Older or Younger than YOU?

@hexebella (1137)
Philippines
November 10, 2012 10:16am CST
First let me ask the gentlemen first, have you ever had a relationship with a lady much much older than you are? How did it go or how is it going? Ladies, have you ever had a relationship with a much much younger man than you are? How did it go or how is it going? In my country, it seems to be awkward for a lady to be involved in a relationship or to marry a man much younger than she is, I don't know in other society if it matters or not.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
10 Nov 12
I haven't been in a relationship with anyone a lot younger than me. I have though dated a man who was a lot older than me. The relationship didn't work out but we are still good friends. He is now married with a child and I'm married with a child. In fact our children like to be around each other.
@hexebella (1137)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Older men and younger women is much acceptable than the other way around. In fact, my ideal man in the past is 15-20 yrs older than me coz I love to be pampered. But with older women and younger men, I don't now how it goes......
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• Greece
10 Nov 12
Let me answer your question hexebella...it goes quite well most of the time. A younger man is more energetic, slimmer and discerning than an older one. He has, after all, chosen a woman who is older and that tells me that he is self confident and open minded. I don't know why it is more acceptable for a man to have a younger woman, but I suspect it is for the obvious reason that a man feels flattered when a younger woman fancies him. Practically speaking it works well because women outlive men so it is less likely that one partner will be left alone for a long time. I am thinking in terms of less than 10 years of course, after that the ageing business sets in too early for the younger partner.
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• United States
11 Nov 12
@hexebella I think that if a woman choices to be with an older man than she will more than likely be taken better care of. And she doesn't have to necessarily worry about him changing his mind about what he wants in life. By then he will have hopefully figured that out and know what he really wants.
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
Hi! I'm actually married to a younger man. He's 3 years younger than me. Not much but still younger. Gone are the days that it should be men that are older than their partners. But still some culture, country or individual still like that men are older than women in terms of relationship. I don't have anything against it or anything. It's just how things work for them. I used to date older guys than me. Not too much older, about 2 years older than me. I also did date a guy who's my age. Both of which didn't work out well for me. Obviously since I'm happily married now to my husband. :) All I'm saying is that, when it comes to matters concerning our feeling and heart, there's always just 2 things : it's either you go for it, break rules, be free. Or you could stick to what you think ways should be.
@hexebella (1137)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
The gap is not that much, at least you both belong to the same generation. I wish you all the best and hope that things would work out the way you both wanted to be.
@chiyosan (30196)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
I had a relationship with someone who was my age, we still had different views, though, we liked different things, we were different with what we wanted to do, what our views and he sort of pushed me to always attend church service, and my mother does not like him and i eventually felt suffocated with the kind of love he gives me. I also had a relationship with someone younger than me... but then it all went sour when he probably is not mature enough to be ready to settle down... he was a liar, a cheating one too... who probably lied to me half of our relationship years. And i have someone who is older than me as well and so far i think it was a good one... though we have a lot of differences as well, and he can be stubborn... well i think he tries to understand me more too and he is always thinking of what can be done to resolve issues and we do talk about everything we should be talking about to settle our differences. It should actually depend on the person too. older, same age or younger... it can have its benefits, pros and cons... but it depends on the person, the couple to work things out no matter how great the differences of the couples are when they compromise, love each other and work things out, they should be able to live their lives together as couples wonderfully.
@hexebella (1137)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
You are speaking from then ideal point of view. Having been raised and grown up in the Philippines, generally, of course there are exceptional cases, I have seen how the men younger than the women have their tantrums and whims and the women struggled to understand them just to keep the relationship going. For Filipino men, I know that their maturity is very slow compared to that of the women, I don't know in other part of the globe.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
I have never been in a relationship with a woman older than me. I always preferred younger woman. At present my wife is more than 20 years younger than me and we now have 2 children, a girl and a boy. Have a nice weekends. Ciao!
@hexebella (1137)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
I'm happy to hear that. Personally, I prefer a man 10-20 years older than me as I could get more attention and care. Cheers!
@yahnee (1245)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
My partner is a lot younger than me and I always feel the insecurities over this relationship. My partner though does not feel awkward with the age difference since he looks old for his age and I look young for my age; however, I have lots of misgivings because I know that sooner or later age will be the determining factor. The relationship though has been going fine for 5 years and looks like we may still last a few years more perhaps until he finds someone closer to his age. I have since then accepted that someday, he may be tempted to find someone younger. Our society frowns on a relationship where the woman is older than a man because traditionally it should be the opposite. Our friends though have accepted this relationship since the start and don't find anything wrong. I just don't know what the future brings but meanwhile I just have to hope for the best.
@hexebella (1137)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
That's one of the disadvantage that I could see especially in our culture where the men projects "macho" image. It is already common in our country for a man to have a second family and the fact that our society is matriarchal, the men are more childish than women. Maybe in other society this age gap and the women being older than the men is not an issue and works perfectly.