free lunch...

@Cutie18f (9551)
Philippines
January 1, 2013 10:51pm CST
Out of the blue, a friend of mine suddenly said that she is inviting me for lunch. So naturally, I cannot say no to this as I noticed she was really very hungry, said she did not have breakfast, so we went to this restaurant. She asked me to order what I want. Of course, if I ordered all that I wanted, she'd be paying big. I only chose a couple of food plus a drink because she was paying and I did not want to saddle her with too much expense. Would you order anything, as in sky is the limit, if someone else is footing the bill? Some people are like this. When they know that the bill is not on them, they would order anything. What are your thoughts on this?
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
2 Jan 13
Hahaha, if one order the real expensive dishes... this maybe his/her last time being invited by this friend. Unless this friend specifically said you can order anything you want as she has won the lottery jackpot! I personally would look through the menu and order a reasonably priced set lunch or set dinner.
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 13
In Chinese especially Malaysian 'ordered to pack the food to be taken home' is called 'ta-pau'... You really make me laugh when I read your comment.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Hi Irene! I do "ta-pau" a lot because I remember the people in the house and my dogs too.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Oh if she says she has millions to spend, then maybe I will order loads of food, some to be taken home. LOL
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@cobalt20 (1318)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
You are lucky of having a free lunch with your friend. She is of the kind and generous friend. If I were on your situation, it will depend your friend's choice of eating lunch. I am still happy if I eat lunch. Cute, I hope your stomach is good when eating your lunch there. Happy New Year!
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Yeah, it was very nice of her to do that so I should not abuse, right?
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Jan 13
Just like you even I am ask to order up to the limit I want, I will order less. I am worried about my friends. Maybe she/he can say that right at the moment because she/he has a lot of cash on hand but after all when she/he found he almost finish his/her budget. They will regrets.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Jan 13
Those people who are concern about our financial trend nowadays knows and willing to help not only their self but also to others specially our family and friends. Right?
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I know how hard money is nowadays, so I was thinking of this also.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
2 Jan 13
That was nice for your friend to invite you to lunch and then offer to pay for your meal. I am always like the way you are, when someone offers to pay for my food even if they tell me to order whatever I want, I always don't want to order something so big and expensive, but I will order small things that are cheap. Because I don't want to take advantage of their offer. Sometimes even the person is like are you sure that is all that you want and they are like you can order more if you like and I'm like no that is okay, I'll just have this. I always like to in return offer to pay for someone's meal when they pay for mine. That's just me though.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I think you are being considerate that way.
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@hereandthere (45671)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
if my friend told me in advance that her birthday is coming up and wants to celebrate it with lunch or dinner with me and it's her treat, yes, i'd order what i like and would share it with her and make sure i can eat it all. even if she said sky's the limit, the bill will not go that far anyway because i'm not a big eater and i'm not into fancy, exotic food. but i do love dessert! i'll make sure i give her a gift and would also shoulder our transpo expense. in your situation, it seems to be unplanned, so i would definitely be considerate.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
It was unplanned so I have to be considerate even if she asked later on if I wanted another serving, I just said no.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I most certainly agree with you Ulan.
@ulan12rc (222)
• Qatar
2 Jan 13
Hi there, You're such a sweetheart, i will do the same unless she's the one who will do the ordering it's out of control but I will not abuse the kindness of my friend in any case, we need to be considerate with others always.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I is good when someone invites you to have free lunch. However, I just order what I can eat and what I like. And I'm grateful for that already. Have a nice day!
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I hope nothing too pricey Ed. LOL
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• United States
2 Jan 13
I would order what I wanted, but I would make sure that I kept it at or below the cost of the host/hostess's meal. That is the general rule--choose something that is at or a bit below the cost of what the person picking up the check chooses for himself or herself.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Oh, so you have to observe his or her order and go with the flow. Yeah, I notice sometimes that the host in going over the menu would usually choose the least expensive dishes.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
If it's my sibling's who are paying, I don't mind ordering a lot! And when i say a lot, i really do eat a lot! But if it's my friends or other people that i don't really have that close relationship, i don't. I usually tell them i'll have whatever they're having.
• India
2 Jan 13
Who ever is paying, is not a concern for me. If I am invited, and also feels more hungry, yes of course I will prefer that extra item. Same time, I will accept the invitation provided I too have some surplus money. After all the host is our friend, and in case, if he/she is unexpectedly running short of the bill amount, as a friend, its my duty to extend the helping hand.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Hmmm....I wouldn't be inviting anyone for lunch if my mother is very little Wealthy. We have to be ready for everything when you make an invitation.
2 Jan 13
For me, I am not a rich person, and I saldom buy others dinner, I'd rather the people I invite not order very expensive food so that cost the most money on my purse.On the other hand,if the dinner on somebody bill, I won't order any expensive food, cause I think money is hard to earn, if the bill is over the limit of the one who invite me, I don't think he or she willing to treat any longer.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
I am on the same plane with you Xiao.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Jan 13
that was very nice of her, I have been invited later to lunch by my brother. We both worked 1 and 1/2 days so we closded today. i really never go and eat out much here. I cant wait. let me tell you, Im going to eat and eat some more. I hope you are full now. Glad you didnt eat to expensive there, I sure am....
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
It's different with a member of the family. We can order anything we want because we know them fully.
• China
2 Jan 13
I will just what i need even if others will pay the bill, i don't like waste money and food. I think wasting is shame.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Oh no, we don't order anything that we cannot finish. That's a real waste an a shame to the person who paid the bill.
• China
2 Jan 13
I will not.If I am invited to the free dinner,I would not order too much or just let my friend to order for me.But usually we always go dutch.It is a good way to have dinner together. I really dislike some people who order at radom since it is not paid by her/him.I regard it impolite actually.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Point taken, Sunshine. We just have to stick to the basics when ordering.
@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I wouldn't do that. I'm not saying that you'll refuse it, it's blessing, so we should accept it but with limits of course. For me, that's being rude and being glutton knowing that you're not the one who'll be paying the bill then ordering like there is no tomorrow. Have a nice day and happy mylotting! :)
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 13
I actually order considerably less if someone else is footing the bill, especially if it's a friend, to me that would be like taking advantage of their generosity if I ordered over the top, it would be different however if the company or business I was working for was footing the bill then I would order whatever I liked, regardless of the cost, but if it's a friend then I would keep it cheap.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 13
hi Cutie I have found its nicest to take a cue from your friend and order about the same price as she does only what you want to eat so it will not be a costly affair.After all friends should treat one other as friends and not take advantage.its easy to do and leaves you feeling happy and not feeling like you pushed things.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
2 Jan 13
I think people should order what they want - as long as they intend to eat it and not waste it. If I invite someone to lunch, I want them to enjoy lunch and walk away after satisfied, not hungry, and not worrying about the bill. Why would I (or anybody?) invite someone else to lunch if there was any chance they could not afford to pay for it? In other words, I think it is rotten of anybody to invite someone to lunch with the intention of expecting the other person to order the cheapest or least because they are treating them.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
When a friend would invite me with lunch, i often times just pick what i can eat nothing much..i often feel shy if she pays for it.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
2 Jan 13
Hi Cutie That's good done there. It is good that you thought about your friend even that free food is offer by your friend. Well, you could have go for more food, but next time same friend will think about such free offer twice. So better go wisely. he he Personally even I am that kind of. Even I would not go for more food on such offer.
• India
2 Jan 13
it depend on the man you dealing if he/she is your good friend & if he /she thought about this also for you then you should think about his/her expence. while in other case you need not to think about bill.