Seperation anxiety
@christylynn41 (200)
United States
December 3, 2012 7:37am CST
Out of all five of my children our 3 year old is the only one who goes through sepeation anxiety. She is daddy's bigtime for a couple of different reasons. When she was about 3 months I fell (the night before my birthday in fact) and broke my arm, dislocated my elbow and broke my hand. I had a rough time of it because this was like 3 or 4 time I have done the same time of injury to the same arm because of my balance issues. My husband had to care for her completely the only time I could hold her is when I was sitting down. It broke my heart and I became depressed for awhile so I guess it was only natural that she bonded with him like that. Plus when I was in the hopistal having her I had complactions me and her almost died during labor. she was intensive care and I was recovering form surgey and complactions from the surgey and couldnt go to the nursey and see her. I didnt get to see her for the first time till like about 3 or 4 days later and that wasnt until I got upset enough at the doctors and he finally agreed to get me walker so that I could go in a see her after that we spent another 5 or 6 days more in the hospital. My husband returned to work last week after healing from injuries himself. Today starts his second week of work and she woke up after he had already left and was not very happy. Her and I have bonded since all of this and now that she is getting a little older she wants me sometimes rather than daddy but sometimes like this morning for the first few minutes when she realizes daddy's gone. Has any of your children expereienced seperation anxiety? What are some ways you help them get over it.
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@faithp88 (1)
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3 Dec 12
My son who is almost nine months is going through something like that but it alternates between me and his father. Sometimes he cries for mommy and other times he misses daddy. The best thing I would suggest is to just try to do things that will bond you two now since so much crucial time was missed. Games, singing, holding, dancing, etc. Every baby needs their mommy. So don't be discouraged.
@christylynn41 (200)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Thank you faith. She's starting now where there are times that she cries for me now so I can tell we are starting to bond. I try to spend as much time with her as possible. There are some times when she wants daddy and he will say something like ask mommy or go to mommy. He's not trying to be mean or anything but he's trying to help the two of us bond better. It's hard when your baby is sick like that beginning because the first few days are suppose to be special and then when everything that happened to me happened. I am thankful though that it was my husband taking care of her and not someone else but it still broke my heart. But now we can get past that and move on and hopefully we will become close as she gets older and I spend time with her now and I can take care of her and do things for her now.
@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
3 Dec 12
Oh yes, it happens. Just this morning, with my kindergarten class, we were singing and playing and a mother came. This child stood up and ran quickly out of the classroom to go to her mother. Then I just let it, she returned to the classroom. And she was really sobbing. I asked her, the more she cried. A teacher approached and talked to her and the teacher told me, because of the mother. I knew it was because of mother has to go home she could have brought something for her child. Then, she couldn't function anymore as in she cried all throughout my period.
Oh well, it happens and it is normal. child needs assurance that her daddy will return after work. that her daddy is working because of her. something like that. She will get over with it. She just needs sometimes. How about calling her dad in the office if it is allowed in the company. or if not, then assured her that she's going to be okay with you. Distract her by play . play with her.
you can do it. 
@christylynn41 (200)
• United States
3 Dec 12
Thank you for your encouragement. We cant really call him at work but everytime she cries I always tell her that daddy will be back in a little bit since she doesnt have any idea of time right now I can get by with making it sound like its not that long. lol. I also tell her that daddy is working now so we can do fun things on the weekend together and she can get more toys. That's what I did this morning I told her to go get her pony's and her carriers for them and we can play pony's for awhile till it was time for mommy to teach and in no more time she done forgot daddy was gone. I hope that she will get adjust to him being gone soon.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
4 Dec 12
I honestly think you should be happy for her being close to her daddy because that will mean they will have a good daughter-father relationship.I think you just do your part as her mom, love and take care of her and in time she will realize and appreciate it. She is still young so you can still change her attitude though.:) Good luck.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I know what you mean about separation anxiety. I am feeling that... these past few weeks and the week to come because hubby always left us for work. He goes out very early in the morning and comes home very late at night too.
Then today, he will be going away for a week to do some children Christmas parties. It's really hard because I'm not used of not seeing him everyday, even just at night. I know that he's coming to us after several days but I just can't help it feeling sad and lonely.
