Child Support - To Pay or Not To Pay - Shouldn't be a Question

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As a single mother of three children, it gets harder and harder these days to make sure all of them have what they need. I, of course, put their needs before my own, as I'm sure a lot of Mothers do for their children out there. But when a "father" doesn't pay for his children, how is that fair? I know, life isn't fair. But that's a cop-out that I'm sure a lot of "fathers" have said for years. Here I am struggling to make ends meet and making sure my kids are clothed, fed, bathed, and have what they need and want (to a point) so that their lives are normal. And in the meantime, their "father" is partying, not working, seeing them when he feels the need to, which is once every couple of months for 5 or 6 hours at a time. He doesn't care if he goes to jail. Neither do I, at this point. He's not doing any good while not in jail, so he'll might as well suffer the consequences and be away from what he likes to do. Although, he'll be able to probably work out, have 3 hot meals a day, watch TV, and do what he does best anyway... sit around. And the time-frame for putting things into action are actually funny. I have been telling the support officer for months that he's not paying. And they actually have reports that generate letting them know who paid and who's late. At the enforcement hearing, the support officer told us that he would file a contempt charge, which could take up to 30 days for him to either pay or go in front of the judge. And that could take another 30 days for him to get a court date. So it'll be another 2 months that goes by without a payment to my children. I don't think life is unfair... it's the court system that is.