Will you feel happy if you are married with unknown person choice of parents
By smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
India
December 22, 2012 7:32am CST
I think in old time mostly the marriages fixed by parents and child are accept their choice no question about it. But now everyone wants to their own choice and love marriage are increasing than arrange marriage. But I think parents inquired whole background of girl/boy or their families before fix the marriage so the marriage runs till long life.
But now parents are not involved and child not check anything when fall in love no background of boyfriend or girlfriend and no parents background so marriage not runs till long days. Breaks in less time. Do you feel happy if your partner is choose by your family or you want to choose own. In the picture left side couple is arranged marriage couple and right side couple is love marriage couple
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6 responses
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
22 Dec 12
I think we are almost the same . Like you said, most marriages are fixed my parents many years ago, I know my parents were like that, they were married forty years ago, fixed by my grandparents, and they were happy and they are happy even now. Though they were fixed by paretns, they love each other. I chose my partner myself, I have been married for twelve years, and we are happy, with a 7 year-old daughter.
I feel many people nowadays have no responsibility for the family, so many divorces , I don't know why, is it because they are not marriages by parents?
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
22 Dec 12
Sorry, I forget to type a word.
...not marriages fixed by parents?
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Dec 12
Wow!!! nice and thanks to agree with my point. Really our parents search the partner for us in well manner after inquiry all. So less chance of separation. You are from which city in India.
@robspeakman (1700)
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22 Dec 12
It is the 21 century, why has arranged marriage not been outlawed on a world wide scale as a violation of human rights
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Dec 12
Hmmm because of 21st century everyone doing marriage with their own choice and then breaks also from their own choice. Like if you are not then other men if not other men then again other men. Means choice is no end and not spend the life with a single wife or husband. In love marriage also parents concern is important.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Here in our country, arrange marriage is not observed my dear sis.
We have the freedom to choose who we want to love and get married with.
Yes, we still need our parents consent, but some youngsters nowadays don't involve their parents anymore.
It's really sad when young people fall in love, have a relationship and even jump into marriages without even asking their parents' advice.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Dec 12
But sis even if the person is doing love marriage then they should take the permission of parents so they will safe if something wrong will happen. They should brave if they are doing love then to tell their parents dont hide form them.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
hi,
of course not,i will never be happy in my whole life if i will marry by someone who choose by my parents,even though we can learn how to accept and love that person,still we will find the person who really we love,this kind of situation usually happen to rich people.
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I want to choose my own partner in life but I will still ask my parents what they think of my partner. Their opinion is important to me but I will not marry someone I do not know. My parents were married in the olden days and they were not fixed by my grandparents and they have fallen in love and still in love up to now. But the fixed marriage is still happening on other parts of our country because they are following their tradition. I'm happy that we do not have those kinds of tradition in our family for I will freak out if I wake up one morning and they're going to tell me that they found someone I can be with for the rest of my life.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Dec 12
This is good idea choose by own but at least take the permission or suggestion of parents and parents should also consider of your choice if they have some problem about your choice then they should do the inquiry about person. Fall in love is no problem but at least we should care of our community or parents. Because now mostly boys tell lie before marriage then after marriage we search some wrong thing and we leave the partner.
@bikramkumarp (15)
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22 Dec 12
What comes surprisingly always give much peace and happy to the mind. Marriages are made in heaven who we are to choose in the earth. When i was to the earth God send someone for me as a life partner. It does not matter whether i got in love marriage and arrange marriage. Marriage is a social institution and we give respect to it. whether it is a love marriage or arrange marriage one should get the perfect match for the rest of life. By getting this he could share the best and worst situation of life with peace with her. She should be the destination of life not a burden to the life.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Dec 12
Hmmmm now marriages not made in heaven because anyone can run with anyone. Means a intelligent girl run with a sweeper and then she find after marriage he is a sweeper then leave him. Some years ago marriages fixed in heaven because respect of parents and care of their choice so less divorce cases.
