How do you know you're officially together?
By Nursefrai06
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
Penrith, Australia
December 22, 2012 6:42am CST
What is the difference between seeing each other and going out? How do you know you are officially boyfriend girlfriend if you've been seeing each other for a few months and you know you're really good together? Some say it's when they one of the involved parties slip "I love you" or in Europe, they're together once they kiss each other.
How did you become official with your loved one? How do you know youre really together now?
Please don't say Facebook. :)
5 responses
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
18 Mar 13
You would only know if the two of you talk about it. It is not good to stay together but there is a cloud hanging over your head. You should talk about him or her about the status of your relationship. Do not settle for the mutual understanding effect if you really want to be 100% sure about it.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
20 Mar 13
I am actually afraid of knowing what we have because what if to him, we really are nothing asking him what we really have might be me my ticket to losing him, but I'm not sure, do you think i am making sense? 
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
but you have to know the real score as soon as possible. It is better to lose him this early than letting yourself go deeper into a relationship which you cannot even tell exist...
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
20 Mar 13
Thats true, i guess I'd get more hurt that way too. I'm still sad about it. I think the worst feeling in the world is i be lead on too. You're right. I hope it goes well ... I know deep inside that thats the right thing to do but i dont think I'm ready for it yet. 
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
The only way is for both of you to talk about it and officially say to each other that you are together, and a couple. I have never been out with anyone and do things couples do if i am not officially going out with the person, and if he is not my boyfriend, i would not be spending a lot of time with him.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
26 Dec 12
I admire the fact that you respect yourself a lot that you don't allow yourself to be treated less than what you are worth. I wish more people were like you and they are very definitive of what they want out of their lives. I also like that when you eneter into relationships, you're definitely decided, and you're not in there to play around. Good for you. :)
@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
23 Dec 12
By asking the one you like if that person wants to be your girlfriend/boyfriend. If it's a NO you are not officially together.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
26 Dec 12
Its sad though if they do say "no". Especially if you've been doing all the girlfriend boyfriend stuff already. If that happens, and they do say no, do you think you can still continue the boyfriend girlfriend stuff you did before you asked them what your status was?
@nitinnair89 (2899)
• India
22 Dec 12
Interesting topic indeed. Well, my thoughts on this are like somehow both partners feel it inside when they fall in love with each other. As per me, there's no need to even propose our loved ones. The look in our eyes when we look at them says it all.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
22 Dec 12
Thank you for your reponse. I admire the attraction and compatibility you have with your partner. It is really very rare to be able to fathom each other without speaking and to tickle each other without touching. Do you still celebrate anniversaries or monthsarys though? :)
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I think it's official when the both of you talk about it. You'll never know if the other is also dating exclusively unless you ask the person. It's hard to assume that you're already together when the other is not feeling the same way. But if the both of you talked about it and confessed that you're both dating exclusively and both of you are ready to commit, then you're officially together.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
22 Dec 12
That's true. Although I wish times were simpler and relationships didn't have to be so complicated. It isn't very healthy to assume either because to assume is to make an ASSaboutUandME. Thank you by the way for your response. :)
