giving my best
@soulsearcher109 (44)
Philippines
November 9, 2012 4:59am CST
giving my boyfriend my best is something that i have struggled with. not because i dont want to, but rather my selfish nature often reacts before i even think to give him my best. my attitude has been a major issue resulting in tension since we had been together for awhile. i naturally hide negative feeling around friends orr other people i hang out with, an then as soon as it's just my boyfriend and i a sour attitude storms. i never realize im doing it in a moment. i just feel comfortable expressing every single emotion i have around my boyriend, assuming he is going to love me no matter what! love me, YES! like me in those moments, not so much. he has expressed to me that he doesnt mind me expressing my emotions, but that sometimes he wished i gave him my best in this area. meaning he desired i had a good attitude gets poured out into the way i talk to my boyriend and respond to him, which often get followed by a fight. and its almost always very unnecessary if i only had a little more self control.
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7 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Oh, I guess you have to control your temper. It's good to show him the real you. Sometimes when we don't show them our negative side, they'll get surprised when they see it. I hope he will appreciate you being yourself. However, don't be angry when you're with him atall times. That's no longer healthy in a relationship. If you're angry at someone, just mind it alone. I guess your boyfriend is getting stressed. I hope you'll settle your every argument. Be more patient. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
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@owensfounder (3)
• China
10 Nov 12
i think life is too short, which required us to live happily!
thanks for sharing and happy molotting!
@soulsearcher109 (44)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
thanks angelkarah050182 and owensfunder...i am trying to control myself lately...i am not become like this if he's not doing something that irritates me...he knows that i am short temper but he still keep on irritating me with his simple gesture...but im trying my best to give my best for my boyfriend...as i realize that what important most in relationship is understanding and respect...thanks again for the comment...
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Too much of everything makes a sweet love story into a sour relationship.Give air into your relationship,and do not be too jealous in all the actions of your boyfriend.If you keep on griping him too hard,there would be time he reacts to all your non sense actions that could either separates your love story to an end.
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Both Mamom and Prashu had good advices too.A good relationship could last long if both of you each gives chance and air space to your relationship.Too much jealousy
is bad that you must halt it,you did not know what it could bring forth to your boyfriend and your relationship might be affected.Love is always giving and sharing so that both of you would be happy,not that you are just the one who gives
love or him only.I wish you all the happiness and luck.
@prashu228 (37525)
• India
9 Nov 12
hi yes, too much any thing is not good for health or any relationship. Give him and yourself space.
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@iMamom (321)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
I agree with Berting, Soulsearcher 109. Sometimes our Best Isn't good enough. Its not healthy if we always pour down all our emotions to our partner because we may end splitting up, it becomes a stress routine. We may think that our boyfriend would be willing to listen however it gives him stressed and may think that this whats going to happen everyday. Usually guys gets tired of repeating negative behaviors. They Like women of Positive Minds and Women that are dependable,They would like to come home after a long day and see their partner Happy and is willing to listen to them. Thanks For sharing, Goodluck and May you find Happiness on your Life. Happy Mylotting.
@lowloy (316)
• United States
9 Nov 12
it seems that my wife is like this also, and we have been this way for going on nine years, but we have been married for ove 12 years. she might realize she is doing this either. i find that this is too much to handle and i asked for a divorcew i have to go to court for disorderly conduct, because 911 was called and from her. i find that safety for my child and myself are better than staying married. it is too emotional for me and my daughter to stay with her. i took a stand against her emotional bullying over a week ago and 911 was called and now i have to appear in court for disorderly conduct. hopefully this is not how your marriage will turn out if decide to get married. good luck in your future.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Reading your narrative lowloy, made me realize that indeed some negative attitude of the wife is what can make a husband not like her anymore. 
Indeed, if we respect each other as husband and wife, we should do our best to act and speak responsibly. We don't have to appear always angry just because they are our spouse. They have their feelings too, and i think being together for many years make us aware already what is it that offends one another.
Indeed, if we respect each other as husband and wife, we should do our best to act and speak responsibly. We don't have to appear always angry just because they are our spouse. They have their feelings too, and i think being together for many years make us aware already what is it that offends one another.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
You are very much aware of how you can fix the problem. So, do what you think is best to make a better relationship as well as improve the way you express yourself. It is okay to tell what is on your mind but also, sometimes, we need to stop and think before blurting out anything.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
10 Nov 12
Hi friend, welcome to mylot. This kind of activities and attitudes are quite common in love, don't give more importance to little issues and forget about them to keep your relationship for ever
@prasadditya1975 (21)
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10 Nov 12
People who look for soul-mate .They are called soul-searcher .But with this kind of attitude? Noway , being selfish you can keep yourself happy always but when it comes about commitment effort is something which always required .I don't know , either you discovered or your boyfriend told you about your selfish nature that you have .
To keep somebody happy always takes out so many things.People do sacrifice to see their loved ones happy .Which your boyfriend is doing. Its all about attitude.
@prashu228 (37525)
• India
9 Nov 12
hi friend, it happens with everyone. we tend to open up only with the loved ones and whom we trust. Its natural that your feel comfortable with him. But yes he is not in the right mood or in disturbed mood this may end up in some fight or issues. so be careful while starting anything , its all for saving your relation and for your love.
