Have you ever felt bitterness towards a person or a relationship?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9460)
United States
December 21, 2012 11:19am CST
Being bitter isn't a good thing. We can often times start to feel bitter when a person/s continue to do us wrong. Then though we have to work hard at forgiving. Each situation is different. And so forgiving is different. But for most things it's important that we don't let bitterness get the best of us or we will end up being unhappy.
5 responses
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I agree with you. I do feel bitter about certain people , but then I have learned to just not to think about it coz with the kind of personalities that they have, I can never do anything to change them. So, I just let them be.
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@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
Exactly! And we just need to learn to "go with the flow" sometimes, so that we can all have peace.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Mar 13
Yeah having peace is so important. Sometimes we can take it for granted. We do have to remember that somethings are just best left alone and we can let small things go.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
25 Dec 12
Yeah I agree with you. It is at times best for us to just let them be. When we realize we can't change them and we let it go it does a lot for our own peace of mind. It is hard enough for us to change ourselves let alone try to change another person. That is too exhausting and often it waste a lot of our time trying to do it.
@sriroshan (2584)
• India
21 Dec 12
I can say it is depend upon person to person and from situation also. Some people are very much understandable and even if they find their partner or other person have made mistake does not react back or shows to other. But there are some people who react back fast and pass unwanted remarks that may hurt other.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Dec 12
Yeah we have to be careful about what we think and especially what we say. That can lead to a lot more sadness in our life if we speak thoughtlessly. We don't want to ruin relationships we have with others.
@sriroshan (2584)
• India
22 Dec 12
When we speak without thinking anything it may back fire on us. Hence it is always better to think and study about the situation and then only comment on it.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Dec 12
In most of the situations that I've faced in my life, I've been able to get through the bitterness that I have felt in my life. However, there are a few people that I've had past relationships with in my life in which people did be very wrong and I will admit that I still harbor some bitterness towards those people.
Forgiveness has been something that I've been working on in my life and I believe that is the only reason that there are only two people who have been in my life that I have bitterness toward at this point in time.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
24 Dec 12
I agree with you that working on forgiveness takes time. Especially if we have continued to be hurt by the same person. I hope that I will get better in regard to forgiving different ones who have caused me a lot of pain. Especially family members because we feel that they shouldn't be the ones causing us pain.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Dec 12
Honestly, I do tend to not be a really bitter person. I mean there are a couple of people that I've encountered in my life that I will never again speak to. However there have been other people throughout the course of my life that I've stated it would be too soon if I was ever to see them again, but I've been able to forgive them over the course of time.
Well, those people that I do retain a lot of bitterness towards are two people that have stolen from me and though I can deal with a lot of things in my life, I absolutely cannot deal with someone that has stolen from me.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Dec 12
Yeah I agree with you. Having someone steal from you is a big thing. We should not deal with those who take what is ours. It just isn't kind at all. Especially when we work hard to get the things we have and we let people in our life and then they do those types of things to us.
@roshigo58 (4856)
• Pune, India
29 Mar 13
Hi,
You are right. Some people behave with us so badly that we have the feeling of bitterness for them in our mind. It is very difficult to forgive their mistake. But we should not behave with them badly as they behave with us. Our mind should not overwhelmed by bitterness and we should not forget that we should be good with everyone.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
29 Mar 13
Yeah it is important that we remind ourselves of these things. It can be very hard to continue to do good to someone when they do not treat us kindly. But we have to do our part and hopefully in the end things will work out good for us.
