Your Facebook Friends Would be Mad or Hurt in your Absence?

@katie0 (5203)
Japan
November 3, 2012 7:42pm CST
How long is too long without login in to Facebook? I'm not a social network person and have some real friends that specially I want to maintain contact on FB or otherwise I wouldn't even have an account. But I don't login as much and when I do I see what's up with them, and there are events and they've been up to things but I don't want they to think that I don't care or that I didn't tought about them, it's just I don't go there that much. How much must we login and show signs that we are alive and remember our Facebook friends? Thanks!
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13 responses
@bhelle76 (353)
• Canada
5 Nov 12
I log-in everyday on my Facebook, this is because I enjoyed reading the post of my friends and comments there. Also, it is the way how I communicate my brother in the Philippines.
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• United States
4 Nov 12
I have a fb account, but don't really put much by way of communicating with friends on the site. I prefer to call them or text them and keep our conversations more private and less public. I like the fb site because I am on my professional group's page and it is helpful to keep up with industry changes.
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@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
Facebook plays vital part of my life for this is only way i can connect to my few best friend. We don't even chat but just private message because of time differences.It is not an addicting thing it is a need for me to connect with them since they are too far.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Yes, it's a great tool, there might be many people that use it as such. I only have for the people really, I don't like it and after 2 years I probably never will but it's like a cell phone, a communication tool.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
I don't think any of my facebook friends would get mad or hurt if it took me a long time before I log in again to my facebook account. They might miss me, but definitely not hurt or mad. Have a nice day. Ciao!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Thanks Romzee! I actually had people a little mad in another social network like some years ago, but these folks I care a great deal already. The ones complaining weren't that close.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
4 Nov 12
Call me crazy but if I missed someone on my friends list I'd just pick up the phone and call them. lol
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
4 Nov 12
I'm on Facebook a lot. Some very good friends of mine though are hardly ever on. I think its silly for someone to be upset that you're not on Facebook unless that was the only way you could contact them. Some people just get too caught up in Facebook and take it way too seriously. That's part of why a lot of people choose to stay away from it.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Yes, it's very silly. Long ago I was that type of friend that would even accept 3am phone calls until my close girlfriends didn't even know how to live without me it seemed. I guess I felt pity but didn't respect myself so I was traumatized and I changed drastically. First my space then helping people out, but in the middle I actually got distant as soon as I met people. Now I think I know how to be in the middle of this, I respect me but also don't disappear, but it's been a long time I don't make good, quality friends (they are Vegan like me and I felt like meeting my race or something lol) and they are so nice that I wanted to get out of my way to be nice. They helped me so much already that I feel really comfortable to go back to my old self.
• India
4 Nov 12
I have had a facebook account quite for sometime, but i felt it is just waste of time. And our college wi-fi has locked the social networking sites. So, i deleted my account from facebook. Facebook also disturbs our privacy and secrets. For them who want chatting all the time, facebook would be worth for them.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Yes! I feel that too, I only have an account because of other people really. I don't care much about it. So that's nice, you got have more real conversation and phone calls then
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
4 Nov 12
I log into facebook everyday and make small talk , then take the rest of the day off . I also go there to play games and catch up new photos that my friends put up . I like facbook because I have a wider group of people to deal with and its easier to find people that like what you like . I also follow most of my shows on it , I like to hear what people are saying and comment . I think most people here are more about life discussion while on facebook we can just relax and read about last night episode , make some comments get some like etc . I am also a part of a game community , I get to share my game story and pics and hear what others have to say , I do like that . I get something different from every site , I join none is perfect but all have good quality and offer different things .
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
That's great, I didn't think yet about following my interests there. When whale wars start again I guess I'll be checking on what people comment then, it might be fun. It's my favorite show.
• India
6 Nov 12
For me, logging once a day is not always feasible. I try to be there at least once every two to three days. And to show that I am alive there, I go through my newsfeed fast and like some posts and pictures, leave some comments and yes, one very vital thing to do, change my status message. I also log into chat whenever I come to Facebook, and if I am caught up in the chatting I try to leave at less than half an hour. That's my time period to be logged into Facebook, I try to do the things I must do to keep the touch, and then off to work.
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
4 Nov 12
You don't have to worry about them because if they are true friends they will get in touch with you. There are so many other way to keep in touch with someone like writing a letter sending an email calling on the phone. S as long as your friends know they have other ways to contact you and keep in touch they wont be mad or miss you.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Thanks! That is true but the sort of friends I'm talking about I met kind of recently and was wondering how people are acting like in social network nowadays . One of them is so active that I wondered out of curiosity (because I'm the most absent) if that was rude.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
I am not into social sites, not on facebook either. Although I log in almost everyday on Facebook it still looks like I am not there since I do not log on chatboxes and chat with friends. It depends on how close you are with your friends on Facebook. They will never feel bad about your absence when you have other ways of communication aside from Facebook.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Thanks for that! Well they live far away so this group I'm talking about could be upset, i'll try like once a month at least.
• Mexico
4 Nov 12
Hi katie: That's a nice joke. As you said Facebook is a good tool to communicate people but if we became addicted to the site the result would be that we end up becoming slaves of this technology. Job is my priority over using a social network so sometimes I can pass a whole day without logging to my account and nothing wrong usually happens . ALVARO
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Hey there! But not logging in one day or another is normal, I actually almost never go there but I made friends that the cheap and normal way we are communicating are from Fb so I was wondering , but again they are adorable Vegans, I'm sure they get I don't log in very much and I told one of them that. They are so sweet that for the first time in such a long time I'm really going out of my way to be nice. It actually feels nice. I was wondering about going once a month, and that'd be a record for me. I feel like I'm loosing so much time there and in 2 years still don't like Fb. I like it here
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
4 Nov 12
I have a Facebook account but I rarely log on to it and do some Facebook stuff. I don't think my friends will take this the wrong way because they know a lot of different ways to reach me anyway. They have my number, my email add and my IM ID. Although most of them still prefer the Facebook messaging over other means of communication, I know I receive their messages real time because I get the notifications in my blackberry whenever someone sent me a message. I had it arranged that way because I know it could take days or even weeks before I actually check my account. This way, if someone did send me a message that need to be answered soon, I wouldn't miss it.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
LOL, can you believe I don't have a smart phone? From the companies here all of them need a internet paymment every month to use mobile phone and I thought it was an absurd to ask costumers that so I decided to not have one. I use internet home. If I could get a way to know I was messaged it would be nice. Well they also know I don't log that often so it might be good, thank you.
• United States
4 Nov 12
I would be missed. People wouldn't cry over it. I mean its just facebook. I am sure I was put on their facebook for a reason. So I would think they wouldn't be mad and put me back on if I wanted.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 Nov 12
Yes, it just a social network indeed. It's nice to get responses and everyone is saying it's totally normal, I imagined to be so but as the world got addicted to FB I thought maybe I'm being really rude, I guess I'm not hehehe.