The Abstinence Bet

It means you are comfortable both ways. If he breaks the rule, then he would be a loser but you may get to enjoy the physical thing. I feel he may lose the bet because being a male he may find it difficult to control his urge (and when it happens a person's mind stops working and he forget every rule or bet). I appreciate your idea of a long lasting relationship when you both become old (even without physical thing). Would be eager to know the result of your bet. :)

Thanks! Well, it's a mix of things. I want to tease him to make a move. If he losses control then I would like that too, yes, I'm kind of perverted. But if he shows self control I respect him more and it shows that he is true to his word. I wanted a wholesome relationship that is not bonded by physical attraction alone. Thinking about it, when we get old, we won't be as aggressive so we should also learn to value each other's company even without physical intimacy.

Thanks! Yes, for us it's a win win! I'll try to make him give up first, just for the fun of it. LOL, i'm so evil. I don't trust myself completely either but any way, it's unlikely we get any action because we live far away from each other and we are preoccupied with some things. It's easier to be abstinent when one is busy.

Wow! I have read your comment in my inbox! You are a wise woman... wish you were my daughter...

It's also thanks to people who have taught me these things. There was this one time that I talked to a guy in a bus he was carrying his baby. He told me what he has learned about his experience and his regret in getting into marriage early. He told me not to get married too early or I will certainly have a difficult life. Times have changed and starting a family and keeping it together is even more challenging than ever.

Take care Aja103654 and stick to what you have decided! God bless you.

i don't think for me and my husband would have made it any more exciting and interesting for us. How does it help you focus on your goals for the future?

My friend is also like that. She got pregnant when she was 18 with her boyfriend. She didn't understand because they used the pull-out method. I know that is not the safest way to protect yourself from pregnancy either. She even tried to have the child removed by drinking some kind of medicine. It didn't work. Then her second son was conceived when she forgot to pay the pill one day. Now she has two sons. Her husband is working hard but she was not able to go to school any more. She's tired of being a mom but still she did her responsibilities. I understand. You already are married so being pregnant with your husband is expected. My boyfriend and I want to have stable job first, then be financially stable, then get married before we can ever think of having a child. That is why abstinence is the best for us, at this time.

We think it make things more exciting and interesting. Plus, it helps us focus more on our goals for the future.

That's really nice! There are very few couples who do that nowadays! I think it has to do with the period of time you have been together. My boyfriend and I just had our fifth anniversary last week.

thank you zuri!

Why would the honeymoon be more remarkable if they both had abstained? It could also turn into a nightmare.

hehe, I'm sure there are other couples out there who are doing this but just kept it between them. The world still has hope for some people. No, I doubt that it would be a nightmare. Besides, if it wasn't that good, try and try again, right? LOL, it would be fun to try out new things.

Yes, think so. I guess you'll get more excited to be together as you wait for the wedding day and will want and love each other more.

sure, anyone can do it, if they put their mind to it. I'm very glad with this deal. I'm scared of unplanned pregnancies. I want a good future, you know.

It makes you feel more desirable that he found it hard to keep his hands off you. Congrats!!

haha, sure, I'll talk about it here if anything comes up. We'll marry someday in the future, it won't be a short time. It's very hard.... but I believe it's for the best and I'm confident in the both of us.