Finding REAL friends

Philippines
January 3, 2013 12:17am CST
I pledged to be more sociable this year and find more friends. However, I have been traumatized by a past experience of being betrayed by a very close friend which is probably the reason why I spent the last 6 years not making any close friendships. How do you identify who's real and who's not? Is everyone really out there to take advantage of you?
3 responses
@ashu770 (36)
• India
3 Jan 13
Its said that friendship is the only relation that we make with our wish, but finding a real friend in today's life is very difficult task. If one is betrayed by a friend one gets into trauma and starts avoiding people. When we make friend we start trusting him and reveal our all secrets to him/her, but we should always remember every friend is not real friend. Real friend is hard to find but if once found life becomes very happy. So always be careful in choosing a friend.
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
So I guess it is really not impossible to trust anyone?
@pokumon (644)
• United States
3 Jan 13
It is difficult to make good close friends and to start trusting somebody. I know when I went to community college for one semester I could not make a single friend despite taking a few classes. It was much easier at Caltech, and in a group such as toastmasters international. I feel like I don't have any friends here in Koreatown (I finally moved out of Pasadena in July), which is pretty much true. I do have a few friends in Hollywood though which is not too far away. I am sorry that you got burned so badly by a close friend. Don't rule everybody out though. I am sure there are several people out there worthy of close friendships. You just have to find them.
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Thanks. I am really looking forward to making some friends this year. I have a lot of online friends, but I guess I also need a few friends in the real world.
@AkamaruKei (5204)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 13
That hard when we very honest and very nice with other people. Sometime they take advantage because we honest and nice. I friend with someone, because i'm good guy so he take advantage from me. He see i have some money so he ask and borrowed my money. He say for important things but after that i know that money for his girlfriend. He ask again money from me but i not give him because i know he just using me. Hmm i know they are some good people out there but it's very hard to find it.