endless quarrels

@kaeirole (669)
Philippines
November 5, 2012 8:34am CST
i'm so tired of our endless quarrels..unlimited misunderstanding..bottomless disagreements.. my partner and i never agree on so many things..and i hate it.. she's fond of planning something..like a small business..then when i'm getting involved to it..the plan is only a plan..and never taken into action.. geee...she's more on talking and planning..in fact, none of the numerous plans she made were accomplished.. tired of this life!
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12 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8698)
• Netherlands
5 Nov 12
If you are tired of this then ask yourself this question: why are you continueing with it? Why do you go on with this relationship? It's very clear it's bad for your health and it only cost you energy instead of giving you energy, a good feeling and love. You do this to yourself and you are the only one who can safe hisself.
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@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
i've been asking myself why am i sticking to this kind of relationship if i feel tired about it.. and i still don't know the answer..others say that it' because of love..some says it's stupidity.. but when i decided to commit myself to this relationship, i know it won't be that easy..but commitment is doing the hard stuff..and not just leaving or giving up when i feel to..and then again, i won't commit to this relationship if i don't love my partner.. i just feel tired..but it doesn't mean i'm giving up..
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@riyauro (6427)
• India
9 Nov 12
I see that you are very strong person and trying to keep up your relationship with this girl. way to go and it is hard to find a partner like you these days and i am sure your girl is lucky to have you. Nowadays no one puts up with another, they mostly go for a breakup. You are strong and good human being. You will succeed in this relationship because you are trying and not giving up on her. good thought. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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• Greece
9 Nov 12
You don't seem to like her that much, so what is the point of living a life full of quarrels and disaffection? It takes courage to break up a relationship and perhaps it is time for you to find some. Think of it as doing her a good turn, she can't be happy either and one of you has to do something about it while you are still young enough to make the change. This would enable you both to look around and be free to choose a new relationship if that is what you want. If there really is love between you then a brief break will make that obvious and you may be able to start up again with a better understanding of one another later on.
@riyauro (6427)
• India
9 Nov 12
Oh that must be a crazy relationship for you but i must say that you are in love with this girl and you must try to speak to her more and discussion what is going on with her and why are the plans not working out. She must be going through something inside and is not able to share with anyone maybe. so you must talk to her about what is going on.. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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• India
9 Nov 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, i think you both must have a good understanding and adjust with each other to avoid this kind of problems. Mutual understanding is very important in love to avoid problems.
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• Philippines
9 Nov 12
i am also do have same situation like u...its endless quarrels with everything, but why still stick to it? guess it's what we called love and commitment, the time we start loving someone we already commit ourselves to love that someone endlessly no matter what happen, no matter how hard the situation is, hoping that someday somehow our love one will realize that what important in this relationship is love...
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@jenny1015 (13380)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
If you are tired with this happening over and over, then it's either you tell her about how you feel and think about what she has been doing or just realize that you have a lot of things uncommon that staying with the relationship is a waste of time.
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@Mattxu (62)
• China
6 Nov 12
From your words, I think you are not happy after you have married. If you always have to quarrel with your wife, maybe you will divorce your wife. If you want to divorce your wife, then you just do it. But if you don't want to divorce your wife and you still love her, then you should avoid quarreling with your wife too many times. You need to tolerate her bad temper. You are a man and you should do more things to plan for your future. Life is always boring, you need to shift it.
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• Romania
6 Nov 12
Communication is good, but most of men lack of it. And they get angry and "tired of the life"! So, first, establish if you want to continue with the relationship and if it's worth it. After that, if you consider somthing positive and decide to give this a chance, arm yourself with petience and take her to a nice place. There, explain frankly what you feel about her behaviour and start a peacefull discution. Women love disscutions! Then, promise her your support and push her gently into making one of her plans reality. I think it will be fulfilling at the finish. I wish you patience and peace!
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@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
I think you need counselling however both of you should follow the advice of the counselors.
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@dodo19 (39121)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
5 Nov 12
I think that you should try and talk to her. Tell her how you feel, what you think. It can't hurt to try and talk it through, calmly. Talking and sharing your thoughts and feelings is part of being in a relationship.
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@jaiho2009 (38989)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Maybe you can talk with her and ask her what she really wants. Being the man- maybe it is time for you to tell her that it's your turn to make the decision- after all, she already made a lot of plans and nothing pursue.
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@iMamom (321)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Wow, I have read the responses to your post , Its empowering and good advises. I am a woman who has many plans too there are times that those plans can be accomplished on my own but often my plans involves him too and our little family. I would prefer to have his cooperation and opinions about my plan and so I can accomplish those plans, remember two heads are better than one. Your partner is called a partner because you are sharing love,plans,and everything else, it takes two to make your relationship work. I think both of you should talk and see what needs to be done if your willing to share a life with her, Give and take is not a bad idea. Misunderstandings- less talk leads to it, women loves to talk , they just really want guys to listen to them and often this behavior is misunderstood. Disagreements when one doesn't want to adjust and accept. Good luck and hope all goes well to you both... thanks for sharing mate...