Daughter got really sick
@melvinandheather1 (540)
United States
December 9, 2012 8:59pm CST
So yesterday was my birthday and all was going great until about 8pm, when my daughter starts moaning and telling me her belly aches. I checked her little head, no fever, I asked her what hurt, and she just said her belly. About another 10 minutes goes by and now she is freezing cold. She literally starts shaking.
I used to be a CNA so I knew that she did not have the flu, and I figured it was the 24 hour flu or cold. So i covered her up laid her on the couch, and got her some water. The next thing I knew she starts vomiting, not once, twice or three times, but 5 times in a matter of 30 minutes. I start freaking out by this time. I tell my husband to go to the Emergency Room with her while I stay with out youngest son and watch him.
4 hours later they come home, after i have called and spoke to him at least 4 times. Naturally I felt bad about not going to the hospital with her, but it was late and I needed to be here for our son also. It was the 24 hour flu though she is fine today, Thank God!
Here comes the meat and potatoes. My husband and I don't get in arguments, but he seemed a little upset that I didn't take my daughter and he did. He was just acting weird, and I couldn't figure out why and finally asked him if he was ok and he told me he was a little upset that I didn't take her. I can understand his point of view, but I can't change that i needed to look after our son, or that he ended up taking her. Am I a terrible person because i didn't? I wanted to be there with her, believe me, but I just couldn't unless we were to take our son out to and that is not easy to do when he is sleeping. Please help give me your opinions, I could use them.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
As a mother myself, I think that it was fine if you were not able to take your daughter yourself to the hospital coz you had another son to take care with. On the other hand, some husbands would feel that a mother should always be at the side of her sick child. I have felt those painful stabs of words that my husband would throw at me when any of my child is sick. Even if he is wide awake and my son would need medicine, or water, my husband would still wake me up to get it.
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@melvinandheather1 (540)
• United States
13 Dec 12
That's exactly how my husband is! Anytime that there is something wrong with the kids it's on the mother, I think that it should be shared. It takes 2 to raise a child and that's through the good and the bad.
I just didn't know if i was doing the right thing or the wrong thing because I felt bad and wanted to be there, but my son was here and I needed to be with him too.
Turns out it was the 24 hour flu and then my son got it 2 nights later. He is just now feeling better. Thank God! Something is going around and it is a nasty bug.
I mean as mothers I think that when somethings with the kids go wrong we already take it hard enough on ourselves. I know every time one of my kids get sick i always blame myself, either because all the housework isn't done or i should have used more disinfectant wipes or something. So I think that most of the time we should be cut a break as mothers. Thanks so much for your response.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
It does make uz feel badthat our husbands would make us feel guilty about not bei.g able to do things that they think we shouldbe doinb. But I say, let us not be guilty of something that we are not. Ee always do our best to be 101% in taking care of the family. And yes, as husbands, they should be able.to realize that their share in the household isn't just providing food for the family, but to also take care each member of the family.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Don't feel bad.
I won't take my other child to the hospital especially if he is young, not to mention it's late night already.
Imagine taking your son to the hospital while he is sleeping, that will surely give another problem if he throws tantrums due to inconvenience.
