Need a few days please

Thank you Deazil. My husband and I are honored in that dad trusted us to take over the family business when he retired 5 years ago. His father, my husbands grandfather, passed prior to this business being opened. It also has helped that so many of the customers and friends we've made over the years my husband grew up knowing so it's like family. Our personal friends being there for us, that too has been a blessing. The hardest thing for me is that I didn't get to know my father in law the way others knew him. What we got was an opinionated and judgemental person. We only got to see the person that talked ugly behind everyone's backs. Including ours. He always had his nose in everyone else's business and would say, "if it were me", as if only he had the true answers. Many times I would leave work and scream all the way home to release my frustration. There were times I was quite literally sick to my stomach because of the things he said and did. I've kept things from my husband to keep from hurting him. Yes, he had his good side. He could make me laugh with some of the things that came out of his mouth. Yes, he was a hard worker. Yes, if we really needed him, he was there for us. And yes, he would do all he could to help others. I am sharing this because I feel that we missed out knowing him completely. Yes, I'm sure other families are like that. But I hope that seeing this will help in some way for others to truly be able to get to know their loved ones.

It is hard when dealing with a person like that. My mother, who passed away in 2005, was known very differently to her friends as she was to me. Everyone had much respect for my mother. People looked up to her. I had a different relationship with her. But she always helped me. And I miss her now regardless of the things that may have happened between us. Maybe I could have been instrumental in changing our relationship if I had a more even temperament. Or if I had pointed things out to her that she probably already knew but when confronted with them may have been sorry for. But they're gone, my mother, your fil and we're here to deal with our feelings the best way we can. I hope you're right, that someone else will learn and be helped by what you've said. And thank you for the BR! I do appreciate it.

Cutie, yes, the tubes are hard to see but it wasn't that so much as to see his body mishapen from the swelling and wondering, is he even in there any more? See, his blood pressure had been below 50 a few times and that can cause brain damage. We were all waiting for him to wake up and yell at us. He would have pitched a fit, especially knowing how long he'd been there and that he'd missed Christmas. We couldn't wait to listen to his ranting and raving. We had all prepared the doctors for what they would be up against when he woke. But over all, it was not having any answers that was the most difficult. One day he was only complaining about a little chest congestion, the next he was in ICU. Was it the flu? Was it pneumonia? Was it fungal? Why was his blood count normal? Why weren't they getting any answers from the blood tests and cultures? I don't guess we will ever know what happened. Thank you.