Mother-in-Low ---- Daughter-in-Low

United States
November 13, 2012 2:35am CST
Hello EveryOne!! As we heared so many different stories about Mother-in-low & Daughter-in-low relationships. Different jokes on this relationship, we heared. Dr.Terri Apter, a Psychologist and senior tutor of Newham College, Cambridge University, who carried out the research about that relationship, found two-third of daughter-in-low believed that their mother-in-low frequently exhibited jealous, maternal love towards their sons. Two-third of mother-in-low complained for being excluded and isolated. She called this as the most damaged relationship. What do you say about this relationship? Are you having any trouble in your relationship with your mother-in-low or daughter-in-low? How can this relationship get better?
6 responses
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
hi, i still don't have a mother in law,but because my brother and my sister already married to there partner,in the side of my brother,his wife is really good to us and we treat her as a sibling too vise verse,then e=in the side of my sister,her husband was not that good to my mother and it was a long story where it started.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
I have a very good relationship with my mother-in-law. There's no rift or awkwardness between us. When I was in the Philippines, we usually went shopping together. We even went abroad on a trip together without my husband and child. She's very understanding as she had been a daughter-in-law herself. So she told me that she would never do what her mother-in-law did to her.
@flapiz (22402)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov 12
This phenomenon is very common ever since who knows when. Mothers would always want to keep her son at bay and when he marries and starts a new family the mom sometimes will feel lonely so the mom blames the wife. But this could be remedied as times goes by I guess. My mom and my grandma doesn't get along well at first but now they are partners in organizing family events. Well at the moment I am not married but granting that I will be in the future, it is one of my requirement for a groom that his mother likes me. I don't want to be one of those people who would have a monster in law story.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
for me.. i have no problems in dealing with my in laWS right now, i think its because i live in their place coz me and my husband dont have enough money yet to start on our own,
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I do not have yet mother in law but I could feel my mother as a daughter in law with my grandmother. I remember during my childhood, they are not in good terms. They are always fighting. You are right. I also noticed before that my grandmother was jealous with my mother. But then as years passed by, they learned how to love each other. They learn how to care about each other. And until the last day of my grandmother in this earth, they were be friends.
@xhanne009 (108)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I choose to keep quiet when my mother-in-law and I got misunderstandings. And I know she's doing the same thing too. Maybe it's true to be called the most damaged relationship cause it's true that there's jealousy exist in between. Good thing I've good a good mother-in-law who understands me each time I have a problem to his son.