Does having girl friends make one lesbian??
By riyauro
@riyauro (6421)
India
November 2, 2012 9:48am CST
I have discussion before about my husband's brother's married life. He tries to rule the wife and is very very strict on her. She is a very nice girl and has become very good friend of mine when i went to her place for one week. very helpful girl. They have a 2 year kid also. Now the thing is hubby's brother has stopped her from having any friends and and she only had friends as girls. she teaches in a girls school and everyone likes her so much in the school. when it was teachers day she got so many gifts plus 60 plus bouquets. now my mother in law is telling me that her son does not allow her to talk to any girls because she is a lesbian. I was shocked because her own son is having affair outside and instead of correcting him they are now spoiling the girls name by spreading the rumor. Hubby's brother has told the wife that he has someone else in his life. and now he is spoiling her name. The wife's mother was telling me that does having girl friends make one lesbian?? I felt bad for the girl. poor girl is suffering from all the sides. what do you think about this? what to say if my mother in law says same thing again, because she keeps telling me the same thing?
what is your take in this?
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8 responses
@Manasha (2933)
• Pondicherry, India
2 Nov 12
If it is true you should save that girl from furhter disasters. Humanity is the basis of this world and if it loses then this world will start destroying. So, you have to save the girl and even she is lesbian then it doesn't mean that she has to be punished.
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@sriroshan (2584)
• India
2 Nov 12
Really this is something ridiculous on part of your husband friend. I can't understand why he act this way, is it to hide what he is doing and god knows what pleasure he is getting spoiling her wife name? I can't imagine why he can't think that when he spoil his wife name in the society like she is lesbian lady, in the contrast he himself spoiling his name only.
I think he must be sick person and under such circumstances he needs the counselling so that you can save your friend life from such person.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Nov 12
Having friends that are women Does not make you a lesbian. If that were true, All women would be gay, lol. If the husband has someone else then why doesn't she divorce him? If he is being this mean and controlling then it is time to leave before he kills her. As for " ruining her name" All her co workers know the truth. And since she is loved , they will come to her defense.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
3 Nov 12
Hi!
Your sister in law should take a firm stand against the baseless rumours being spread against her. She should confront her husband and MIL that it is unfair on their part to tarnish her reputation and malign her.
If she continues to obey her hubby's diatribe she will stand nowhere and may lose in the long run.
You should also help her by invovling your hubby in this issue, if possible.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
4 Nov 12
First of all your friend's husband is very controlling.. Going so far as not to let her have any friends.. He is taking away all outside sources for her.. That is so tottally wrong!!! She respected the wishes of her husband; so she didnt have any male friends.. To sit there and say that she is a lesbian as a result. A woman can have many female friends without it ever becoming anything but a good friend.. As a human being we need to socialize it is just the way it is.. If she seems to get along better then most.. Could it just be the fact that she is a good person; thinking of others feelings before thinking of her own.. The mother in law should just stay out of it.. If she did her job right when your friends husband was a child she doesnt need to be right there during his adult life.. Then for this same woman to have double standarders is so wrong and ugly.. The playing field should be equal regardless of the fact that its the woman or the man... If it was me that had to deal with the mother in law.. I am not sure what or how I would say anything but I would be extremely upset.. Good luck my friend and I hope that you are able to contine your friendship with this woman..
@pheenkeesh (103)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
I feel bad for the wife. Shame on her husband. Having girl friends doesn't make one a lesbian. Does that mean that if a man has guy friends, he is instantly gay? That's a messed up way of thinking. If I were the wife and the husband has no plans of changing for the better, I would leave the husband right away since it's being detrimental to her and her reputation. There is no use on keeping a marriage with that kind of attitude.
@ElicBxn (64172)
• United States
3 Nov 12
I am single and if any man tried to do that to me, I would be so outta there, granted I'm in the U.S. and women have more freedoms.
I would then sue the ex-husband and the ex-mother-in-law for slander, they would have to publicly apologize and pay me for the pain of having my name ruined.
It would be so great if I could then have them have to go to each person they lied to and tell them the truth - and post it on the internet - with their faces in a picture with "LIAR" right across it.
@Gretchen522 (714)
• China
3 Nov 12
I think the basic thing is a marriage is respect,understand and love, the girl's husband is selfish, I don't agree with his behaviora, and the girl is really pity. I wish they can solve this problem as soon as they can because it is no good for their marriage.
