Could we tell the kids, "Ohh, you eat next month when there's money" ?

Philippines
November 6, 2012 8:52pm CST
According to the 3rd illegal wife, his illegal husband never forgets to financially support the kids of his 2nd family. I agree! But... mylotters, how would you react if that father give support only at the time he wants no matter if his kids don't have enough food to survive? Could we tell the kids, "Ohh, you eat next month until your father give you financial support" ? The point is, you get another wife again and have another child again but he has to fullfil his obligations and responsibility to the other kids. The father (branch manager) told the children that he got sick that's why he was not able to give money. Then, when spoked to the 3rd illegal wife, she said that there had been problem with the company and they have had financial shortage as well. The 2nd family advised the 3rd wife to kindly tell that father to make a way to support the kids.
5 responses
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Oh I know someone who's like that, and I'm speechless with so many negative words to say. He's a father of four children and I don't know how many others more outside and he's only a jeepney driver. He comes home to his family twice a month only and giving her a hundred and fifty pesos. Goodness!
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
He is a very irresponsible man. A hundred and fifty will not be enough for two months expenses. Hope the Lord will give justice to those unfortunate kids. I don't really know why there are fathers like that.
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
A man should remain single and no girlfriend or wife if he thinks he cannot fulfill being a father. He should not add additional wife and children if he has low income and cannot support financially. Kids suffer a lot. I really pity those poor kids.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Oh, I hope this people would responsible for what they have done. If they don't get a woman pregnant there would be no kids or children to feed about. Poor children, they are victims of their parent/s irresponsibility. I really hope they'll get change of heart and mind.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 12
That is kind of the problem with some people these days. They want to have many wives but they don't really have the financial requirement to support their families. I would never agree with polygamy as I can see more harms than good to everybody involved in such a relationship. I don't think just be telling the father to make a way to support the kids can solve the problem as you can't just increase your earning by wishing it.
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
I agree with you. So the man should not get additional wives and children. That is a big problem especially when commodities are getting more expensive and salaries are still the same. I really feel sad for this kind of situation.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
What the h*ck. I wonder if the illegal wives (2nd and 3rd) knows that the guy is a family man. Especially the 3rd one- does she knows that this man has a wife and a mistress? Oh well, set aside whether the 2 mistresses knows that the guy is married. Let this man sit naked and tied on top of an ant hill- maybe then he will understand what he is doing...(azzhole) The kids doesn't deserve to suffer for having such kind of parents.
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
You are right. The kids don't have to suffer. But their father is so irresponsible. The second wife's marriage to that man is void. She didn't know that the man had first marriage until almost eight years being together when her friend taught her about checking it online in National Statistics Office. The first wife left the man already and married another man abroad. The third wife knew everything but still accepted the man. How can she sue him? He is still giving financial support but not monthly.
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I feel so sorry for the kids because they were born to that irresponsible man, and they really have no choice. I mean, think of the future, I think those kids would hate their father to the very core. They will have to work very hard when they grow up. Oh, if the man can't stop loving lots of women then he can get himself vasectomized (is there such a word?), if you know what I mean, so he can't have children anymore. That way, he can spare himself and those women of future obligations, hardships and heartaches.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
12 Nov 12
Well, what you have written, it is a very sad thing! And to make it even more "dramatic" situation, it would seem that it is unfortunately a reality! Children, regardless of the status of their parents, if they are separated, accompanied or otherwise, should not miss the absolutely necessary in order to live! It is a real shame to hear say that in the world these things are still going on, where instill to pay the consequences, are almost always the children! The child hears: "You eat next month when there will be the money!" Is something truly obscene! What I have written is my personal opinion.
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
You are right. The mother cannot sue the man for being irresponsible due to lack of money. So the little earnings she got from her work is the only financial aide she can share with her kids. Then they just wait till the father give support. The saddest thing is when one of her kids got sick she has nothing more to buy medicine for her kid. She will then ask anybody to help.