Bitter or Better?
December 14, 2012 7:45pm CST
It's been a year or so after my last relationship crashed like a meteor on an open ocean. I've been in whirlwind of hopelessness and regret. Mostly regret. I hated how it ended and how he won the breakup. But now I came to realize how it made me a BETTER person. How I would rather open my book to read or listen to older people and actually apply wht they're saying instead of just hearing them. I have come to be more "mature" in a sense of "I now go to what is more important in life" rather than "how I feel". I guess he really was a huge D-bag and I could never be much happier about what he did, which is replacing me with another girl... Because if he hadn't done that, I would've married him and things would be worste than how it is when we ended it. So I guess now my bitterness made me BETTER. How about you? Have you ever came to a point like this in your life? It could be other relationship such as family or friends :) feel free to comment! Love, Almon Sarei xx
15 Dec 12
Yeah, I think the quote saying that "God doesn't give you the people you want, he gives you the people you NEED. To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be." is right way to put it. Some wisdom words : Be grateful to those who have hurt or harmed you, for they have enforced your determination - Be grateful to those who have deceived you, for they have deepened your insight. - Be grateful to those who have hit you, for they have reduced your karmic obstacles. - Be grateful to those who have abandoned you, for they have taught you to be independent. - Be grateful to those who have made you stumble, for they have strengthened your ability. - Be grateful to those who have denounced you, for they have increased your wisdom and concentration. Be grateful to those who have made you firm and resolute and helped in your achievement
15 Dec 12
sounds to me you are and were way too busy with what if.. and you took too less time to discover there was a very good reason why it went the way it did. I wonder why you mostly regret or did regret. Good to hear you know now what is more important in life, I hope this "more important" is YOU. I think most of us been there for shorter time or for years. Many women are dumped, just so or pregnant, or with a bunch of kids. I doubt it will make you a better person if you come out, but for sure is you are a survivor, a strong person and you will get known you.
15 Dec 12
Good job, almon! I have gone through a break up, but I am the one who broke up with him for good. At first I had a strange feeling during the relationship that he would cheat on me someday, for real. That was after he confessed to me that he almost cheated with other women. I do appreciate his honesty. But I knew I was becoming more dependent on him, and I was losing myself. I couldn't go out with my friends any more. I can only hang out with him but he's free to hang out with any other person he wants, some of them girls and he sometimes flirts with them. Yeah, he's a D-bag too! This really upset me. I had an epiphany! I needed to dump him for my own good but I was afraid too. So I told him that I want us to cool off. He panicked. So for a few weeks we cooled off. He was upset. He was also foolish, because he tried meeting other girls behind my back. I know that we cooled off, but did he really have to find other girls when we have not even officially broke off. He only met the girl. I noticed that he was getting messages from a girl. He lied to me saying it was his cousin then his aunt. I confronted his friend who knew about the meeting. They couldn't look at me in the eye. I was made a fool, I hated that they lied to me. That was during a class. Our teacher noticed the tension so he let us discuss the matter out of class. My ex finally admitted that he was seeing that girl who texted him. I smiled. And asked if I could borrow his phone I needed to text my mom. Then I threw his phone down four floors below. he looked like he was about to cry and he was running away from me while I stalked him. That cheat wasted my high school years. Good thing he only took out one year. That was my senior year in high school. Months later we graduated. hahhaa, sorry to tell you my life story here, hope you don't mind. I'm glad that you see things differently. It's normal to feel upset at first, but you did well in helping yourself stand up once again. Why cry over someone who doesn't deserve you? You deserve a better man! Besides, that person will get his karma for doing something bad towards you. Though you are a victim, don't let that depress you. Just be glad that you knew about his true colors before you married him. How long were you together by the way?
16 Dec 12
Haha! Winner! I love the part when you threw his phone four floors below :D lol. It's okay btw, I smiled while reading your comment until the end it really is an epic one :D also, we were together for almost two years. :) the worst part is, his family hates me so much when they used to really love me. That part sucked, but yeah, life has its own way of telling us things :D
15 Dec 12
I don't suppose there is ever an easy ending to a long term relationship and you have survived your experience very well. It may encourage someone else to drop the bitterness and start thinking positive thoughts about the change in their circumstances, as you have done. You had a lucky escape and now you have the chance to live your life as a better person and a more mature one. Our lives are composed of many difficult moments, some small some great but how we deal with them is what makes all the difference and matures us. Congrats and have a very Happy Christmas and New Year uncluttered by regrets.