He always wants to make the program.

Hi besweet. Sometimes it's hard for a parent to realize that their little girl is no longer little and has a life of her own and plans of her own. I agree you should be able to do what you wish with the job and Christmas. I'm not very diplomatic so I really don't think I can give you good advice on this. In your place I would end up having a big argument about it. That's the way I was when I was young. I think, though, that your father needs to realize that you have a right to your own plan. Maybe he just doesn't think of you as the adult you are. You're still his kid, to him. Maybe you can let him know that you appreciate his plans but that, being a grown woman, you have plans of your own that you prefer. I could be wrong but I think that you're probably easy going and have mostly gone along with things because of your easy nature. I rebelled all the time so this forced my parents to finally see me as an adult (when I finally became one). Not really a good way to do it. So I think your father doesn't know how you really feel. Break it to him gently. The bottom line is you can do what you want to do, it's just how your father will react that can create a problem - or not. And your father may not see it your way no matter how you explain it. Me, I'd just end up saying "I'm going with my own plan and that's it! You do whatever you want to do. Count me out." And stamp out of the room. I don't think that's what you have in mind and I wouldn't recommend it. Don't know if I've helped you here. Maybe I at least showed you how not to react (not that I think you would do it that way). Maybe you should let him know that you would like to spend part of Christmas with your family but his plans are not making that possible. And if his friend said it can be done after the 25th, then you're not putting it off. You're arranging a date that's agreeable to the customer and yourself as well. You're negotiating. Good luck. :-)

Some dad could be really bossy. And there is nothing we can do about it. Coz if we go against his will, you know that you would ever hear the end of that. But sometimes, we need to step up and say that we also have our own plans. And not that we are grown up, I think that our own plans should be taken into consideration.

Traditionally in our family, it was my father who made a decision, but later when he got older and older, it is us children who make the decision for a family activity, especially after many years of my father's retirement. As to your case, it would be great if you can make both ends meet. I hope you will find a perfection solution to it. Merry Christmas in advance, besweet.

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