One of my best friends is loved by spastic man. !

I would be afraid to hurt is feeling also and I think he may know this and taking advantage . I wouldn't want to be his friend because I find it creepy to be followed around . I dont mind being a friend but when a person follow me around that gives me the creep . Dont he have any friend of his own ? Cant he see she dont like him? Why is he being a creep ?

Well, it could be difficult to tell him that you do not want him to be following her all the time. Coz it might look like discriminating the person. And he would be really hurt. I think you just need to tell your friend to be just friendly to the guy but not giving him false hopes. Much better if you could fins someone that can act as her boyfriend so that the man would stay away from her.

What do you mean by 'spastic'? Does he have speech difficulties? Does he have motor difficulties? Maybe BECAUSE of the attitudes of people like yourselves, he has social difficulties? People with disabilities are PEOPLE, just like you. They have feelings and expectations and needs in exactly the same way as you. Their 'social disability', however, is because people like you have always treated them as abnormal or 'special' or 'like a child'. It is UP TO YOU (if you want to) to take that big step to become a friend and to look beyond his disabilities and social awkwardness to find the real person inside. You don't have to fall in love with him or pity him, you just need to be a friend and someone who shows other people that he is no different inside from anyone else.

For a start, he is disabled, not a spastic but, if his attentions are unwelcome then he should be told. Personally, I would love to be his friend but that's just me - such a compassionate soul!