should i let my younger brother Drive My Brand New Car ??
@damanpreetsingh (192)
India
November 3, 2012 11:58am CST
hi guys I'm kind of confused. I'm 24 and been working since I was 21. after years of hard work, I managed to cash down and Buy My brand new Suzuki. Like all boys I love my car too. But my younger Brother who has recently started Driving, keeps bugging me to give him my car , to hang out with friends. I'm not sure how do i refuse. I have told him many times that I do not like sharing my Car, but he keeps requesting. Now the thing is he has crashed my kawasaki Bike few time, I'm scared. My mom says I'm mean. what do I do now ?
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@Autumnrose2008 (1478)
• United States
3 Nov 12
You paid for it why would you want to take the chance of him wrecking your car like he wrecked your bike. If he wants a car then I would tell him to get a job and save his money for his own car. What ever you do do not let him use your car he is not responsible enough and you know that the minute he meets up with his friends they are going to be racing and speeding all crazy in your car cause thats just what happens. At first he will say no I cant Its my brothers car then his friends will keep bugging him about it the next thing you will hear is about how your car was totaled and he has no way of paying you back for it so if you do not want to loose your new pretty car then dont let your brother drive it. You should tell your mother your not mean that you are looking at your brothers past and how unresponsible he is and that your basing your decision on his past. There for you are making a good choice and that when he grows up some then perhaps you will let him use your car till then he can walk or ride a bike.
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@damanpreetsingh (192)
• India
3 Nov 12
that is what I'm scared of. and I have told my mum about that too. but both of them feel I'm selfish and does not want to share my things. I kind of feel alone, hen there are 2 people speaking against me. It makes me feel that I'm not a good brother/ Family Member
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@Autumnrose2008 (1478)
• United States
4 Nov 12
Tell your mom if she is so sure that he wont wreck your car to let him borrow her car and when she wont then tell her and why should you expect me to lend him my car. Second tell your brother to get a job and get his own car if he wants to hang out with friends if not there is the bus he can take. Your not a bad brother or a bad family member I wont let my son borrow my car it does not make me a bad person it makes me a responsible owner that values the car. Good luck though I know how hard it can be saying no.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
3 Nov 12
He will crash the new car. Don't give in to your mom or him. This is what I have been through in various other instances in my family. I didn't wanna load my brother $500 years ago to help him pay for his new truck but my dad practically made me. They then had to help him pay for the other payments as well nearly making them go broke doing it. Finally my dad told him they couldn't do it any,ore after I had a nervous breakdown that year and they actually had to help me out some. If your brother has already crashed something of yours then that should be a red flag. Do not listen to your mother if she says you are mean, you are sensible and worried is all. I think you're car is your possession and what you do with it is your business. If you don't want to load it out to him you don't have to. End of story.
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@damanpreetsingh (192)
• India
6 Nov 12
yes, that is what I think. and I must stick to my decision .. I need to think sensibly. getting emotional over it will not work at all. after all I have orked hard and earned my car, I must respect my money and my Hard work
@urbandekay (18278)
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3 Nov 12
On no account lend it to him, you know he will damage it. If not the first time then the second or third, sooner or later
all the best, urban
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@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 12
Did your younger brother has a driving license? If he has, then it's not a problem to lend him your brand new car cause if anything happen it will be cover by insurance, but not life. But if he don't have driving license, better don't let him use your car. It's very risky if anything happen. Actually you acting correctly if you don't let him use your car if he has no driving license and has involve in accident before.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
6 Nov 12
If he has no driving license, then you better don't let him use your car. It's very risky cause anything happen, you could go to lock up cause allowing your brother who has no license using your car. Secondly, you cannot claim anything when he involve in accident cause he has no license. So, if you love your brother and your car, don't let him drive your car.
@damanpreetsingh (192)
• India
6 Nov 12
well that is another problem. he does not have a license either. One more thing for me to worry. I tell the same thing to my mother as well. but both of them do not want to understand. I'm not able to handle the situation
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Nov 12
Id say no. Tell him to take the bus. Why would you want to take a chance that he could have a wreck? No,no,no.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
4 Nov 12
You worked very hard for your new car and want to keep it nice. I see no problem telling him no. Honestly with a new young driver I'd be nervous even letting him drive it with me sitting next to him in the passengers seat. I couldn't imagine letting him go off on his own especially considering he's crashed your bike multiple times.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Nov 12
damanpreetsingh no yo do n ot let himn drive until he is a bit older and not
careless. a car is not a toy and he will ha ve to be careful and responsible
too. let him work and earn his o wn car .I f eel your m om is wrong but he is
younger and she looks out for him? I d o not think you are mean at all but int elligent and older than him. tell himn to go take drivers lessons then talk agbain b but I sure am not sold on the idea at all.
