What will your child respond if you are pregnant?

@youless (112091)
Guangzhou, China
December 13, 2012 2:44am CST
Some children may be feel excited since he/she will have a brother/sister. But some may feel upset since they are no longer the focus and the love will be shared with another sibling. They are afraid that you will not love them as well as before. What your child respond to it?
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@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Dec 12
I had my second baby 16 weeks ago and when I became pregnant with my son my daughter was only 10 months old so really she had no feelings towards mommy being pregnant nor having another baby. At first she didn't care after he was born because yes he did take mommy away from her but after a few weeks she started loving him and she will tell you that she loves her little brother. She is only 22 months old but she is smart baby for her and she loves him and gives him kisses and helps change his diapers and stuff.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Dec 12
How nice it is!
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Dec 12
Thanks
@Sreekala (34314)
• India
13 Dec 12
My elder son was excited and was very happy to know that he is going to be the big brother. He was only 5 years old when I get pregnant with my second child. He wanted a sister and he even found a name for her but he got a brother. He touched my womb with his little hands when the baby started to move inside, he often called the baby and asked whether the baby gets food or not. He draws pictures and asked me to show the baby as soon as the baby comes out. But he felt uneasy once the baby out and looking the baby on the first time he asked, ‘Mom the baby is soooooooo cute, am I cute like him?He got irritated later when the baby got my attention more than him. Now they are 11 and 5 years respectively, they love each other but fight too often.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 12
Your son is so sweet
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
28 Dec 12
Thank you so much for the BR. I am happy to get a BR on telling the real incident in my life.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
13 Dec 12
You are right some child are excited and think about their new brother or sister. But some feel upset because they feel now mother's love is shared with another child and she loves less to old child. I am not pregnant no child but surrounding many relatives they have the child and I notice this when they born again.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 12
In fact two children for a family is perfect. Since one child is quite lonely.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
9 Mar 13
i would really be shocked since the matter must be revealed to us in first place and then only it can proceed,it can be otherwise
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Mar 13
Alright.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
14 Dec 12
I don't know how it will be from mothers side. But i remember very well when all relatives used to say that i am going to get "brother" in few months. I was all excited. My mother tells me i was never upset about anything. In fact i used to love my brother a lot. I was always ready to give what ever he want. But the same was not with my elder brother when my younger brother was born. My elder brother used to feel so bad and upset as everyone was caring only my younger brother and all focus was not on him.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Dec 12
Perhaps this is the difference between female and male.
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
well, if you will instill in his/her mind all the positive possibilities in having a little brother/sister that having them will not lessen the love you have for them instead he'll/she'll be more loved because of the coming of addition to the family then maybe there's nothing to worry about.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Feb 13
Sure, I shall tell my child that he/she has a company to play with.
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 12
feeling of insecurity is pretty normal in a child when he/she is about to have a new sibling... need to re-assure the 'older' child that he/she will NOT be loved any less - and in fact, he/she now has a 'big' responsibility - to help mommy + daddy take care of the new member of the family - get he/she involved in the 'preparation' for the new baby - let them pick out the baby-clothings / the baby toys, etc... thankfully.. all my children responded very well, everytime when told about their new addition to the family..
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 12
I think the eldest child will be so proud to take the responsibilities.
@Shavkat (136866)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
If the child expresses his concern with a new member of the family. It is better to treat them with no difference. We just need to explain to him with sincere. I'm sure they will be fine.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 12
Of course it is better to treat every child in a fair way.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
When I was still five years old, my mother got pregnant and told me that I'll gonna have a sibling soon. Well, I felt happy that time because I'll gonna have playmate already and I love babies so the thing that came to my mind was I'll be the one to look after my sibling.I'll gonna take care of him. So I take it cheerfully and I got so excited.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 12
You are very generous and kind.
@betty1989 (751)
• China
13 Dec 12
I have no child yet. But I can imagine what my child will response when i am pregnant again. My child will be glad and say to me, OH, i will have someone play with me . i will not bore any more. have a nice day.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 12
Due to the One Child Policy, perhaps I can't have one more child
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
13 Dec 12
it is exciting and scary for kids when you are expecting another kid because they are not sure you will still love them the same way.when i am expecting a baby i involve the other kid by explaining to them and letting them be a part of the growth of the new baby, i let them feel the kicks of the other baby and we discuss what we shall do with the new born ,this has helped them feel they are part of the new child.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 12
You did the right thing.