how do you cope with childrens quarrels?

It is hard to be the referee when kids quarrel over small things. Sometimes, I would be screaming on top of my lungs and would breakdown. I sometimes do not understand why they would be still doing it despite me telling them numerous times to just be far away from each other to avoid getting into fights.

This is common with kids. I have three kids and I am having trouble with my two sons. They also fight for small things and selecting movies is one of their common misunderstanding. It really annoys me when they keep fighting and doesn't listen to me at all- so sometimes I just ignore them. Ignoring them is even better because they stop easily - but when I try to interfere, they fight more. duh.

My mother used to give my brother and me pillows when we want to start fights with each other. It was a great way for us to get our aggression out, and it worked most of the time because we would pass out after an hour of sumo wrestling or pillow fighting. Other good ways are separating the kids and forcing them both to take a time out.

Hello pom and welcome to myLot You gotta love them. U had 4, two boys and two girl Many a day I wanted to hang them in a closet, put them in the freezer, or be able to whisk them away with the wiggle of my nose. Don't get me wrong I loved my kids but like you their fighting would drive me up the wall. My girls fought more than the boys did. When they were older like in their preteen years I would try to referee the fights and arguments. It took while but I finally learned to walk way from them and let them work it out because they were going to fight no matter what I did. I only made sure they didn't hurt each other. I believe that their fighting and quarreling is part of their lessons for growing up. They learn how to negotiate and how to stand up for themselves. It is hard on the parent but part of growing up. If possible plug your ears and walk away unless it gets out of hand. go treat your self to latte.

What age your kids have? I seldom have these kind of quarrels. We have rules if it comes to watching tv, when to watch, what to watch. If not watching I switch it off. If one is always choosing the other one's it's turn it will be after 1 hour (for example) or next day. And stick to that. If they can not agree, switch the tv off, send them to their room or don't allow them to play with ... at all. Be aware of the fact that a younger child mostly gets what he/she wants! The elderly always have to give in, or up, or share their stuff. I don't see the need of that. Same with friends comming over. There are times to play together but also times they need to play with their friends without dragging a sibling around with them. If a younger kid is always screaming or wants what the others have you better raise that one. Already a 2 year old starts with it. Nothing wrong with a time out elsewhere.

When I was a kid and when I had fights with my siblings or one of my siblings had another fight with my other siblings, my parents would spanked us all with a belt. All of us no matter whose fault it is. From then on , we learned and we don't want to be spanked again so we did not fight anymore. It is kind of effective.

Well, i have one daughter 7yr old 1 3 yr old niece and 2 cousins which is 6 yrs old and 7 yrs old.and you will see them fighting every moment. because they are all Hyper active kids like us because it runs into our genes. and how do i Cope them. I am using my supreme patience to understand them and not to hurt them physically.but i always tell them that whatever they do God knows it and God give it's Karma to them either good or bad.and God only bless good children and not the evil one.and etc etc.about the words of God.keep on reminding them every time. So then at the early age they will know and realize that there is God whom is above us and we must fear and follow .