Is your life really that hard that you'd have to harm yourselves?
By unconscious
@unconscious (32)
United States
December 24, 2012 3:25pm CST
I don't mean to disrespect or insult anyone who actually does, but I mean, look at the people that are struggling to live in this world. There are kids who are starving, lacking education, fighting diseases, homeless, and also parent-less. So why are people who are self harming doing so? Unless your life is more miserable than theirs, I don't see a reason why. They're going through all of that, and still doing the best of their abilities to live, so why can't you guys? Is your guys' life that horrible compared to theirs? This is just my opinion on this subject, please don't take any of it offensively.
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7 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Dec 12
Some people can handle things others cannot handle. I feel like I can handle a lot because I have gone through miscarriages and being homeless in my life. I feel like if I can get through those things I can get through anything.
My husband has been through the same exact things as me though and just recently is talking about ending his life because we are going through some really bad financial times right now. He cannot find a job due to being injured so he feels like he is failing his wife and children by not providing for us.
So, things are different for everyone and they are handled differently...I feel strong and I know we will get through this hard time. My husband wants to end his life over it. Not everyone can handle all situations.
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@ashishyash (40)
• India
25 Dec 12
I dont think that life can be that much miserable that you can think of ending it. Some people got nothing in life not even all the organs of body but they got the motivation and hope to make life full of happiness..Life is full of ups and down but we should be thankful to god what he has given to us as happiness and sorrow are two sides of life. God gives us sadness to realise the importance of happiness. So welcome what god gives to us and your life would be good at some point of time...Believe in god..Good luck
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@unconscious (32)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I'm not a person of religion, but I admire you for your beliefs. People should be continuously building themselves every day to be stronger in every way possible. Losing one person on this planet just make us that much weaker.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
We all have different things and heart aches and pains to go through and each of us is equipped differently as well to be able to cope to these different stresses as well. I am in no position to bash those who chose the other easy way, that is their life after all.. but it is also not only theirs to take. I think though that people should still consider and hold on to this life. we are humans after all, we conquered the world and yet with a single heart break we get from an undeserving person we throw our lives away.. it could be brought about too by the environment we know... sometimes its with the kind of people we are with that ultimately defines what we are made of, after all...
i think though that these people who harm themselves or others, to be noticed, to get others to know they are suffering are just cowards, needing the attention and so on.. they only want to be pitied... and they will be pitied for a time, but mocked the next. its not worth it... so i hope as you have said, they should rise and live their life, work their way out of what hole they are in.. we all have our choices.
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@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
24 Dec 12
Sometimes life can be so unbearable that you just don't want to live any more. It happens to a lot of people including myself a couple of times. I've lived in a shelter and had to give up everything I owned and it's very expensive to start all over again. It's happened to me twice in my life. I take medication now and can deal with just about anything life throws my way. You have a right to voice your opinion and shouldn't have to apologize for it.
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@unconscious (32)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I can understand if a person has gone through several devastating times in their lives for them to think of such a way, but I mean, nowadays, people are self-harming over the littlest things possible. You know? It just doesn't make sense to me. They know they shouldn't, they know it wouldn't solve a problem, so why do it at all?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Dec 12
hi unconscious welcome to mylot. Tto you and me maybe their worries seems silly
but in their eyes they take on monstrous proportions.Do noi judge really as you have not walked in their moccasins for a month either.Whats silly to us
may be frightening to others.For some reason the self harming seems to help
them which is pathetic really. 
@unconscious (32)
• United States
27 Dec 12
Their worries don't seem 'silly' to me, it just seems meaningless. I've walked in most of their shoes, and some of them hasn't even walked in mine. Life is unfair, life is difficult, no one ever said it was easy. I'm not judging them, I'm just curious as to why they think harming themselves is the only way out considering the fact that there are kids starving every single day, 365 days a year kids are dying, but each and every one of them are trying or have tried to survive. And our problems revolve around family, relationships, friendships and that sort of matter.
I have struggles too, I have pressures too. Let's put it like this, I have to wake up every morning knowing that there are 3 kids in the family, and I'm the one that has to be successful enough to take care of my parents because honestly, I can't see my two older siblings taking good care of my parents at all. I HAVE to be successful. It's not a choice. And I can't make one wrong move in life no matter whose harming my family because if I was to be gone, who'd take care of my family? That's the kind of struggle I live with. I've had relationship problems too, and my relationship problems were those that lasted a month or two, no. Mine lasted more than half a year to years, and yet here I stand, stronger than ever.
You control your own actions, you know the consequences, it's whether you choose to do it or not. Choose the easy way and you'll never make nothing more than a dime. Choose the hard way you'll make a fortune.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
24 Dec 12
The way I see it, you have a friend or someone you know who did actually harm oneself? If you have one, maybe you should consider giving that person some professional help. Sometimes, we have to act earlier before its too late.
Have a nice day!
@unconscious (32)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I do know many who do self-harm, but I've already talked to them all long ago and have convinced most of them to stop. This is just a question that's always been in my mind for a long time. I do know time is essential to saving a life, but thanks for the advice!
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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24 Dec 12
You may think that the bad things in your life are nothing or that they are overwhelmingly difficult to handle but to someone else they may be the opposite.
Suffering cannot be compared.
