Are you in favor of divorce here in our country? (Philippines)
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
December 19, 2012 3:07am CST
I just read in the news today that after the successful adoption of Reproductive Health (RH) bill much opposed by the Catholic Church, also next of the Lower House of Congress Divorce bill. One member of the congress agrees with these that if both parties are not really successful in being married why they would consider continuing the relationship only to suffer the feeling of each other.
We are in a modern world now that's reality each and everyone is entitled to express their feelings and to be practical in life, everyone wants its own freedom to be happy.
Your take Mylotters, I know some countries already have this law and for those don't have the same law like here in my country are highly appreciated to participate in this discussion.
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16 responses
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
yes and no for some reasons.
yes for the sake of those wives who are abused physically, emotionally and verbally by their shameless partners.
no because i respect marriage very much for the bible say that "what God has put together, let no man be put asunder".
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Yhea your right divorce is good for a victim of abuse in marriage.
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@franseman (516)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
When I came to live in the Philippines, almost 6 years ago I was surprised that people can't divorce. I never, ever heard of that before. So what do people now? They just run away. It would be good if that law will come too.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Yes that's true like me I'm separated to my ex almost 18 years now but still I'm married. We already have separate lives and family only we can remarry again because we are still married in our law.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
for me, church marriage is a sacrament. thus, if the couple had marriage ceremony at the church, then i will not be in favor of divorce. but if the marriage is civil, then i agree that the couple can undergo a process of divorce. this is my distinction. and this is my idea of divorce in the philippines if ever it will be implemented. this is to respect the sanctity of marriage.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Yes mensab I think you have a point on that in respect to those priests who will be the firsts who will be fighting to this law to be not implement.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
I agree on this matter, not to encourage married couples to jump into the divorce thing so easily.
But of course, the ground must be reasonable enough- or else this divorce thing will become a great escape for cheaters :xxx
Miss yah babes 
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Hi Jai miss you too
Yes you're right the process of divorce must take place in some hopeless cases of marriage life if one is already hurt and abuse.
Yes you're right the process of divorce must take place in some hopeless cases of marriage life if one is already hurt and abuse. 
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
19 Dec 12
I am in favor of people not being controlled. Even if the bible says it's a sin or we should stick to it until the end it was writen by MEN, not God. I think we make mistakes, people sometimes pretend to be someone and change after marriage, I heard a lot about it so they can't fault if the other one day, after trying hard wants to quit.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Your right Katie I know married couple who are not in good shape tried their best to fix their marriage but there is still end of all this sacrifice, we cannot force things that no hope at all.
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Separated couples nowadays are filing for annulment. What's the difference? I don't know what is the difference between the two but you can remarry after you get an annulment. What they should restrict is marrying too soon for it may lead to separation. In our place, couples must attend a seminar and see the priest or pastor before you can marry the person. Because the church wants to know if you're truly ready to get married. Annulment process in this country is long and you have to wait for years for the result. Will the divorce be the same? And will it cost so much like the annulment?
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
That's the things we must understand if this bill become a law. I know it will take also a long process and I hope we understand it very well.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
20 Dec 12
Just in my own lifetime I have seen some dramatic changes in the divorce laws in my country, which I suspect is more liberal than yours in the matters. Divorce can often create a tremendous hardship for children of the parties involved, but on the other hand, sometimes it is harder for the children if the parents stay together, especially in cases where the mother is a victim of violence. Here, the lawmakers and enforcers try to take the needs of the children into consideration but they are not always effective. If it is a marriage without children, then I see no reason for governments to regulate divorce unless one of the parties is a foreign national.
@coxjoseph5 (209)
• United States
20 Dec 12
what does a persons nationality have to do with it? If they need to divorce, nationality does not matter. The annulment system they use here is long and expensive, why make people suffer more. if you cant live with them it is wrong to go get another with out a divorce, the kids in the new family have no protection of the fathers name.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
25 Dec 12
You are right everybody has the right to share their feelings but now new generation couple not spend their life happily with each other they wants divorce after some years of marriage. Why they cant solve the problem without divorce. Marriage means not only two persons meeting but two families meeting.
@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
Ideally, I don't agree with divorce. However, I believe there are special circumstances that will truly warrant a divorce. In the bible, there are only two reasons for divorcement: one is fornication, and another is adultery. Besides those, there are no other reasons for divorce. It is difficult for a person who is in a circumstance that truly is not doing good and in special situations, I am for divorce. In all of these, people who are really in love with each other must think a thousand times before getting married.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
There must be a right reason for this law to consider that's why
a process must have a serious investigation before it grant to the couple.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
20 Dec 12
I think not matter in law of in moral,get a marriage or get a divorce is the basic right of human beings,no matter which country you come from.
And in fact I think it should not be control by law but moral.
@coxjoseph5 (209)
• United States
20 Dec 12
Yes very much in favor. example: i married a filipina, who said she was pregnant with my child, so after the child was born my govt wanted a DNA test, the result was It was not my child and she still claimed it was (she was having a fling with the boss at work).
That cost me many thousands of peasos for the annulmet and the birthing bills and more, plus 2 years out of my life.
If there had been a divorce law in place it would have been over with quickly once they saw the results of the dna.
This country is forcing people to live in sin like lynboobsy, that should never happen. divorce is best then they could get married and be happy.
thanks joe
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
HI,
Mr Joe was right having an annulment here in my country was too expensive and takes a lot of time to wait. That's why I think divorce is the best way for some cases like this.
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
oh my.. im sorry to hear that. i hope that did not left a bad impression to you with other filipios.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
19 Dec 12
I am not in favor of the Divorce bill in the Philippines. Philippines having most of the citizens being Christian, I think this will affect the way of Christianity of the Filipinos. A you've said, we are in the modern world that is why if Divorce will be legalized, I think every teen age will be more motivated on having partners and marry at a young age anyway they can be divorced if wrong things will come their way. Just my personal opinion. Thank you for bringing up this discussion.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Thank you for expressing your opinion but it is happening now too even we still don't have divorce many teens now are having a relationship even babies at a very young age and sometimes they will get into marriage and after a year of relationship they will realize they are not compatible to each other the fact that they are already tied because of the marriage. Like me I'm married at the age of 20 after 3 years we got separated until now I already have a grandchild but still I'm married to the same person.
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
19 Dec 12
i think divorce should not be a good thing unless violence,infidelity or abuse are involved.thats why people should not rush into marriage,choose well so that with real love you will learn to work on your problems,if divorce is so easy to get it will make people also stop working on their marriages knowing they have an optio of it,knowing its for life gives you a commitment to give your best.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Yes I think these are the grounds of getting the divorce faster. I'm not too much aware of how the process of divorce in another country but I know it is also in the process of investigation if they are really entitled to have it.
@shaieen (257)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Yes, I would really appreciate if Divorce will be implemented in our beloved country. I was a living-testimony of how it looks like when fathers just ran away from their responsibilities and my mother being committed to the marriage is left behind carrying the burden. I just want her to be happy, that's why divorce would definitely set her free. And nowadays, no one's perfect, even Christianity-committed people could betray marriage. So I think to make a lot more people happier, this is one way to do it although it's not allowed in the Bible rules I think.
