how to know that your girl/boy didn`t cheat you?

@adhyz82 (36249)
Indonesia
December 22, 2012 6:16am CST
had ever you know that when you hug her/him, his or her heart with you? do you believe when they say that they said they love you, they hug you, they smile to you and they spend some time in one day?
12 responses
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
it is simple. trust your instinct and feel it. you are the only one who can really tell if someone is cheating on you or not
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
what about if we didn`t trust our instinct too?
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
then you will be free from any suspicions. but, at the same time who may not be able trust yourself either. i have known someone once who said "you can be friend to anyone. but trust no one"
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 12
really? how about if one side is trust people...she or he welcome her or his lover monitor her or his activities every minute and every minutes..
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
No, we can't. We just have to trust each other. When we can't do that already, then it means it's over, cheated or not cheated...
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
that`s too bad... unfortunatelly, when we have forced our energy and time for him or her, she or he still cheat us.. it`s terrible
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
22 Dec 12
Once you start to suspect anyone, there is no way getting out of there. Hence I am never going to suspect anyone anywhere, why only the one I love?
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
because maybe we are more hurt when our beloved one cheat us
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
23 Dec 12
we should have trust and faith in our relationship - we should have trust and faith in our relationship with no questions asked
I am not sure if I want to know. It will be the cruelest feeling when you know the person you love the most is no longer feeling the same like you. But when it happens it usually is like what a volcano will erupt - it will give ample warnings of rumblings and clouds of ashes before it really comes out in the open. Maybe that is not too bad after all if we look back after sometime. If a relationship does not work, it is better that we go our separate ways. If the relationship is an everlasting one, then we should have trust and faith in it with no questions asked.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
wow..i can imagine if the volcano erupt.. is it similar with your feeling when you know that your lover have another man? so when the relationship isn`t smooth, the first choice is always separate ways?
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
of course..it`s like the end of the world maybe because we are not ready when they left us.. right?
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
26 Dec 12
When a lover has no more feeling for him/her, ther - When a lover has no more feeling for him/her, there is nothing anyone can do.
Every person who has been in love deeply will feel that it is the end of the world when his/her lover has changed his/her feeling for him/her. I am lucky that I have not had such experience but I can imagine. No, the first choice for a not-so-smooth relationship is not to separate. It is to find out what is wrong. It is to find out what can be done so that the relationship can be in more harmony. But when a lover has no more feeling for him/her, there is nothing anyone can do.
@GajaGamini (1065)
• India
22 Dec 12
Trust is key of luck. if you cannot trust or you are always suspecious about your partner then it will never work. love is strong as well as fragile. love can make us strong as well as weak.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
yes of course.. what is your situation if you began to distrust your lover?
• India
23 Dec 12
first of all sorry . its not luck it is love. feeling unsecure is normal in relationship becauae we fear to loose our partner and share our love. if I began to untrust my partner then there would reason behind it or there would some incidents that make us think about our partners honesty and reliability. i would think first about the situation and i would check, Am I getting it in a wrong way or missunderstanding. Some there is possibility of cheating that time we should ask him or her about it first. we can ask our mutual friends as well about our partner.
• India
23 Dec 12
another thing I would like to point out is whether he or she does small, small things to make you happy? does he involve with family? these are the things which can tell us that he is serious. the only thing to check his or her loyaluty is sting operation...... lol.
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 12
I think you can tell when someone is cheating. Often there is a shift in feelings... For someone to cheat, something is probably "off" in the relationship and I think you can feel that.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 12
maybe,. what about if more than 6 months or 1 year, you didn`t feel that he or she had affair with someone else.. what`s wrong with your feeling?
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 12
i do hope the good communication is the good solution for stopping the worry feeling..right?
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 12
If you don't feel there has been an affair then maybe there hasn't been. If you do feel, then I guess you either have a legitimate reason to be suspicious or you're insecure. Either way, communication is key. The best thing to do is to have a calm, well thought out, respectful conversation with her. If you two can't be honest and communicate, that is a problem regardless of is she cheated or not.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 12
Just need the trust. We will not know how someone's feelings, will not know, if someone is cheating or not. All just a belief. Do not be too in love with someone, because it will make you hurt. If you love someone, you should be prepared for heartbreak. Pure love, and never cheat, is the love of God to us.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 12
i see sista..thanks for the input again.. have a nice day
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
hi, i could say that i am not very sure on this,now a days both of them could cheat their partner,in my experienced we can not see if they cheating us,they will keep it a secret,even my ex-partner says he loved me or even he hug me he still did it.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
23 Dec 12
based on their actions. if he/she said that he/she loves you and miss you so much but they send msg 1 time a weak or sometime they have time for you but sometime they don't have time for you for long...something is strange...then we should doubt about it..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
maybe ryanong.. i do hope my effort isn`t useless how are you today? is it crowd in seoul in x-mas night?
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
22 Dec 12
You will know, or else your in denial. I knew when my ex was lying, and he denied everything. If you have that deep down feeling something is wrong with the relationship then it most likely is.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 12
so do you leave her? or do you still fight for getting her heart back to you?
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
wow..it`s cruel my friend..
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
24 Dec 12
I threw him to the curb before, he could spill out more lies.
• Indonesia
27 Dec 12
Women heart is as deep as the ocean but men's belief is more than the universe. Love is a matter of belief. If you belief that you love some one than you love someone. If you belief that you can be with her than you can be with her. If you belief that she is yours than she will give all of her heart for you. You simply can decide your belief in your love. It's sound simple but complicated. Marriage people always have to maintain their belief in love with their partner. If they don't so the marriage will end
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 12
really?? so what is the method for take woman heart?
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Trust your gut feeling, your instincts. Listen to what he is not saying. Does he talk about a future with you? That is one way to tell if the other person is committed to you. Is there a future for the two of you? Does he do things for you when he is away from you? Such as order flowers and have them send to you. Does he phone, text, or email you? Does he think of you when you are apart from each other? It is not in the words, but in the little things that you can tell if he really is there for you.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
@zoey : sometimes we are doubt for trusting our feeling..if it happen, what will do?? @ryanong : that`s good if this discussion is important too for you..so what is your simplest method to understand that man in front of you are serious to you? by his attention to you or?
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
23 Dec 12
yeah,i have the same thinking as yours... well, i will take a note and see a guy is serious with me or not... thank you so much for your sharing...