When love becomes boring

@rhodzptc (1317)
Philippines
January 3, 2013 9:21pm CST
At first your love between each other is like a burning fire. You will find no obstacle or adversities that is hard to endure. You would give up everything for the one you love just to be together. Then when both of are comfortable were there no more odds, fights, jealousy and only happiness this would be the time when your love full happiness become boring. I knew it because I have been there love is beautiful and so magical they say but it has also it's dull moment and suddenly dull will became boring. Bot lovers will find excitement and that were cheating started.
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@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
When you have unconditional to your partner , there could be no boring time . Every second spent would be very meaningful , worthy and beautiful. If love becomes boring then it could never be a real love , it could be for pass time or desirous love.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
opppsss sorry for double posting , some technical problem.
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• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Having a period of getting bored in a relationship is not a reason to cheat. It's just a moment of realizing each other's true value in life. Well, there will surely be many challenges to come, the most important thing there is how you stay strong for each other and stay together whatever obstacles will come.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Love has its twists and turns. I hate jealousy, whether you're the one feeling it or whether the other one is having it. It can be very destructive to the relationship.
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Have you cheated on your man? Love is always tested and it is really important to do the right thing
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
5 Jan 13
That usually happens in relationships, the feeling of novelty fades away but this is normal, every relationship goes through this, and that's when real effort comes in. This is when we are tested and the relationship is tested and it is how we know that the people we are with are really who were supposed to be with, how perfect they are for us and how qualified they are to be the one we would invest the rest of our lives with.
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 13
I'm not sure that what you described is applicable to all relationships. It's certainly not applicable to mine. While there was certainly a "honeymoon phase"as it's often dubbed, we still maintain a passion for one another. In matured love, I think you find as you meander through life together, every experience in life whether it be something academic, work related, art related (I say this as my partner and I are both artists) travel related, friendship related, etc-- as you experience all these things in life, you experience them with your partner so you always have new ways to evolve together, new things to discover and new things to talk about. Contrarily to what you're describing, I love how well my partner and I know each other and how we can just share a look from across the room and know what the other is thinking. It's of immeasurable value to me and I haven't been bored not even for a moment yet!
@farjun (135)
• Israel
4 Jan 13
of course that fase is over at some point.. but thats not when the bordem starts.. its when the real life begins! its when you rais your kids travel and look on for the things you like!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
If there's true love there is no way a love becomes boring. Love or the relationship becomes boring when love started to lose its fire. In order to keep the love burning..it takes two people to love each other faithfully.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
That is true. That is why couples should be really have a good communication between them so that when things aren't getting okay, they can be able to talk and plan on how to make things in a different way to avoid boredom, and the monotony in the relationship.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 Jan 13
Unfortunately love relationships do not stay romantic and always exciting like the movies show. After awhile a relationship will be a part of our life and it will involve all the things that we have to do in our daily life. When we experience hard times then we can do things to make our relationship more enjoyable. It's never a good idea to cheat. Every relationship will have their trials so there shouldn't be a need to trade one set of problems for another.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I have experienced that before, too. On my first 4 relationships, I ended up getting bored and found a new reason to be excited again -- in the company of another guy. However, when I met this one guy, I knew he'd be the one to live with forever. And, now he is my husband. We have been married for almost 6 years now, and we have 2 kids. I haven't felt boredom, so far. In fact, I love him more each day. And, I hope it stays that way for a lifetime. We know that when we get older, perhaps starting at 50's, it'd be more than just the attraction and excitement. The spark will no longer be there. But, it's the friendship and value in companionship, that will make you last forever.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
When you have unconditional to your partner , there could be no boring time . Every second spent would be very meaningful , worthy and beautiful. If love becomes boring then it could never be a real love , it could be for pass time or desirous love.
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
i don't believe "love full of happiness" would become boring. and i have never found a relationship with two parties really in love with each other to be without a degree of "odds" "fights" "jealousy" within themselves. when it becomes boring, then both parties will "find" (maybe what you mean here is "search") for excitement then cheating would start. it is not love in the first place if it goes that way. maybe "lust" or whatever.
• China
4 Jan 13
Getting bored of the relationship is also a period that we need to go through.Relationship lose the excitement and charm it had in the beginning when we have been in love with each other for many years.Especially whenever something goes wrong in a relationship,it is easy for us to get distant from one another.But we should realize that also for a relationship,it has its ups and downs and we have to face the challenges as well.The key to renewing our relationship is to spice up our love and enjoy the time the two of you share with one another.Plan the surprises and be spontaneously romantic again.It proves that with the joint effort,as we get older we can still maintain that flicker of passion in our hearts. Have a nice day.
• United States
4 Jan 13
The description you gave does not apply to all relationships. There are people out there who can have love free of troubles. A lot actually depends on personality types. Psychology and astrology have all confirmed it. Some people like the idea of conquering. That is why, they love the initial stage of courting. When the relationship really comes into existence, they get bored and thus, look for something new to chase. Then there is another group who likes the spice in the relationship. When I say spice I mean a problem they wish to solve. Any relationship that lacks this is boring to them. The last group consists of those who see relationship as a very normal element. No dullness or trouble can change their mind about their love interest.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
4 Jan 13
Hey do you know whenever some new things we buy we always like them the best and gradually the liking get decreased. But I can say if you really love your partner as time goes your love become more stronger, may be fire as in the beginning may come down. Fight, misunderstanding, jealousy are the common factor or I can say some sort of obstacles in love but it is in our hand to keep them or push away or remove and throw them out.
@songst557 (232)
• China
4 Jan 13
If everything is matured,you may bring a new life to this world,who will give you new goal of life,new experience of life,and you will have more common purpose with your lover.