Do you prefer marriage or living together?
November 3, 2012 2:51am CST
Its been six years now that we loved each other and we finally love to make the eternal bond which is marriage. We tested ourselves a lot over this period and faced lots of problems. We have stayed together over it. I was at her side like a pillar when she was sad and hurt. It was the same for me. We did live together for some time but now the long wait is going to be over. She is doing her higher studies and it is getting over soon. We love to get together and start our life now. The life looks smaller in front of the problems we faced till now. I feel live in relationship followed by marriage is perfect as we can understand each other well. Share your thoughts on same.
• United States
4 Dec 12
I am happy for you guys , hope it all work out . I think you are in the right position , you been together for 6 years and get enough time to grow on each other instead of some people that rush into marriage and after 1 year of dating and then realize they are not compatible and rush out just as fast as they rush into it .
• United States
4 Dec 12
My answer to your question is though , I dont think people should just live together . After living together they should at least make some form of commitment . I will not settle for just living with someone for the rest of my life if they love me then making a commitment is not hard .
8 Nov 12
What are you waiting for? If you already know each other so well and have already tried living together and yet you're still together, it's time to take the next step by getting married as it is proven that you're really meant for each other . I know that everybody has a different view over marriage. Some might think of it as a sacred bond and lifetime commitment, while others especially those who live together,see it as legality of their relationship through signing a marriage contract which people may regard as not necessary. But for a loving relationship, marriage is a form of commitment and a way of proving that you want to spend the rest of your life with your girlfriend and no one else. I agree with you that culture plays an important role in choosing whether we should live with our partners first before getting married as most families are conservative and sees it as taboo. However, some people do follow their own views and principle, like me for example. I came from a very conservative family who will definitely disagree with me living with my partner, but if ever I wanted to marry someone, I think living with him first is not a bad idea as in that way there is no commitment and I can know him better as marriage as you said is a huge step and not an easy one. My parents will get upset but I know they can forgive me in due time. I'd rather upset my parents than make a huge mistake by marrying someone that I don't know well.
3 Nov 12
I think that's better to both of you, to get married. Six years is already enough for both of you to learn each others attitudes and desires in life. Living together would be better for both of you to see each other everyday and to build your family together.
25 Nov 12
Yes. You should hear wedding bells now.Best wishes! Love, understanding & honesty will bind your marriage.At least you are thinking ahead of your future. My husband and I were in a relationship for 7 years since college. We were married after our 7th year anniversary both having stable jobs.We were both very happy at that moment because at last we finally settled down. Being married made us more responsible & considerate especially now that my childbirth will be due this December 2012.And we are both excited of the arrival of our baby and how to handle another challenge in our relationship.It's another learning experience.
3 Nov 12
both... i want to be married and would want to live with my husband... sometime people don't live together even if they are married due to their jobs and schedules. i am happy for that you will be together through marriage. we all hope for the best for both of you and your future family. ^_^
4 Nov 12
hi xorticanz, I prefer of course to get married but I can't predict what will be my future but if ever I prefer marriage. Successful relationships doesn't depend if you are living together or married it depends how both of you will work things out to have a long lasting relationship happy mylotting
3 Nov 12
I'm really happy for you and I'm sending my best wishes. We are standing in front of message with my fiancé, too. I prefer marriage, not because of the ceremony, but because of the spiritual background, like declaring mmy love for that person in front of the law and the whole world.
4 Nov 12
My boyfriend for 4 years and I started living together just last year after i gave birth to our son. Well, we are planning marriage but not too soon. Annulment is really expensive here in our country and we dont have divorce so getting married is really serious here. I told myself that if we're still together after 8 years, I'd probably consider getting married.
3 Nov 12
I think the factors that influence whether to tie the knot or not may be different from culture to culture.I don't know what's the custom in your marriage culture but I think if you do love each other,it's really lucky for you two to get together and I hope you should tie the knot with your lover.Love means not only passion,but also responsibility.However,marriage is more than a ceremony.It get more people and things involved in your life--at least in my culture.For example,do you live with your parents or other relatives after marriage?Do you want a baby?If you decide to built up a nuclear family,your marriage may face less challenge.If you have to live with others,you have to take into consideration their influence upon your life.If you do love her,I suggest you take the due responsibility for her and be determined to face up to any problem arising in your family.
10 Nov 12
Wow! I'm so happy for both of you. After a long time loving each other you finally decided to marry your girlfriend. My boyfriend and I are living together because we already had a baby. We are not yet married. We are still saving money for it because a part of our salary goes to our baby for his necessities. I hope you live a happy life.
3 Nov 12
This set up could probably work. But then again, you must also realize that we always take risks in everything that we decide on. And all e could hope for is that we always end up with the right person for us. I say, if you think that you are ready to settle down, then go for it!