Neighbour is drunk again,hopefully not wife beating!
By bryanwmc
@bryanwmc (1051)
Malaysia
December 6, 2012 2:47am CST
Sitiing here thinking about what to write when i heard screaming from upstairs again ..has been going on for some time , very obviously tone of the guys 's voice he has had one too many, and some times only his very loud voice is heard but occasionally, i can hear screams from a lady'shouting back then screaming,sometimes sound of things crashing or breaking, i live in a 14 storey apartment block on the 12 th floor and the commotion is coming frm upstairs. This started a few months back , i am guessing , is when they moved in, already inquired with the manager as to what is going on, it usually happens two or three times a week at night, Hmmmm, i am thinking should i just let the condo management handle it or should i just go knock on their door when it happens, but problem is i am not sure which apartment it is.the shouting and screaming just carries all over the block..I dont know should i be a busybody, or ignore it...?
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14 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
Report it to the management.
I am sure you are not alone having this problem around your area.
Just go to the management office and report this matter so that they (management) can make some survey or investigate this matter.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
I agree that this issue (domestic violence) is a personal issue.
But at least the management can do something about the noise.
The management has all the right to maintain peace around vicinity in any circumstances.
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 12
already done that, but not so much report as to make inquiries, think the security guards of our condo knows about it but they really have their hands tied as to what they can do.usually in domestic violence issues, spouses are very reluctant to come forward even when they have suffered abuse . They are even known to react defensively and angrily at who tries to intervene no matter how well intentioned the gesture is. That is the sad reality of these type of situations . Or until it is too late.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
6 Dec 12
This is a very scary situation and one I have been in before myself. The exact scene, but only there's a baby (6 months or less) in the apartment complex. I was scared. Really scared and not only for the woman, but also for the baby in that apartment. They lived right above me. There were four units in one complex and I was on the bottom. I shuddered every time I heard them arguing. I called the police, because I was scared. Sometimes we have to get involved, who knows what could happen. Sometimes we have to get involved, because once in awhile it might turn out that the life you could be saving would be your own. I wouldn't venture up to their condo myself, because that could create problems for you.
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 12
It is also what i am concerned about,whether there are kids involved, till now i am still not hundred percent sure from which exact unit the commotion is coming from, a symptom of city dwelling,keep your nose out of affairs that dont concern you, so different from small town close knit communities where everyone knows everybody else...i have lived here 5 years and the only residents i get along with are my immediate neighbours on same floor and a few from the swimming pool i chatted up, apart from that most of the residents keep to themselves,just nodding head in acknowledgement. But the noise from the shouting and screaming gets on the nerves when you dont know for sure what is happening and just guessing,
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
7 Dec 12
Even with the noise issue, you have a right to live in a safe environment with a decent noise level. Some noise is to be expected because your living so close together, but this fighting, screaming at the top of the lungs thing is beyond reasonable. I say "stuff" that city dwelling symptom and stand up for your rights. Everyone wants peace. It's a scary situation and I don't envy you. Hope you can find a resolution soon.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
7 Dec 12
Well it is really scare me,so you guess is that when your neighbour is drunk then he will beat his wife?That is really terrible.Actually in my mind when a man get drunk he should eat something to make him sober then can go home,it is very rude that when man get drunk and just go home directly,and beat wife?That is really crazy.
In your case i think that you still should let the condo manager to handle this thing,but may be you should complain to the manager more times to push them to deal with this stuff quickly,it is good for you also for that wife.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Hopefully too your neighbor will not beta his wife, and he does... you can actually report that to the authorities.
I hate guys getting drunk and beat their wife when they comes home.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
there is a special law that protects women againts violence and abuse. you can help your neighbor by comforting her and supporting her in facing her problem. dont let thing thing happen before it get worst.
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 12
There is .! In my country as well, spouse abuse is punishable by jail terms ,but first the case needs to be reported and as you may be aware, how many spouses are willing to deal with the prospect of getting their partner in trouble with the law..Also well intentioned gestures will usually be taken as meddling and frustration directed at the one who tries to intervene. My response above is i think what the tricky part of these scenarios are.
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
6 Dec 12
it would be good if a group of you neighbours went together,someone so drunk and violent can attack you instead.you can also call the cops for them if they respond to such calls,that woman is going through domestic abuse and it would be sad if there are kids in that house.talk to your neighbours and see what to do about it collectively.
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 12
yes indeed , it will be a good action to consider except for the fact that i am not sure how many of my neighbours or residents will be up to that suggestion. i probably can convince one or two that i know may want to help..but the practical aspect of it is ,i have asked few residents whether they know of it and have heard the commotion, and a lot of them feign ignorance or just exhibit the "never mind" attitude. But there is no way possible that anyone who lives in my block cannot hear it, coz design of my building is such that loud noises can be heard all over the whole apartment block, a cat meowing on the ground floor can be heard in my room on the 12th floor, and a drunken person's rants and verbal screaming match is 10 times louder
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Dec 12
I would definitely not recommend you going by yourself! That is for sure. Be careful and get people to go with you if you decide to check it out. If it gets too bad call the police!
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
6 Dec 12
I have to deal with same thing here at my home. The people next door, let the dogs and kids run the place. Then at night loud music and drinking, yelling. It never stops here. So I know how you feel there. Take care, see you soon.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
No we all have moral obligations to our fellow man. If next time you heard a scream like asking for help go help but don't go there personally you don't know what would be in the mind of the husband , better go to the police and inform them to check this couple. Women are protected by our law , so it's a big no no to hurt any woman.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
It is quite disgusting when you have neighbors like that. It is distracting too. However, I think you should ignore it. Maybe in time they will realize themselves. If that persist all the time, if I'm in your position, I would find another place. Just a suggestion.
Have a nice day!
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
7 Dec 12
Oh My Goodness!!how can people are very keen to hit some stuff or love one when they get drunk?im pretty sure some of your neighbors heard thats screaming too.Why you just knock the every doors just say it politely that you are concern of what you heard about.and maybe you can help if there is any problem.well,thats depend on you if you do really concern to your neighbors or just get deaf on what you have heard.
@Elenakat13 (425)
• United States
6 Dec 12
I would call the cops
Maybe the woman is in danger can't call for help and afraid too!
I was four years in that situation finally someone had the courage to call them
You can call them without leaving your name
@myranel (29)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
You should report it. Not only that they're disturbing neighbors but we never know if he's beating his wife, and that's a crime. It's all right that you do care about the wife. You should do something to prevent the worse scenario. Report it to the management. If they ignore you, then report it to the police.
@chunxiao (66)
• China
7 Dec 12
Don't take action by yourself.Firstly,you should reflect this problem to cando management staff.The management staff should check out what happened on earth every time.After the management have taken action and there is still no changes,next you can consider that ask the cops for help.But remember that don't take action alonely for it is dangerous to face a drunk man. Anyway,hope everything is ok.Good day.
