How do I get a girlfriend?
By abhi_destar
@abhi_destar (764)
India
December 21, 2012 6:20am CST
There now, I've gone ahead and made the confession to all you good people. That's the one thing I need in life. I waited through my entire college life, thinking that finally someone will come my way if I'm ready to wait for that "right person" to come into my life, only to see myself being the "forever alone" guy all along. There was this one girl whom I loved, but as she wasn't in my stream, I couldn't get the opportunity or even the right opening words to speak with her. When I finally got both in my last year when I was selected in the same company as hers, it was only to know that she already has had a boyfriend from the first year itself!!! It's now three years that I have graduated, I have a good job, and quite a lot of pastimes, but still sometimes I feel a bit of emptiness within. Don't think that a girlfriend to me is only someone to kill the time, and nothing much more serious than that. I always dream of a relationship growing from friendship and flowering into true love. But somehow, I'm not much of a good speaker, and girls tend to keep me in the friendzone only, even if it's best friends, but not much more than that.. So anyone here has any tips, on how to improve my chances?
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5 responses
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
21 Dec 12
I believe it's all about your interest... If there's something, or a hobby or interest, you feel passionate about & k ow a lot about, go out & find a meeting or social club for it... I took an Argentine tango class when I was a kid... When I became single, I looked up on Internet & looked for dance classes & little "dance clubs" stuff where I could go out once a week or month... Nice thing about those classes & groups is that people who show up already have same interests as you do... You'll find a lot to talk about without problem because its your hobby & interest to begin with so you won't run outta things to talk about...
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
7 Jan 13
That's a nice thought, I must say.. I have already joined guitar class, but somehow, fate always plays spoilsport with me. It's only a lot of guys who come to learn here, and only a handful of girls, who are still in school!! Have to find some other social circle, I think!!!
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
21 Dec 12
Not if I don't want to rot in jail for the rest of my life under a case of female harassment!!!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
21 Dec 12
I think the best way for both is to be friends first, that takes like 50% of failure away because we know the other so well that it might be a good relationship, although it's normal to not work out at least we didn't go blindly and jumped into something we didn't know. In last case, when you are a little lonely internet could be a nice way to find her.
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
21 Dec 12
This is the way which I myself also follow, but apparently people of both sexes are nowadays running out of time, which is why they are now committing themselves first, and getting to know each other later. And old school thinkers like me are never getting out of the notorious friendzone. Hell, after a while, the girls get so "best friend"ly with me, that they even start talking about what they did with their boyfriends the whole day, or their opinions about their special ones and whether I agree with them or not. And what can I do? Being inherently a good guy, I try to show interest in the conversation and bring my opinions also, however false they may be. And don't even start about the internet. I tried a lot in Facebook, but I simply can't get my words rolling with an unfamiliar person whom I've never met. Some tips will be much appreciated.
@Pen_Pal777 (245)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
you are not a good speaker? then maybe you can let flowers do the talking for you, or chocolates, maybe you can send a lady a card or something. if a deaf mute or a blind can find a partner in life how much for you that you are complete? use your other assets.just about anything that would let her know that you are in love with her. and you must also look good and presentable all the time. find someone who is not in a relationship, maybe you can lower your standards a little bit of what a good woman should be. always have a happy disposition in life, it will attract people to your side, be friendly. don't go looking for love, love will find it's way to you, and if it happens, grab the opportunity and always be prepared to get hurt.
