Raised by older parents
United States
November 4, 2012 9:15pm CST
Hi! I ran across this website while I was surfing the net. I'm so glad to find others who have lived the same lifestyle I have. My parents were older when they had me, I was a surprise to them. My sisters were all grown and out of the house. Now, I'm on a mission to meet others like myself. I would love to hear your stories. I'll start:
My mom was 45 and my dad was 52. My mom thought she was going through the change, low and behold she's pregnant and after raising 3 girls who are all in there 20's and out of the house. I was always closer in age to my nieces and nephews, so we hung out alot. My sisters and I never hung out, so I never got to know them til I was older. They were like strangers to me. I grew up in a small town, where I never really new a lot of kids in my situation. But, I'm thrilled to find out I'm not alone.
5 responses
@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
5 Nov 12
I may not be able to really relate as I don't have older parents and I am not one myself. But I do have a friend who is the youngest of six and her closest next sibling is about 15 years older. I'd say that her parents would have to be in their mid forties when she was born. In fact, she told me that her eldest niece is few years older than she is.
From what I understand from her stories, growing up she feels that her siblings are more like parents to her. She does not feel much like she has siblings but more like every one was trying to tell her what to do about school, boyfriends, and things like that as if she was their child instead of sister. She lost both parents when she was in early 20s before she got married herself. Like you, she also said that she does not feel too close with her older siblings. The one she is closest with is the sister next to her as she lived with her family and even stayed in the same city after she got married and had her own family.
• United States
15 Nov 12
I'm exactly the same, out of all my nieces and nephews I have 2 that I'm really close to. I have one niece who people would always assume we were sisters. ha ha it was funny :)
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• United States
15 Nov 12
I never thought of it like that, people whose parents die younger and are raised by siblings would have similar experiences. Thank you for opening up my mind.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Hi! My parents were half your parent age when they had me and when I was growing up they were a bit strict. Since I am the eldest, all the "firsts" in the life of a teenager, I always was given a "NO". How was your parents when you were growing up?
• United States
15 Nov 12
My parents weren't really strict. I was a spoiled little brat, that's for sure. My parents were at that point in their lives where they were exhausted, so I think they didn't have any energy to ground me or give me rules. To tell you the truth, I was a shy kid, so I didn't have a lot of friends. I didn't party a lot and as I got older I worried about their health and how much time I had left with them. I think it made me appreciate them more.
• United States
15 Nov 12
Sometimes I feel like my sisters don't know how lucky they are to have our parents see them grow up and get married and have kids. I may not have that. My dad has already passed on and I try to spend as much time with my mom as possible.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
your unique position makes you wonder about your own identity. it is good to know that you are seeking some similarities with the people around you. some answers to your questions and issues may be answered by the same people who underwent the same experience and position as yours. i'm sure, as you found out, that you're not alone.
• United States
15 Nov 12
Yes, you're right. It's an amazing feeling knowing someone else has been in your shoes.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
My brother in law is also what they called a menopausal child.
His mom was 45 at the age he was born.
So, he also hangs out more with his nieces and nephews since they're at the same age.
I am sure there are many people out there who are also born and raised by older parents.
• United States
15 Nov 12
Yeah, you're exactly right. I know now I'm not alone but when I was younger I felt lik no one could understand. It's, definitely, a relief to know I'm not alone.
