Can they be called "friend of mine"?

China
November 24, 2012 4:58am CST
I have a problem these days. Everytime when I have an idea, one of my friends always says "no,that is impossile" to me. I don't know whether he is on purpose.
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8 responses
@babyanna (1216)
• China
24 Nov 12
Nah, I don't think so. People say "no, that is impossible" all the time to a friend usually for two reasons. One, they feel insecure with themselves. They don't like to venture in life. They always look at the negative side. A friend like that won't help you improve. Two, they don't trust your capabilities. Nobody needs a friend who always disencourage him/her. These being said, if you don't want to lose that friend, just talk to him. Find out his reasoning and tell him how you feel when he does that to you. If he apologizes and stops doing that, he's probably a worthy friend after all.
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@babyanna (1216)
• China
24 Nov 12
Uhhhh,"discourage",sorry. Man,I'm starting to forget basic words.
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@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
They always say no? That's not good, they don't acknowledge your idea. Or maybe your idea is far out that's why they can say "it's impossible. What was the situation? But don't be so worry about that thing. It's part of brainstorming, I guess. There are pros and cons, so accept once a person disagree with your idea. Have a nice day.
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• Philippines
24 Nov 12
yeah like what nelerkz said. you need to make understand what they really mean. sometimes there are negative thinkers may be your friends are like that. they are afraid to try something new because they are afraid to invest time and effort but it doesn't mean that they hate you or your ideas. may be the problem is how they look at life in general.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
25 Nov 12
I feel that we all have friends that can be rather negative and I feel that sometimes it is best to ignore people and what they are saying if they are being rather negative. Do what you want, keep your ideas to yourself and then carry those ideas out.I do feel for you, as there are people out there that say they are your friends and they are the people that hold you back from doing all the things you want to do, or need to do.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
24 Nov 12
As good friends, we expect them to have our backs and be honest with us even if the truth hurts. They are also expected to tell us what they really think about our ideas, and tell us what they think about it whether it be good or bad. Bu if most of the time, our friends will tell us that the idea is bad and no good thing ever came out of their mouths as far as our ideas are concerned, then I don't think they're being good friends at all. Some friends cannot handle when their friends are doing really well, or whenever they have good ideas that they would have preferred that they think of in the first place. S engines they deliberately put us down just so they can feel good about themselves. I don't know up to what extent or how long have you been friends but it honk you should ask why he or she thinks that your idea is bad or impossible. Coax him or her to tell the reasons for such conclusion. Wo knows, it might really help you. If not, then I guess you better hang out with other friends.
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@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
I think you should not feel bad if your friend is against your decision or idea. He is just sharing his ideas. On the latter, you still the one whom to decide and follow your ideas. That's one good thing in friendship, debating. You are different in almost all aspects but still you are friends. That's worth a friendship means.
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
24 Nov 12
maybe he is just trying to catch your attention. He is intimidating you to express yourself more. Maybe he is doing that on purpose or taunting you. or maybe it is really impossible. LOL
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@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
Sometimes friends don't agree with our ideas specially when it involves them. I have a few friend who is like that, so whenever I have an idea I express it with friends who would encourage me rather than those I know who would not. They can still be your friend but you can definitely keep your idea from them and just share with those who appreciates :)
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• China
24 Nov 12
maybe, i think you should analysis from two aspects. one is that if he is on purpose, he must be envy you or don't hope you can be success. other aspect is that he just a pessimistic person who always says "no" in everything. I think no matter what his word means, you just do what you want to do , and do what you think is right.