.

3 months ago, I had to let go of one of my helpers because he (yes, that's right, HE) doesn't even do his responsibilities. He was our houseboy - he is supposed to clean the aquarium, clean the garden, and some other primary things. He had been with us for about a year. But later on, we have noticed that some of our things were missing, and he started to consume too much electricity and even food! Now, I'm not really particular with food but at least try and be considerate. So, that's what happened with him and we found a new helper. Good thing is that she doesn't know how to use the computer (LOL). She texts every now and then, but that isn't an issue for me. She's having a conversation with his husband and kids, which I don't really find a big deal. As long as she's doing her chores, and everything is properly done, she can call and text all she wants. :) So far, she's doing a great job. The only thing I don't like about her is that she sleeps so early haha but she gets up early too, so I think that's still okay with me. But since I've learned from my previous helpers, I've told my new maid upfront what I want - my rules, what I expect from her as well as the things that she should be primarily doing. So far, she hasn't broken any of my rules yet, and I hope it stays that way.

My in-laws helper is so abusive. Whenever she goes here in our house, she would turn on the TV and would do sit on the sofa and would send text messages as long as no one in the other house would follow her and would check if she has already done what she is supposed to do. In fact, I so hate her because it is not only that she is so abusive, she is so arrogant as well. She talk and act as if she owns the house. I still wonder why they still have her when she even put a 2 year old kid inside the cabinet.

That is the reason why I am very picky when it comes to hiring house help. But to avoid abusive helpers, I made it a point to set rules and regulations for them since day one, if I see that they haven't been following those, I may give a leeway but depending on the gravity of their actions. If in the event they remain as abusive as they are, I will simply let them go.

I wouldn't have any problem with her(or him) doing such things as texting, watching TV, or reading a book on one of her breaks such as a lunch break, but if she is doing these things while she is supposed to be working then I would have a talk with her. I would explain to her that that's not why she was hired & that if it happened again she would be let go.