Best ways to make and maintaining friends in our life!
By RUBESH
@Manasha (2727)
Pondicherry, India
November 27, 2012 9:37pm CST
I think it is really a tough job to make friends in our life and even maintaining is utmost difficult. I have been success in making friends , but the same success is not extended in maintaining them. Hence,I feel tough on the process and ,however, try my level best to have a few. How about you? do you have a lot of friends and if so are you success enough in maintaining them without any problem.
I have found the following things while making and maintaining their relationship
1. Take it easy feature
2. Never suspect friends
3. Help them as much as possible
4. Try to contact them at least once a week
5. Speak from your heart
6. Don't cheat them
7. Never criticize them in front of others
8. Speak jovially
8. Forget their mistakes
10.As much as possible, never ever involve in money transaction. This is the prime most enemy of breaking a friendship
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14 responses
@effinmuffin (191)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
it's better to have friends who accepts you the way you are and don't leave you because you are you. We don't need to follow some rules to maintain them. the rules that we should follow is what is in our heart. though, i find your tips really helpful and needed in every friendship.
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 12
I like your list on how to maintain friends.
You are right about money matter. I heard a lot
of friendship/relatives turn sour due to money
matters. Help them in any other way but lending money,
somehow or rather did not get well in any relationship
and friendship. Perhaps this money issue is a sensitive
issue. Have a forgiven heart and sincerity is a important
element in a friendship. Thanks for this wonderful topic.
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@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 12
I do keep in touch with my friends but I do not have many.
Closed friends that I can jokes, help each other when in
need is really a blessings. I truly appreciate our friendship.
I do agree with you to stay out in money matter. That is one
reason I do not joint-venture with friends in business.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I think that all you should really do is be yourself. People will like you and accept you as you are when you are also true to yourself. you shoulkd nbot have to prove yourself or your iideas to be liked and approved. True friends will take you as you are.
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@Life11211 (452)
• India
3 Dec 12
You have mentioned very good points in your post.
I feel best way to maintain any friendship is when both are equally interested in keeping friends, one way friendship never works for long.
Don't force yourself in that friendship, go with flow, if some one really care and understand and want to be in that friendship, you have to do nothing (if you are equally interested in keeping that friendship)
I observed most friendships are now a days need based, so they keep till that need is satisfied.
The real beauty of friendship is to care without expectation, to give without reason and to talk without intention.
The most important is how you value each other.
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@abonner11 (46)
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28 Nov 12
I think that it is not easy to find good friends that will always be there for you in life. When I was younger I used to think that it was all about my friends but now that I have grown older I realize that friends come and they go. Your family is what should come first before friends. I only have a few true friends. I think your friends should earn your trust before you call them a good friend of yours. There are too many so called friends that stab each other in the back and they do not care about your feelings at all. I think people who have a lot of friends are the ones who can say that they get stabbed in the back by their friends a lot of times.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
18 Dec 12
Thanks for your tips for maintaining relationships . But my opinion, maintaining friends in our life is too hard .
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Thanks for the list in how to maintain friendship. It is very useful especially to those who are starting their friendship. Now, I don't have much friend left in me. It is either they have left abd never come back or broken friendships which needed to end. I have been through a lot of things when it comes to my friends. I would say I can't live without them.
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@prithiv28 (83)
• India
28 Nov 12
manasha ,
making friends and maintain it was very difficult to mine .so just try to follow your points ...
accept whatever comes. its a good thought .....
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
28 Nov 12
Yes, so agree with this specially with number 10. They say if you want to fight with your friends or your relatives deal with money with them. so better not be business partners. Just be friends and enjoy ice cream and coffee together. 11. Be honest. 12. Spend time with them. 13. Be generous but not to count who ever gives the most. 14. Be patient. 15. Come to the meeting place on time.
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@sakurage123 (77)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Friends are very important people in our lives.But I don't maintain any rules to continue our friendship.But, I see to it that we are happy and we understand each other.And I always support them in times of trouble .
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@drravikiran (38)
• India
28 Nov 12
Dear Manasha,
what you have suggested is just right. But over and above, I think real friends will not expect all these things. The just tag on to you. If your NATURE & BEHAVIOUR are good, you are gonna get good number of good-friends. If not, you will get a few of your own type. Nobody has NO FRIENDS in this world. Be kind to be friends and others too, is the one suggestion I offer.
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@betty1989 (751)
• China
28 Nov 12
Making friends and maintaining friends are simple for me. I never lie to my friends and if I am in trouble, I will speak it out. They can come to help me. Even I am busy all the time, I will never forget their birthday. The key point is sending fesitival greetings to them. Friends will think that I have one place in her heart. Wow, my friend can remenber me. Do not to anything intentionly. Keep a positive attitude to friend. Stay in touch is forever utmost thing. There is an old saying," a friend in need is a friend indeed."
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