I don't think I'll be sleeping anytime soon...

Actually it is pretty easy for me to handle judgements cause it gives me the option to rethink everything ! Sometimes I see that I was wrong and it gives me the chance to apologize ! When I think I am right I have the chance to prove it! When the person don't give me the chance I still have the choice to mark him/her of my ever known list. And it's really working good for me

joliefille, I would say first let's examine the fallacies of your friends words. He said you were a bad character, but you did him a favor. First of all, I think that only someone with a good character would do a favor for someone else. Secondly, he said that he had forgiven you, and if that was true he would not need to attack you for your actions. I think you just need to stand firm in your belief that you did the right thing. You were put into an ethical hard spot by your friend, and you made the decision that your conscious said that you could live with the only choice that you could have done and still lived with yourself. Now, I am guessing that your friend feels guilty and is lashing out. Do not let him put that guilt on you. It was his choices that got him into the mess. It is not on you. The only circumstance that I have ever had was at work with a colleague where she told me she was planning on butting into a confidential matter. It went something like this that she planned to share confidential information about a student with someone that did not have a need to know. Her rationale was that the other person knew the family, and she wanted the party that had no right to the confidential information to contact the family to find out what was going on with this student. It was a sticky situation. The only thing I said to her was you have to be careful because of confidentiality. She still did not get it, so I walked away. Later that day, I did what I had to do. That was I told the supervisor. I had no choice. Well, the supervisor decided to just tell us both at the end of the day blanket statement about confidentiality and that if things were not kept confidential that was grounds for discipline including dismissal. The supervisor had privately told me not to worry about it, so I sat there knowing what she was referring, but it was a little like why couldn't you just pull her aside and address this one on one with that person. When the supervisor left the room, the person confronted me stating that she did not appreciate me sharing her business with the supervisor. All I said was that if she wanted to discuss it that we could go talk to the principal about the matter. Trust me, it took all my conviction of knowing I did the right thing to stand my ground.

He will regret not acknowledging the child he sired especially if the child become a popular public figure when he grows up. You have done justice to his helpless ex by exposing him as the co-owner of the unborn child. He is a coward and thinks that he can escape the responsibility by his denial.I do understand the hurt you're going through being misjudged by this person. Just ignore it as long as your consciousness is clear.

I can just imagine what name he is using. Yes, forget what he said, he's a loser anyway and just keep on sharing and posting your feelings and ideas and watch your earnings grow.

hi that's so sad. But dont let the thing to disturb you .Calm your selves and spend sometime on something useful.

Have you ever heard of projection? That's when a person sees their own faults in other people instead of in themselves. In time, if he sees the situation clearly, he will probably regret saying that to you. Unfortunately, since the problem is between him and his ex-girlfriend, when he does see the error, he will probably focus on her instead of what he said about you. There's not much you can do. You can write him a heartfelt note about how you feel. You can offer to help this ex-girlfriend who is in a scary situation. Or you can move on from the drama and focus on yourself.

I guess that I have to consider myself to be pretty lucky because of the fact that I really haven't encountered a lot of people that have had this kind of lack in judgement. With that said, there have still been some people that I have encountered in my life that have serious miscomings when it came to their character and when I see that there are people that are behaving that way on a regular basis, I remove those people from my life.