Former classmates stuck in the past
By Jenny1015
@jenny1015 (13359)
Philippines
November 17, 2012 11:33pm CST
Our batch is celebrating our 25th reunion next year. Fortunately, there was a couple of my former classmates who initiated in organizing a committee for the reunion. Over time, there had been issues on which place to choose for the venue. And in my opinion, the majority should win. But what happens now is that the organizing committee seem to ignore the clamor of the majority and that the committee is pushing too much pressure on the whole batch of participating in more fund raising activities so that the reunion will be held in a hotel. Well, that created misunderstandings within our batch.
Another issue is that we have batchmates who formerly part of an older baych. But since they repeated a certain level in high school, they graduated with us. And of course there were some classmates that wasn't able to graduate with us. This committee now has this issue of not wanting those classmates who didn't graduate with us to join the reunion. And then they also have issues of those batchmates who were originally from batch "87 who attended the reunion of batch '87 last night. I mean, what is the big deal if those batchmates were invited by their former classmates to join them in their reunion?
Can anyone please enlighten me with this? Am I missing something? They have been constantly bickering in our Facebook group and also on their wall posts. I don't seem to be as excited anymore to join our reunion because of these. It makes me real sad that even after 25 years, some have just been stuck in their past and never grew up!
7 responses
@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
18 Nov 12
I`d try to get together (by FB or by other method) with people thta think as you do and try to change this. Who decided about this organization commitee? Why do they have so much power?
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
They just assigned themselves to be in charge coz they were the ones who initiated it. I mean we were all grateful that someone stepped up in making an event for our reunion. However, the committee is missing some point- that the reunion is all about us and not just them. So all inputs from the whole batch should be given notice. And to be able to decide on a certain issue, there should be a poll made and whatever the results of the poll should be followed.
The 25th reunion is a once in a lifetime event, we want it to be meaningful, right? But these people, they never grew up!
@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
19 Nov 12
Probably you should get some people to tell them that they are overdoing it.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Somebody did. And the organizing committee twisted everything. They were accusing that person as creating trouble and was planning to have a break away group which was really not true. The committee is making themselves look good to the rest when in reality, they are messing things up themselves.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
19 Nov 12
It is amazing how some people get stuck in the past.
I think I agree with the previous response. The majority should get together and have a reunion of their own. I would, of course, invite the others too, but at the same time change things to fit a more present scenario.
Thank you for the best response. All any of us want is for things to be fair.@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Hello, JeninTn! That is really how my friends and I wanted it to be. The head of the committee is such hard-headed! She doesn't accept any suggestions and when one comes up to her, she would have this attitude of holding her head up or raising her eyebrows. If I were just a different person, I would have beaten her up!
But seriously, we just anted to have fair decisions.
She doesn't accept any suggestions and when one comes up to her, she would have this attitude of holding her head up or raising her eyebrows. If I were just a different person, I would have beaten her up! But seriously, we just anted to have fair decisions.
@cobalt20 (1318)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Miss Jenny, it seems not good for your batch reunion. I did not attend any of my batch reunion in high school and college. My advice is do not attend anymore that reunion. It makes you confuse. You can just meet your former classmates outside the reunion.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Hello, Cobalt20! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. However, I am still hoping that we all could still fix things before July 2012. Most of us feel that it is an important event in our lives and we would make everything possible just for the reunion to happen. Some of my friends from the US are coming home in Manila just to attend the reunion and I am sure that they are eager to be on that event. We will be having a meeting after a week or two to talk about it and on how we could help the existing committee with all the planning. If things would not turn out good, well, maybe there would be two venues for the event.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
14 Dec 12
I would feel just as you do , after such as long time its like they are still in high school . I guess the saying is true , we never really leave high school , the drama continues .
I dont see the problem with allowing the ones from 87 and the ones who didn't graduate to attend .
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
Exactly my sentiments! I just don't understand how these people think. I mean, we all should be thankful for them because they initiated the organizing for the reunion, but they seem to forget that it is a batch reunion and every one has an equal opportunity to provide suggestions and that the majority's decision should be the one that should be followed.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
I feel the same way about some of my batchmates from highschool. I see their facebook posts about them meeting up like their still in their teens, doing immature stuff together. It's been 15 years.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
hello, Jureathome! Thanks for participating!
I think that there would always be a child in us. So they have to draw between the line of being child-like from being childish. So sad to see them exchanging harsh words towards each other without fully understanding what is the real purpose of the reunion we were supposed to have. I realize that we all have a common goal. but however, they have different views on certain things.
I think that there would always be a child in us. So they have to draw between the line of being child-like from being childish. So sad to see them exchanging harsh words towards each other without fully understanding what is the real purpose of the reunion we were supposed to have. I realize that we all have a common goal. but however, they have different views on certain things.
@roshigo58 (4856)
• Pune, India
3 Dec 12
You are not missing anything and you are absolutely right. It is really really sad ot notice the even after 25 years some people have not changed. If i would have been at your place i would have talked with everybody either personally or over phone and tried to find out the venue suitable to all.No matter some egoistic people may not join but all others would. So my advice is to just go ahead and do whatever is in your mind and make your reunion successful and enjoy. Best of luck.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Roshigo!
We have not heard anything from the committee for the past months and so some of our former classmates have decided to call on a meeting anytime soon so we could talk about how the reunion will be done and to where should it be held at. Am hoping that we could all have finalized this before February of next year.
We have not heard anything from the committee for the past months and so some of our former classmates have decided to call on a meeting anytime soon so we could talk about how the reunion will be done and to where should it be held at. Am hoping that we could all have finalized this before February of next year.
@kokomo (1866)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
That's the sad part in organizing a reunion. The organizers of the group are the one who are initiating what really they like to do in the reunion and the one they want themselves to be followed and the other ideas were set aside even if it is a majority. You should prioritize who is really interested to come and join with your reunion and do not consider anymore what batch did they came from as long as you knew each other. It will be an insult for them if they want to come but then they have been disregarded with the invitation.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Exactly! Almost everyone wants to be heard but all their efforts were left on deaf ears. The group of people that the organizing committee was talking about was more than willing to take part in the organizing of the event themselves. They just refuse their help.
