a plain housewife is a man's pride

Singapore
November 2, 2012 1:52am CST
being a full time housewife is realy a career... huh! i have never imagine this before when i was in college! of course every woman have a dream of pursuing our chosen courses before! but life change....still happy of the changes of my plans...seeing my children grow and the value of time that i am there always to help and play with them! i can say it all worth it! and to this extra effort we plain housewives as the called, our husband must be very proud of us! agree?!
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13 responses
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
Your husband should be proud of you because they are fully supporting you. They can show to the world that they can support their wives. That is the first thing that I can say because men in general are proud. Even if they are supported by their wives, they still claim that they are the king of the household. A jobless husband always makes small things a big deal then quarrel arise. Good if the wife is patient, and she ignores the husband's attitude. If the wife is quarrelsome, then there will be a great fight which may result in separation.
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• United States
28 Dec 12
Yeah I agree with what you are saying. Things work out better if both individuals try and show their appreciation and support of the other. This way there are less problems in the family and the marriage. This will make everyone happier.
• India
2 Nov 12
Hi friend, i agree with you, it is really hard to become a house wife and do all the house chores, child caring work as well as taking care about each and every person in the household. Every day home makers doing a lot of work and they don't have any holidays never get any salary for their work. Surely husband must proud about their wife who is hard working home makers
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• United States
28 Dec 12
Yeah housewives do a lot of work. And like you said they don't get a break or time off, and they aren't paid for their work. Some wives at times may get an allowance from their husband spending money perhaps for themselves. This is a nice thing and I'm sure wives who are treated that way appreciate then their husband's sacrifice in that regard.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
6 Nov 12
I am not married to my house, the term 'housewife' makes no sense and is not even a word. Also, there is nothing PLAIN or 'only' about being the main adult responsible for the home, everything in it, children, maintenance, etc. I am a WIFE, yes, and I also agree that being a full time caretaker of a home and children IS a full time job. I don't understand how people do not see that, perhaps they only equate a job or working to being compensated or making a paycheck, which is downright STUPID. Anyway, there is nothing plain or 'housewife' about anybody who CHOOSES to take on the career path of being a wife and mother and NOT ALSO working a SECOND job as a paid career.
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• United States
28 Dec 12
I could completely agree with you. There are so many people that say that being a stay at home wife/mother is not work. They are completely wrong. There are so many things that these women have to do.There are other people who work to clean another persons home, be a nanny, take care of people's medicial needs, etc. I work less than ten hours outside a week. I think husband's who don't appreciate all that their wife does should start paying them and then they will see how much money a wife saves the family.
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
I agree. Husbands are very lucky if their wives are full-time housewives. They won't worry about their kids and home whenever they are at work. I also want to be a plain housewife. I guess it won't happen to me. I am the one working for the family now. It's not a big deal for me but I also want to experience the feeling of a plain housewife. I enjoy working. My only problem is I only see my husband and our son on weekends. Good for you because you're always with your kids and your husband. Happy mylotting.
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• United States
28 Dec 12
It would be very hard to only see your family on weekends. But then some works require individuals to try great distances to provide for their family. I hope that perhaps sometime in the future your circumstances will change and you can stay home. But I understand what you mean about liking what you do for work.
@sayo13 (414)
• India
2 Nov 12
I believe that a Man's pride does not lie in the fact whether his wife is a house wife or a working woman. I believe that today's men are more concerned about wives who can balance home and career and at the same time keep herself and others happy. I believe that a career woman have a lot more challenge to face and prove herself, which can easily demand one's husband's pride and honor.But that doesnot mean that a housewife's life is easier one.A house wive have the kind of attachment to the family members and her children which generally a career woman crave for. She too grows with experience along with her children and her family. She is in a constant need to prove herself in every way a house wife should have and that is what make her life manageable too.
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• United States
28 Dec 12
It takes a lot of responsibility just being a woman. Each one has a great deal of responsibility that she has to take care of. It requires organization and careful planning. A husband should strive to show that he loves and respects his when she caries her duties out in a wonderful way.
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
I am neither a wife nor a mother and I do not have the right to say this but I will say this anyway, I think the most important thing about being a mother is to watch her children grow, to be with them in every second of their lives and to embrace them every time for them to feel their mother's love and care. My mother is a career woman and not a plain housewife but I so love her because I know that everything she does is all for us so I understand her situation. But I salute full time housewives!
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• United States
28 Dec 12
I agree with you. I think that it is important for both types of wives to get respect and appreciation from husband and child/ren. Even women who have to work outside the home have to come home and do things around the house,cook,clean, take care of the children. It is just a lot of work being a WOMAN.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
3 Nov 12
I loved staying home with my kids but I also like when I would work outside the home on occasion. It was almost like a vacation sometimes. I tend to get bored staying home for long periods of time. I am staying home now and have been for two years, two of my kids are married and moved out, one is still here and I like being here for him, but I am starting to get ansy and need to get to work sometime soon so I don't get so bored!
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• United States
28 Dec 12
I understand what you mean.I think if i get a full time job it will feel like a vacation as well. Staying at home all the time is really starting to bother me. I'm hoping to find a full time job sometime soon. My husband seems to think that staying home isn't boring but it is when you do it all the time.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Nov 12
hi colorfullife4all p lain housewife? come on now there's nothing plain about a woman who cleans the h ou se, makes the meals, bears t he children, and cared for them 24/ 7,not plain at all. Number one housekeeper that is what i call them and oh d o I hope that their hubbies all really think they are number one too.So ma ny' people do not really understand what all they do allt he times. we should really honor women who stay home and tends home and children its a hard but worthwhile occupation indeed . my hats off to you all.e
@aghiuta (525)
• Canada
4 Nov 12
There is no such thing as a plain housewife! The right name for a woman that takes care of her family and household is: Domestic engineer"!!!!!!There is not a more complex job on earth!!!! What is more important than raising well the next generation?
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• United States
28 Dec 12
That is a great way to describe it. It is a very complex job. Imagine how much it would cost to hire someone to do all. To clean,cook,raise family, be a house nurse for the family, and be a life couch to help the family reach their goals. I think a domestic engineer needs to be shown more appreciation.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Dec 12
I hope that you are able to reach your goals. I hope that your husband is very proud of you and appreciates all you do. Unfortunately my husband has not come to appreciate all that I do. Hopefully though in time he will see and appreciate what I do for our family. Sometimes people take things for granted and just expect things of others.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
2 Nov 12
i can't say that because as far as I have seen men like women working too. when the wife does good at work then the man feel proud that way too. I used to work but at the moment at home and doing a restaurant now and my hubby wants me to be busy and not just stay at home. I must say i like to be busy in life. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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• United States
28 Dec 12
I agree with you. I as well like to be busy.It makes time go faster and the day doesn't seem as long. I also like to get out of the house. Right now I work part time but I hope to find a full time job.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Nov 12
It sure is, its also hard to run a business and keep a good home. Im lucky that my internet cafe is at the corner of my home. So when business is slow I can run into home and do things there. Sure keeps me busy here.
• United States
28 Dec 12
Yeah I can imagine how busy you are. I hope that your internet cafe is doing well. It can be hard to run a business and see the results we need. I hope that you are seeing the results you would like too.
@HuaZhao (457)
• China
3 Nov 12
I am jealous of you. My boyfriend is excellent, but his salery still couldn't support a family.
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• United States
28 Dec 12
I understand what you mean. It takes my husband working full time and me working part time and things are still financially stressful. It would be nice if my husband's work could provide everything we need. But it doesn't.