Paternity Test, Should We Thank It?
By Artemeis
@artemeis (4189)
China
November 2, 2012 11:51pm CST
Lately, I am sure we've read accounts of people from various circles going for paternity tests on their unborn or born child. Especially with celebrities, to determine who the actually biological other half is.
Most of these cases are actually from women involving in non exclusive multiple relationships with other men that involve sleeping together. At the end of the day. they become pregnant and start seeking paternity answers.
I suppose it will be alright if the men are willing to accept responsibility and his woman's past of sleeping with other men while they were together. However, human will be human and men will be men where we can never actually be fully assured. Forgive and forget? I have my doubts.
Anything can happen, what if there's a foul up during the paternity test and the child still ends up with the wrong biological father?
Then, there are the ones that does not see the need of such test and just go on with their willful gut feeling, ending up with an illegitimate child and a disastrous eventual consequence which bring about another broken relationship and family.
I do not refute that such a test is useful, but shouldn't we women be more discriminate and chaste. I can understand that times have change and that women today have the right to make their own decision with who they want to be with but shouldn't prevention be better? What about insisting on safety precautions especially when neither party could afford an unwanted pregnancy?
What's your take on Paternity Test? Do you think it is necessary? Is it harmful for the unborn child when such test is done?
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4 responses
@prashu228 (37518)
• India
3 Nov 12
hi friend,
I agree prevention is better but many are not interested in this , of course its their life but still its the child who is at suffering end. Paternity testes are not really meant for this actually it was for some useful thins, but its sad that we are using mostly for this.
Are the celebrities so bad? do they sleep with anyone just like that? I mean they too have some ethics ,right? They just cant go and sleep with anyone just like that, after all they are also humans. They are also concerned about their health and body and also their family apart from reputation in the society.
yes paternity tests for unborn are harmful for the baby .The amniotic fluid is taken form the uterus and it is really harmful.
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@artemeis (4189)
• China
3 Nov 12
Sometimes, I really cannot believe that women today are loosing their sense of dignity and decency. So, they want to sleep around and test the waters but what about birth control? Spur of the moment and a life long regret.
I am surprised that you are unaware that women have been throwing themselves into celebrities' beds and in those no hold barred ones, they return to have their celebrities take responsibility for their babies. And, celebrities have been sending their women for such tests to check for paternity.
Then, there was a bizarre account where a woman who had slept with 2 men actually messed up with the collection sample of her partners and ended up marrying the wrong one. Years later when the truth emerges, 4 lives were destroyed and the saddest part would have to be the daughter who grew up to be a rebellious one.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
It is an option for some. But it could be really intimidating for a woman who has become loyal to her partner. I guess these new fathers just have not overcome or completely forgotten the past of their partner. It is sad, but there is no stopping them from doing what they need to do just to be sure that they will be taking care of a child from his own flesh and blood.
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@artemeis (4189)
• China
3 Nov 12
Although, it would be better for women to be chastised with their ways or be faithful to one partner, I don't think ALL of them will see eye to eye on this. So, the paternity test for them would be ideal.
At the other end, I am wondering where's that part where forgiveness in a relationship comes in. No doubt, the child turns out to be someone else's but I am sure the man that walks away here is no better than the other man. Where's that give and take or leaving the past behind in a relationship or marriage.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
3 Nov 12
I think if the woman didn't sleep with a lot of people she would know who the father was and if there is someone that knows there is a possibility of getting pregnant, why take the chance of not knowing who it the dad is.
No one should have to wonder. Sometimes it is beneficial for the dad to know that the little one is or isn't his but I have known people that have taken care of babies from day one and considered them as their own, even though they know it isn't their child and in the end, the child gets torn out of their life. That is never fair to the dad or the child.
All in all the paternity tests are good but sometimes might do more harm than good.
@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
3 Nov 12
In my opinion I think that could be case to case basis especially if a woman is very tricky when it comes to dating with guys. Not in the sense of she likes that but because for some reason especially when money is involved. It is a long story but to make it short there are some fathers who are claiming it is their child but in reality the father is different.
It could be insulting to woman if the father denies it that the child that the woman is carrying is his. Especially if a woman know who she was dating. I've heard a story from my boyfriend about his batchmates in high school that they have a classmate or batch mate who got pregnant then the guy denies it and claiming that she is dating different guys. I mean to think that he is already putting the woman he is dating into shame already.
@artemeis (4189)
• China
3 Nov 12
I see your point here where a paternity test is being done to determine the denying biological father, but here's the thing, what is there to stop him from denying his responsibility even when the test result is positive?
If he is adamant in denying, I just do not see the viability to opt for the test when it is dangerous and even if it turns out to what it is suppose to be, the pregnancy will be too late to terminate.
So, I think it would be wise to think again before getting into bed with any one for this matter. If the guy is not prepared or does not want to resume responsibility will not change, even if the test proves him to be the biological father.
