A Smart Woman, Married for Love or Money?
By GilMegans
@GilMegans (241)
Philippines
November 27, 2012 10:25am CST
It has come to my attention tonight to give time to ponder to determine on what exactly the veracity of a person who is often called SMART Woman. What actually being smart all about? How could this properly determined in the course of love affairs between the opposite sexes? Well, in the reality of life both man or woman are fervently aiming to have happy relationship, aspired to commit to a perfect partner, and of course to establish stable life in the future as well.
But what if all the factors above mentioned are interfered with a test which will probably ended up to the point that a certain lovers failed to reciprocate their love and promises because of financial matters and it may lead them to weighing things, it is either one partner need to give up the real love due to the reason that she has find another man who can put her life into the pedestal. Or someone who will offer that will bring her to the US including her family.
With this scenario, what is the possible decision of a smart woman. Is she will stick to a simple relationship yet she is happy and contented of the Love to her partner? Or she will go with the offer of good life to a guy which she didn't felt anything with love, but she can have everything and all the lust in her life? What do you think the best move of the so called SMART WOMAN pertaining to this scenario?
17 responses
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I don't think that marrying the a man you don't really love just for wealth is a mart move, because you might be wealthy and famous but your thoughts would always brings you to the person you love specially when you are going through troubled waters with the wealthy man you marry.
marrying the one you love may at first very hard co's you lack anything, but when you are smart it lives within you and you will strive harder, work more, dream bigger because you are inspired and the one you love makes you happy. So the happiness you feel brings you goodness.
Things would just be different when the love you love don't love you and the wealthy man loves you dearly. That's when I say... that marrying the wealthy man who does loves me is a smart move than waiting for that man I love to notice me co's things like that happens only in movies. hahahaha
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Hi leeandrew, well, that's a practical views of life. However, being too much practical could lead us to be unhappy in our lives. Sometimes, we are very eager and confident to grab opportunities that knocks upon our door but we will forget however the consequences on this in return. You can maybe achieved satisfaction in awhile because of your money but how about your heart? Was your heart as happy as your personal wants? This is somewhat things that need to ponder carefully. Thank you leeandrew for your views.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Nov 12
It is my feeling that a person should marry for love, whether that person is a male or a female. Thus, I believe in this situation that a smart woman would go with the man that she loved and not the man that had an endless supply of money. You see, you can make more money in a relationship, but money is not something that is able to buy love.
However, I do believe that there are some people among us that wouldn't agree with me.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Your brilliant idea doarnnmwin as regard to this topic is very much appreciated. True indeed that a certain relationship that's full of love and respect would last until forever. Money can be easily found if you have the courage and hardship but real love and happiness is very rare to find even if how courageous you are. Real love is the greatest gift that God bestowed on us and that even money couldn't paid of it.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
28 Nov 12
I think you get married for companionship and security. Some people need money to be secure, and so they look for a partner who makes a lot of money. Other people don't need their spouse to make sure lot of money in order to feel secure, so they don't worry about it. A smart woman does what she needs to do so that she feels happy and secure.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I definitely agree with you cutepenguin. Being smart constitutes heart and mind. The heart that feel your sincerity and loyalty, and the mind that dictates your move and decision made in life. It's up to us on how we balance our life without giving bias/unfair to ourselves.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
28 Nov 12
That is probably a hard decision for some women though. But nowadays, I guess most women would rather choose wealth than love. They will at the same time ask, how much love can bring them bread every day? When comes to reality, we just can't live in a fantasy world. More or less, people just have to face their choices, or they have to learn to live in reality. So, so - called smart women, they might choose money rather than real love.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Thank you for your views kingparker. Well, considering that a smart woman is the one that thinking about the future and that, she has to choose a man with money. Let me walk to the reality of life wherein a certain relationship was build up with money, lust and other worldly material things but without love intervention, would you believe that life has achieve never-ending happiness?. Comparing, however, to a simple life of a couple yet full of love, understanding and happiness. Wherein, both are striving and working so hard to attain a good life in the future. Which is which is Smart move, the woman who have lots of wealth but don't have happiness or a simple one yet full of love and happiness?
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Hi acey76, your opinion relative to herein issue are much appreciated. It is very true that being smart as regard to love needs the amiable heart to guide on your way going to your real happiness regardless of any reasons whatsoever. Just stick to your principle acey, and i am pretty sure the real love and true happiness will surely moving closer to you without your expectation.
@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
27 Nov 12
Smart people pursue their own goals and accomplishments,they do not ride on the shirt tails of their spouse.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Thank you ZeroStats for a bright opinion. I definitely agree with your words, money can be found in so many ways, but finding real love is so very rare. Being in love could make people more directive to one goal in life, and that's having real love with the effort to establish their own money.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
hi,
it usually happen now a days,and i have seen that smart woman will marry a guy because of money because for them its only easy to learn how to love them later on,so most of them look for the status of the guy in his life before they will marry them.and most of women now a days are very practical rather than before.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Will the smart woman marry for love or money? Im my point of view, these all depends on the up bringing and family status of woman herself for a smart woman will decide either using her brain or heart. A smart woman coming from a poor and struggling family with many siblings to look after and an old parents to support - i would say she will give up her happiness, her love, not for money but for her family to be save from mesiries. She maybe condenm by her boyfriend for doing such but she is not selfish for doing greater good than thyself only. On the other hand, a smart woman coming from a rich family, who got all but not love, will definitely give up everything just to follow her heart. They say smart women are stupid when fall in love but we dont know truly the reason for they are just human as we are who are looking for a missing piece of thyself which they found to someone of their choice.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
27 Nov 12
There are different types of smart. Street smart, business/financial smart... it depends. If someone longs for financial stability really badly, maybe, it's the smarter decision to leave. But if someone wants to be happy, it's smarter to stay. I'm the latter type, and I know I would make a really silly thing if I left my fiancé if he became poorer (with the exception if he's putting my life into danger, when he can do otherwise, such as he becomes a gambler).
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
The smart woman that i am referring to is in general category. Well, thanks for sparing time to share your opinion dorofee. Indeed, following what's the heart saying is the smartest decision for a woman who have the strong principle in life. But in the other side of the fence, following what is directed by the mind in a clever manner wherein you need to choose your future in spite of the fact that your heart is unhappy, is considerable as smart move by a woman. Now, for me it will actually depend on the woman on how to drive her life for the decision she made for her life.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
27 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. In my opinion a smart woman never looks out for a single factor but always looks out on a wider perspective and then she takes her decision.
She sees that she is benefited at large and gets utmost benefit and advantage. She wants to have a secured future and at the same time get all attention and love from her hubby. So she is intelligent in a nutshell.
What say?
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Well, in some instance you have a point subhojit10. A smart woman is looking forward beneficially pertains to her situation along the way through her stable status in the future. She will, however, calculate the weight of situations according to the gravity of possibilities prior of her concluding decision. She maybe choose both love and money depending her heart and conscience.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I will still choose love over money or luxury. I am not that so luxurious woman and I preferred to be loved and be with the one I love. That's the most important thing for me. I already experienced that. Before, I had a financial freedom. Yes, I really really loved it and I was very happy but then one moment I noticed even if I had that financial freedom there was still missing. Though I have a love life before but we were not in good terms. So I feel empty and still not contented. I still want to be happy in love life rather than in financial status.
@betty1989 (751)
• China
27 Nov 12
A smart woman should marry for love. With money, you can buy brand-new clothes,food you like, travel to the world. But money cannot buy you happiness. Thst is the point. I live together with my boyfriend even he does not have much money. We rent a small house, but this house brings a lot of laugh. That is life I want. I will marry for true love, not money.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Thanks for sharing your opinion betty 1989. Well, as they said people have different views in life. However, if circumstances requires at a time, one is tempt to find another recourse just to suffice her contentment and satisfaction in life. But on your case, my appreciation for standing firm on your principle and good characters of an ideal women. Keep it up!
@yiyoforever (2)
• China
28 Nov 12
A SMART woman is the woman who would not marry for money.Money is just thing that we take it to buy something we need in our daily life.It is material that can be substituted.Love is just to the contrary,it's psychic and cannot be replaced by nothing.With love,we can make money with our lovers and live a happy life.
@Mintlin (322)
• China
28 Nov 12
well wellll i have experienced this situation before.however i finlly chose the love.and luckily,i'm very happy in marriage.but sometimes ,i wonder what kind of life i would have if i choose money ? I'm sure the material life is much better than now,but will i happier than now ? I donot know.the most important thing is I'm happy right now ,right ?
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
28 Nov 12
Okay, a smart woman knows that love is a lie. A smart woman knows how not to be worried about money; marrying a guy who has no money would force her to have to worry about money. So money--while it may not be her MAIN reason for marrying the guy--eliminates all the no-money choices before she even sees them.
Case in point: no woman has found me yet; whereas--if I were out in the world making money & trying to make more--a woman would have 'shackled me to herself' by now!
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Well it really depends upon the person, even though she is smart or not but if she really looks for true love then money cannot do anything for it. There are smart ones who just love for money, but there are also smart ones who intend really to love for the sake of "LOVE".
