Are you ready to have a baby,Newly married wife?

China
December 23, 2012 7:11am CST
I've been married for more than 3 months,my mother-in-law often asks my husband whether we are ready to have a baby.Apparently she is expecting to see her grandchild.But my husband and I haven't took it into consideration.And we really don't want to let my mother-in-law down.It really confused me a lot.Yesterday night,I had a terrible dream,I dreamt that I was pregnant and was about to give birth to a baby,my stomach ached terriblly,I cried for the pain,and my husband was woke up by the noise I made,he asked me what happend,I told him the nightmare.Now I am so afraid of pregant and being a mother,how can I handle this?
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• China
23 Dec 12
Though I am unmarried now,I can understand why you still don't want to be pregnant soon.Now more and more couples would like to enjoy their own life instead of having a baby soon,which seems to fall into a fixed routine and the time would be used to take care of the kids only.Some even wants to join DINK.Take it easy,if you already made the decision,do not be guilty about it or you would be too tired.Just be relaxed and try to communicate with your mom,you all will make your own plan and don't worry about you too much as you are adults. But think about that when you will plan to have a baby,it is a period you need to go through sooner or later,right?When you have enough energy and money ,just do it.Aroud 25-29 years,it would be a good time for a woman to be pregnant.Good luck.
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• China
23 Dec 12
Thanks for your wonderful words,your English is great,would you please tell me how you can be so perfect?
• China
24 Dec 12
You are flattering me,lol.Practise makes perfect.lol
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
30 Dec 12
You have been married for three months so you are still in the early months of your marriage. It is a time for you and your husband to be together. There is no need for you to get pregnant just yet. I think it is best to have one to two years of marriage before planning a pregnancy. Many pregnancies are a surprise so that means the timing could be a lot sooner than that. It was a shame you had that horrible nightmare. Pain relief is available for a lady in labor. Pregnancy is a happy time and it feels special. Having a sweet little baby born is wonderful. You can use birth control for now and not have a baby until you feel ready for this emotionally. Your mother-in-law will have to wait by the sounds of it. Good luck.
• China
30 Dec 12
Thank you,we planed to have a baby next year.I think this kind of feeling will disappear as I am growing mature.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 13
That is great then. Well done.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
2 Jan 13
I am engage getting married soon and both me and my fiance not planning to have any baby until at least the next 4 years because we both want to live while we are young and have things we want before expanding our family . Dont let yourself down , if you are not ready dont let your mother in law pressure you . You and your husband should start your own family when you are both ready .
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
30 Dec 12
Ohhh God really your mother in law is hurry for their grand daughter or son but friend this is depend upon God even if we are trying but without God wish we cant born the child. If you become pregnant naturally then no problem but if you want to wait then take the consideration of your husband. At least 6 month or 1 year can be wait.
• China
30 Dec 12
Yeah,we will here waiting for the child god gives.Thank you.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Dec 12
It's no scare at all. The only way to get over your fears is to go throw it. Not saying that you have to right now but one day you might have to face your fears so take it by the horns. A dream is a dream nothing more or less. I had all kind of crazy dreams before, after and during both of my pregnancy. I wasn't ready for either of my babies and they where surprise that we treasure so very much. I wasn't expecting to have 2 kinds with in 18 months of each other but that is how it happened and we weren't even try to get pregnant with either of my kids but some how I did. They are the best things that have ever happened to me. One day you will see that when you become a mother. Last year one of my dreams was of me being pregnant and I didn't look pregnant giving birth to a very healthy baby in a crazy looking hospital and this was a like a month before i found out I was even pregnant. I always worry about getting pregnant.
@ShyBear88 (59308)
• Sterling, Virginia
30 Dec 12
Once you a hold your own baby all those fears will go out the window. Don't let it stop you from doing what you want to do and being a parent. I've been throw hell but it was worth seeing and having my little ones.
• China
30 Dec 12
Thank you for your words.I will get rid of my fear gradually,and to be a mother is really the happiest thing in the world.I really wish you a happy life.
• China
25 Dec 12
I am not married yet, but i know that many newly married wife are planning to have a baby recently. It is definitely true that people will be happier if they have a baby around them.
• China
30 Dec 12
Yeah,that is true,a baby will surely brings happiness to every family.But I am still afraid giving birth to a baby,I was told it is so painful.I'm fear of any pain.