can someone advice me please

Philippines
November 21, 2012 7:58pm CST
i been in this relationship for a quite long time with my boyfriend....we love each other much inspite of our differences....the problem is we didnt have understanding about culture...we dont have same idea of certain decision especially about my parents....i am the bread winner of the family as my parents didnt have work, so i am the one who support them with everything, when i was in australia before i had no work as i just go there as tourist visa, and my boyfriend volunteer to support my family while i am in aussie...but everytime he send money to my parents all i can hear is unkind words for my parents which do hurt me alot....then we i come back to my place i find work as i want to have a self respect and so i able to support my parents, and by God's grace i found work...because of that issue (my parents) our relationship with my boyriend is not stable...he want me to choose between him or my parents....he wont allow me to find another man and he keep on blaming me as we plan to get married by this year yet he change his mind....he said he trying to help me yet i refuse his help of course i refuse because he want me to abandoned my parents and save myself from supporting them...my parents is poor but they never abandon me....now im stuck as he dont want me to be free as according to him i owe him my life...as he support me for 5 months and put roof over my head...and he said i am a player just want his money....so pissed of but everytime i want to open my mouth i just found out myself crying silently....i think i dont love him anymore by now....all i feel is debt of gratitude that's why i remain as his girlfriend...im afraid he going to kill me if i break up with him...
1 response
• United States
23 Nov 12
If you ever really loved him I think you would still love him. Maybe you were just with him because you were in a desperate situation. It was good of him to help support your parents. He did that thinking you loved him. And maybe you were talking yourself into loving him or maybe you really did love him. But you can't stay with a man because you are indebted to him. It sounds to me like you don't love him and you want to leave him. Maybe you could move away (with your parents) to a place where he doesn't know where you are at. Or go to some kind of safe haven for awhile.