Would you let your kids just whine?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
November 17, 2012 2:44pm CST
I got to my friends house, and here is this kid. She babysits all the time for free, they really do misuse her, and she just wants company.
We went to the park then, stopped at the Salvation Army. This kids whined the entire time, I wouldnt dream as a kid whining like this. He calls her Nana, and I just cringed everything time this kids would go Nana I want this or that.
She would say I dont have any money, and he would be jumping up and down going I want this.
If I did this as a kid I would be kicked into next week. Now I know she isnt the Mother, but we would dream acting like this in public. She is really close to this family, and she is more or less the acting Grandmother.
This kid has no manners at all, he was jumping infront of people on the sidewallk, pushing people out of his way, and just screaming, taking fits.
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12 responses
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
18 Nov 12
Oh good lord, no...I would not tolerate this behavior. I would hav given him a chance or two to straighten out and then we would be going back to the car and that would be it. And in the future, if I needed to go somewhere, I'd have a backup sitter to watch him just to give him a clear message that if he wants to go with me, he had better behave because there are other options. With most kids, it only takes a time or two and they get the message. Sounds as if someone has given in to this kid in order to subdue him rather than take the time to set him straight.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
27 Nov 12
I thought maybe because he was with her, and could get away with anything (shes a real push over). I think its his home life, his mother jumps guy to guy (she had their father, then the man she married, then the current guy), the 3 kids are all from different guys. The guy she is with now are always fighting and not examples to them, they give the kid whatever to shut him up, or yell at him which he will just act out more. She is young as well, she is a few years older than me and had the kids at a young age (she really just gets by not raising them), he is school aged, cant read (at all), or tie his shoes.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Nov 12
I would never allow any child with me out in public to act this way! Ever. No child will embarrass me that way in front of people. I would have been super embarrassed!
I would have immediately taken this child outside and warned them if they do it again they will be in time out the rest of the day if they act like that again. I know there is not much else that can be done when it is not her child. But I would not have stayed there with that child, thats for sure!!
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Nov 12
I would also tell the parents that if the child cannot behave for me I cannot watch them anymore...
I have had to do that with my childcare as well. These 2 children came to me and they would color on my walls, beat up on my kids, break the toys, etc... I finally told their mom she does not pay me enough to deal with her kids! I told her to find somewhere else to bring them to...My kids were SO happy once they were gone!
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
19 Nov 12
Hello Ricki. Whiny kids really get on my last nerves. This kid you are speaking of is not just whiny but sounds like a real brat. I would say your friend is either afraid of the kid or likes to let him control him. I have found that most kids behave better for some one out side the parents if they just exert a little discipline. Your friend might not be the kid's mother but since she is caring for him she is responsible for the kid when he is with her she needs to take responsibility and teach him to behave and to mind his manners.Your friend should have gotten down on his level taken him by the arms and told him she doesn't have any money and to not be having a temper tantrum any more. If she doesn't the kid will end up in all kinds of trouble.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Nov 12
I wouldn't have been allowed to act like that as a child and my children aren't allowed to act like that either. In fact, I have to say that I get embarrassed for other people when we are out of the house and I see other people's children acting like that.
I make sure that my children and my nieces know that there is a time when they are able to get something and there are other times when they don't need anything new. In making sure that children aren't always given anything that they wanted, I think they grow up to be adults that aren't as materialistic.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Nov 12
Sounds like the kid doesn't have any real parenting. I would also be punished severely if I acted like that. Parents are much more permissive nowadays.
@prashu228 (37518)
• India
18 Nov 12
The kid sounds too irritating. I cant stand with such kids. Your friend might have warned the kid to stop making nonsense. Ya i see some kids are really notorious they don't listen to anyone and want their demands to be met at any cost.
@Blondie2222 (28610)
• United States
17 Nov 12
If I had kids I would never let my kids act like that out in public. That is just plain rude and obnoxious. Those parents should be ashamed of the way they let their kid act. They should spend more time with their kids and teach them from right and wrong and how to act out in public. Obvious it shows they never really punish their kids or even teach them how to act when around others. I couldn't imagine how this kid must act in school, they probably won't even tolerate it. Hopefully this lady your friend that watches him will start teaching him the right way to act in public and helping him learn since his parents aren't.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
17 Nov 12
Those kids sound like a nightmare , I think kids like that will drive me crazy . Only their parents can really tolerate them . I think that how is parents grow him and no one can stop him but them . If you make any complain to the parents you would see how they look at you .
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
17 Nov 12
I wouldn't watch a child like that--not even for pay. I expect good manners out of children, whether they be two-legged or four-legged.
Obviously, I wouldn't be okay with my children acting like that. If and when I have human children, I would not set up a situation in which they grow into brats. I don't want to raise spoiled, materialistic children; I want for them to be kind, involved in our faith community and the community-at-large, hardworking and educated.
Raising children well so that they become good adults is a gift both to the children and to the world.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
18 Nov 12
Kids can be so annoying when they're uncontrollable like that and the more they're not being controlled, the more they annoy.
Glad I don't have any!
Me and my brother instinctively knew that our Mum and Dad didn't have much money when we were little so we didn't keep mithering them for 'stuff' all the time. Mum has often said that she doesn't know how she'd cope with such expensive gadgets and games consoles being around now as there was none of that in the 70s. She once bought a really cheap table tennis set thinking that it was going to be a dismal failure..but me and my brother loved it and Mum had to kick us off the dining table so we could eat lol.
Me and my brother instinctively knew that our Mum and Dad didn't have much money when we were little so we didn't keep mithering them for 'stuff' all the time. Mum has often said that she doesn't know how she'd cope with such expensive gadgets and games consoles being around now as there was none of that in the 70s. She once bought a really cheap table tennis set thinking that it was going to be a dismal failure..but me and my brother loved it and Mum had to kick us off the dining table so we could eat lol.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
17 Nov 12
Ho Ricki, what the real problem with this story is that a
parent lets their child just throw fits, whine and whatever
and then expect someone else to babysit their child..thats
the real shame...But I just don't understand why you friend
babysit someone child for free and the child has not training.
Can she really need company that bad????
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
17 Nov 12
First of all, I would not be babysitting for free in this economy! Second, if the kid can't learn manners and doesn't want to mind, I would just tell the family that I don't want to babysit him until he learns how to act the right way. That is just too much to put up with if I was working for free. I think the child's parents need to teach him right from wrong and how to act in public. Children these days have no discipline or manners.
