I want to still enjoy the rest of my life that is why I have decided to leave.
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
November 13, 2012 1:47am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters,
Since the time I came back home, my brother and I always have had our small argumentation. And that argumentation lead us to a big fight. Until we end up having our gap. And since he doesn't know how to even respect me so I have decided to leave from our home. Although I know that I am not the one who started everything, I have just chosen to leave our home to avoid a much big fight in the future. Since my brother didn't know how to show respect on me being the eldest and his older sister. Aside from that, I am too exhausted with the things that is happening between us so I have decided to moved out though I don't have that much resources. Another thing, I was too tired as well since this argument has been started last year and until now, he can't step down from his pride. Well, I have already did my part, I have stoop down to reach him since I want to enjoy the rest of my life but he refuse to do his part. So I have decided to leave from our home, move away and lived on my own. 
10 responses
@nitinnair89 (2899)
• India
13 Nov 12
It makes me feel sad to know about your condition. Brothers and sisters do usually fight and i guess that is how the love between them. You being elder maybe should try to make him understand. One day will come you both will miss each other
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
hello there,
i think i have given all the understanding that i need to do. that i even stoop down my pride and ego. but he didn't bother to give me a little respect. that he even asked his children not to call me auntie anymore.
@nitinnair89 (2899)
• India
13 Nov 12
Oh no! I hope he will understand your importance in the coming future
@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
13 Nov 12
I feel so sorry for what happened on you. May your little brother is too young to be considerate and understanding. I know it's hard for you to go on this relationship, but he is still your brother. So i think what you need to do is to save this relationship instead of giving up.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Good day to you,
I guess my brother is already old to understand things. Since he will turn 35 next month. I am not giving up and all I need is for him to respect me even in small ways.
@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
14 Nov 12
So have you ever tried to find out the reason why your brother showed no respect to you. Maybe you have boiled your brother in the early years that made hime form this bad habit.
You both need to talk on this issue and why he did that.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
hi,
i also experienced having an always argument before with my sister,we always fought i think almost a year,but then i realized that she is still my sister and i need to respect her,and now i am glad because we are the most closes sibling rather than to my other sibling.and aside from that i never think to leave.
@Angelpink (4031)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I can see a very humble and matured Aira . Not all things are given by God in our hands , some are really cross for us to carry such as your brother . No matter how you push your side nothing happened. Sometimes that really happens , and no choice left for us but to accept them as they are and if possible understand them for after all , he is still brother , a flesh of your flesh and a blood of your blood.
You have done the right thing , giving him the way because if you did not maybe up to date you will still fight , no peace ! The sound family member should be the one to do things that will favor peace and order in the family.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
That is sad, siblings siblings arguments could lead to a big fight when the issue is not addressed quickly. I don't get myself involve when my hubby and his siblings argued. I just discuss it with hubby after and then tell him that he needs to slow down co's he's the oldest so that his siblings would respect him. Thankfully... they're okay and his siblings listen and look up to him.
@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
13 Nov 12
I am sorry to hear this. No one should leave the house when there is an argument because that will just lead to a more serious misunderstanding. Who's house is it? is it parents' house. Then you should come back and try to reconcile with your brother. If it is your brother's house then you have made a right decision. Just take sometime, he is not yet ready. Let him take a deep breath and think things over. But do not lose your hope and communications with him. If you can check and talk to him from time to time. do so. I am happy that you don't have too much pride and big ego to fight with your brother until the end of your days. So peace be with you and say that to your brother. Peace man!
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
A pleasant day Mavic123456,
That house belongs to our parents and for me, I don't really want that argument to take too long. That I even stoop down my ego but my brother didn't bother to give even a little respect towards me. So I decided to leave for a while since I don't want to feel sad as well as I don't want to woke up anymore having a teary eyes.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
That happened to one of my colleagues too. However, it was not her brother. She had some arguments with her mom. She also left their house and lived on her own. After a few months, she went back home. I hope you and your brother will reconcile soon and live happily again. God bless you and your family.
@kokomo (1866)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I feel so sorry for what you have gone through with your brother. Like you do, me and my brother were also often quarreling before when we were kids. We keep on yelling with each other, even the simple household chores that has been divided into us as our responsibility in our home, we always end up fighting. But now that we are growing older, we already knew how to respect each other. We seldom fighting already and it is once in a blue moon. He is now very sweet with me. Just pray that everything will turn out well with you and your brother.That your brother will be enlightened.
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
One can not claim to be respected just because of age. Respect is something you must earn. Listen well, I'm NOT saying that you don't deserve respect because I don't know you nor your brother. But as my mother always told us: where two are fighting, two are to blame. And she was right. Your post doesn't say how you live. Only with your brother? How old are both of you? It's hard to give any advice this way.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I'm sorry for that between your brother. However, you did your part already and you stoop down to reach him. Give him more time, he would then realize his mistakes. You move out so you can have also peace. That is good for you. Maybe in time everything will be settled with your brother.
